Xmas Spending Arguements

mummyroysof3

im not going to say your children are spoilt. i find it interesting though that on another thread people are suggesting expensive tablet computers for a 3 year old though.

an xbox around £200 is not spoiling them in my opinion..is that each or to share?

Dunroamin

gazza975526570 wrote: »

Why are you pointing your finger at the children? It's the parents that spend the money. We are comfortable, not well off, and probably spend about £200 each. You need to sit down and come to a compromise between you both.

I think that asking for a present costing £200 is either greedy or ignorant of the costs of things.

Since when did parents compromise with young children over the presents that they give them rather than expect them to be grateful for what they're bought?

Cherry_Bomb

RoxieW wrote: »

Just to respond to Grumpy for taking the time to respond. We've always been reasonably well off but thanks to my business this year our income has more than doubled. I want to enjoy the fruits of my hard work. I get your point about not respecting possession. There can be an element of that issue sometimes. That said, they are all three excellent kids - top of class and well behaved so I do like to 'spoil' them to some extent. perhaps it will be fine them having less this year. I just love Xmas and always want it to be extra special.

I'm exactly the same. I just love Christmas and absolutely get caught up in all the hype. So what? It's not hurting anyone.

I don't understand people who don't want to spoil their kids and instead use it as some kind of lesson on finances. There's 364 days of the year to teach kids the value of money. 1 day a year really isn't going to ruin them for life.

Don't know the exact details of your OP but from the replies I'm guessing you and your OH are disagreeing on budget. If he's being a tight !!!! for the sake of it then I'd ignore him. If he has a genuine reason to want to restrict spending then he needs to spit it out so you can come to a compromise or at least understand his point of view.

Toto

I spend quite a bit on the kids at christmas. I get them things that they really want and sometimes need. I teach them that in order to be able to have special treats and expensive gifts we need to budget and save all year round. I teach them that we all need to work hard to earn the money for treats, either out at work (hubby and myself) or, in the home, helping with the running of the house (all of us).

So, at christmas time they get things such as computers or consoles, things they really want. They don't get things like this during the year, they don't get toys willy nilly.

To answer the OP. I would try to reach an understanding with hubby about this. Shop around, see what you can get cheap. Remind him that they are well behaved hard working kids who do deserve to learn that hard work does come with rewards. Not a bad life lesson eh.

balletshoes

Grumpygit wrote: »

Do they respect their possessions? maybe that's another reason why he doesn't want to spend that much?


Maybe just try and talk to him about why he is saying that - he should try and make you understand where he is coming from

thats a very good point I think - maybe your husband doesn't want to spend a lot of money because the gifts aren't looked after?

ska_lover

RoxieW wrote: »

The console is for the 10 year old and hubby actually put that in his head until he saw how much they were.

Thank you for those what have given the helpful advice. I'm going to see what I can sell. I'm going to close the thread now because I don't want it to descend into bitter people berating me and my 'spoilt' children. Thanks everyone

I'm not suprised tbh, seems you have only come on here to brag about your recently doubled income, your over splurging at xmas etc and want complete strangers to give you the satisfaction that you need... How about giving your kids what they need, and making a donation to charity?

This is a money saving website you know..

ciderwithrosie_2

Spending at least 150 quid on each child, particularly on a 3 year old, is not being a tight wad - whether you can afford more or not is irrelevant.

ska_lover

In some ways, commercialism is to blame for this. Some parents feel actual GUILT if they haven't spent hundreds on toys and have a mountain of stuff for their children at xmas. Yes the christmas adverts look lovely, but that is what they are designed for, to make us suckers buy in to the ''idea of christmas''. I mean, how many of us are actually religious?

We can have a carol singing, chestnuts roasting round a fire type of christmas (if you are into that kind of thing) without spending fortunes.

Me, I'm not religious, so don't heavily celebrate it, it'd seem a bit contradictory to not believe in god, or go to church, then spend fortunes celebrating the birth of christ.

Cherry_Bomb

ska_lover wrote: »

How about giving your kids what they need

ska_lover wrote: »

making a donation to charity?

This is a money saving website you know..

An oxymoron?

ska_lover

Cherry_Bomb wrote: »

An oxymoron?

Well done!:T