Kids being kids!

chirpchirp

It appears some of the kids in my street have had some falling out with my son, which my son doesn't know about. Apparently they came down this evening and threw their scooter at my car. I'm told by my daughter that they had wanted to come in the house but he already had two friends in (he's 10 and I had popped next door).

Now, I don't know if their is any damage to my car and frankly I'm not bothered if there is. My issue is that I don't want this to happen again. What would you do?

Tiglath

If you know the kids and where they live, pop round and have a quiet word with the parents.

SuzieSue

So, did they throw the scooter at the car because they couldn't go in your house, or were they already angry with your son?

balletshoes

first I'd have a look and see if there was any damage to the car.
Then I'd ask your daughter her version of events, then your son. If theres damage to your car then I think you'd need to talk to the kids who were responsible's parents, to at least let them know that their child has been chucking scooters at vehicles.

I wouldn't get involved with the "falling out" aspect of your son and the other kids at all, and if it turns out theres no damage to your car, I wouldn't approach the other kids or their parents at all. However, I'd be telling both kids who had the scooter next time they're at yours and you are there, that no-one is to be chucking scooters about at your house or in your driveway please, thanks very much.

One thing though - you say your son doesn't know about any falling-out? So the kids were fine with him at your front door, went away happily, and then chucked the scooter about? I don't really understand that bit.

chirpchirp

Balletshoes, i don't understand it either. I have tried to speak to the parents but no one answered the door but I heard the kids should "their here".

If the car is damage, I doubt I will notice as there are so many marks on the car in that area! I just want assurances that it won't happen again, next time it could be the back windscreen or a window of the house.

My son claims not to have seen it but the boys who were in the house are the ones that told me.

chirpchirp

Have just spoken with both my kids, apparently daughter had assumed they had wanted to come in. They had been talking with my son and his two friends and then my son had gone in, son hasn't said anything to imply them getting upset but has said they have been swearing at him on a few occasions when they have gone past and he has no idea why they would do this.

victory

They swore at him?
Do they usually play together?

Could just be a misunderstanding they thought they were going inside with your son and others and got angry/jealous they were not asked in, kids as you say, kids being kids but don't get in the middle, it usually blows over....

Throwing their scooter at your car is something else though, I'm not sure why you are not proper furious,swearing and scooter throwing they do not sound like nice kids:eek:

chirpchirp

victory wrote: »

They swore at him?
Do they usually play together?

Could just be a misunderstanding they thought they were going inside with your son and others and got angry/jealous they were not asked in, kids as you say, kids being kids but don't get in the middle, it usually blows over....

Throwing their scooter at your car is something else though, I'm not sure why you are not proper furious,swearing and scooter throwing they do not sound like nice kids:eek:

I am proper furious and I stormed straight to their house, but no one answered. I just need to check I'm not over reacting. I've put a note through their door and if I hear nothing by tomorrow evening I'm tempted to go up to their school and ask the head to do an assembly. These kids are only in year 4 or 5!

McKneff

Speaking from experience,

The kids will be bosom buddies tomorrow and yu and the parents will be feuding.

Just see what the next couple of days bring.

Tiddlywinks

Sorry but I have a different take on this.

Yes, kids fall out and have spats BUT... kids who take a scooter and throw it at a car deserve to be reported to the police - that is anti-social behaviour.

OP - the fact that you don't see it that way shows just how much society now just accepts bad behaviour without challenging it.

If they are not spoken to about this then what? They get the message that damaging other people's property is acceptable. Good luck living next to them in a few years time...

chirpchirp

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

Sorry but I have a different take on this.

Yes, kids fall out and have spats BUT... kids who take a scooter and throw it at a car deserve to be reported to the police - that is anti-social behaviour.

OP - the fact that you don't see it that way shows just how much society now just accepts bad behaviour without challenging it.

If they are not spoken to about this then what? They get the message that damaging other people's property is acceptable. Good luck living next to them in a few years time...

I'm glad you posted this because I've been surely tempted to report it and thought I was behaving too rash when I began to telephone them. When I said I'm not bothered if there is damage to the car, what I meant is that it is so scratched etc, that I wouldn't know which damaged they had caused.

I want to know that they've been told off and that it won't be occurring again.