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Am I just being stupidly unfair?
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I think this a difficult and highly emotive issue yes it is usual for BMs to bring plus ones. but you and your OH have to feel happy with your guests. We invited most of the people I work bar one who really upset me personally and others with what he said to others and myself. not in the same league and drunk driving and endangering other people lives but we have no regretes about doing what we did and what ever decision you make should be right for you.:kisses3: Married 29th September 2012
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How old is the sister? If she's an adult, it would be rude not to invite her partner, especially that it's not someone she's only just met.From Poland...with love.
They are (they're) sitting on the floor.
Their books are lying on the floor.
The books are sitting just there on the floor.0 -
DevilsAdvocate1 wrote: »Thinking about it, this happens at most weddings, does it not? I remember taking my cousins girlfriend under my wing at a wedding where he was being best man to his brother. I was introduced to the girlfriend at the church and told she knew no one on the table!
No it doesn't! It sound horrible!
I find it unbelievable that you'd separate couples, especially the married ones! :eek:From Poland...with love.
They are (they're) sitting on the floor.
Their books are lying on the floor.
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partialycloudy wrote: »In a cruel twist of fate OH fell out with his best man a few months after the wedding so we still ended up with pictures of people we no longer speak to!
Karma for being mean? :P
Seriously, people, it is normal for adults to bring their partners. Also, who cares if there's someone in the picture who you haven't met before...?From Poland...with love.
They are (they're) sitting on the floor.
Their books are lying on the floor.
The books are sitting just there on the floor.0 -
We didnt have a top table as such, i think that they're a bit old fashioned, we had people sitting together who knew each other, i think its awful someone sitting on a table who doesn't know anyone.0
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PolishBigSpender wrote: »Karma for being mean? :P
Seriously, people, it is normal for adults to bring their partners. Also, who cares if there's someone in the picture who you haven't met before...?
karma for what, we said he could come in the end and reorganised everything for him to come just for them to say they couldn't come a week before the wedding due to distance.....when they had had the invite for a year...0 -
Are you having evening do? If so you could come to a compromise and tell both the sisters that there partners are only invited to the evening due to limited numbers.0
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partialycloudy wrote: »karma for what, we said he could come in the end and reorganised everything for him to come just for them to say they couldn't come a week before the wedding due to distance.....when they had had the invite for a year...
"One reason being we didn't want people in the pictures who we didn't know! Which i know sounds selfish but sometimes you have to be!"
No wonder they didn't come, they certainly didn't feel welcome!From Poland...with love.
They are (they're) sitting on the floor.
Their books are lying on the floor.
The books are sitting just there on the floor.0 -
thelittlestranger wrote: »I have already suggested him coming to the evening too and my OH seems quite keen to see if he can talk to his family into this. I'm hoping we can talk to them before these train tickets are bought. Didn't even know you could get them 5 months in advance!
The furthest you can buy train tickets in advance is 12 weeks (so 3 months) so if it's 5 months away then there's no way he can be buying his tickets yet! Do you think maybe sister is using that as an excuse/way to bring things up to ensure that he gets an invite?0 -
Okay, I'm an old married, so here goes.
None of this will matter to you in 2/5/10 years time, so don't stress about it now!
My husband has 3 younger brothers, the youngest of whom was 19 when we wed. As they live 300 miles away we'd never met the girlfriends of the youngest 2, but they came to the wedding and they were in the photos etc. oddly enough we don't get the album out every day/week or month so the fact that those 2 girls have long since been replaced means nothing whatsoever. They were there on the day and they sat on tables with their partners. It would not have occurred to me to do anything different.
Believe me when I say that the things you're picking at now won't matter in the future. Take the path of least resistance, stay calm and remember that your marriage is what's important, not whether your sister's boyfriend was well known or sat on his own in the corner.Trying to be a man is a waste of a woman0
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