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Anyone Else Dreading Christmas?
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This will be our first Christmas without Mum as well. Not sure what we're going to do yet.0
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This will be our first Christmas without Mum as well. Not sure what we're going to do yet.
The trouble is that special days like christmas, new year, birthdays etc take on such significance... you feel the loss so much more because they are an 'occasion'. That's why I've made the decision to go 'ordinary'.:hello:0 -
I dread it every year. Not the event itself but it always ends in tears. Twins (suspected ASD) get over stimulated by all the build up at school and are nervous wrecks by the end of it... And there are family issues at christmas, my ex's mum always seems to try really hard to be extra horrible to me and tell me how amazing she is when I'm totally over it!
My mum has considerable mental heath issues and Christmas is a major trigger for her. Last year when I was 39 weeks pregnant a few days before Christmas she took an OD and rang me to tell me, because obviously I didn't already have enough going on *sigh*
Needless to say for varying reasons Christmas wasn't really a happy time when I was growing up.
Add on to that the cat and the baby trying to climb the bleddy tree... Everyone. Moaning that I don't put the tree up early enough because of afore mentioned tree climbers and the fact that it blocks my freezer (tiny house!) I think I might cancel it this year.
I am lucky in that I do have my family and I make every effort to make sure my kids enduring Christmas memories don't include anyone vomiting in the kitchen sink!
I do feel quite sad so many of you will be aloneMum of several with a twisted sense of humour and a laundry obsession:o
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This is a sad thread. Christmas always brings up a feeling of anti-climax with me. I work hard to try to make Christmas day perfect for my Dad and my brother (I too lost my MUm a few years ago) and then invariably feel exhausted and deflated at the end of the day. I realise that I have spent so much time pleasing others and all they ahve done is argue and behave selfishly without any regard for my feelings. I wish I could spend it on my own, then I could do what I want and no one would let me down.0
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The church that's local to us arrange for people on their own or with little family to join another family for Christmas Day. Not sure how it works but perhaps there are other schemes people can join?0
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Last year I didn't see my family at Christmas because Mum was in a major sulk with her new son-in-law and refused to see anyone, so we invited my German work colleague to ours instead and had a lovely day, despite the oven packing up halfway through cooking the spuds. This year I will weather stroppy Mum and stroppy teen niece at loggerheads at my sister's for a few hours. On Boxing Day we always take a long-distance elderly friend out to a restaurant - apart from her carers and a kindly neighbour in her street, she sees no-one else all year."Save £12k in 2019" #120 - £100,699.57/£100,0000
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not last christmas but the one before my husband's totally adored (by both of us) grandma passed away on christmas day
last year i was meant to be 37 weeks pregnant but unfortunately had miscarried.
so there was two people missing from that christmas day. it sucked majorly and i never thought i'd say this about any year but it was the worst christmas ever.
we're still struggly to conceive, still have those precious people not with us so this year will be a challenge too.
i can understand the feeling of bleugh why bother, but i'm going to try hard this year as i think it's like anything, if you can happy for your plans you'll be pleased with them, no matter what they are. if you sit and think 'gawd, i've got to cook turkey, do x y z' and don't look forward to it, then it won't be good.
So i've baked a christmas cake and i'm going to throw myself full into making this a great first christmas for my niece
Do what makes you happy, it's a day for indulgence after all x xLittle Lowe born January 2014 at 36+6
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We celebrate Yule as opposed to Christmas; but we still have the enforced Bank Holidays to contend with, when Mr LW will be kicking around at home because the office is closed. I've been retired from work on medical grounds for many years, so it makes little odds to me from that side of it.
Anyways - I have horrible childhood memories of Christmas; it was always a question of how quickly into the day my father would throw a paddywack and hit me, so I prefer to bury Christmas and pretend it's not there.
We're signed up as a host family for a dog-sitting service, and I've told the local agent I'll once again be available to look after dogs during the Christmas period. She's managed to find me a canine guest the last two years, and I hope she will again this year. It gives me something useful to do, and the dog-owners (who are presumably going away to celebrate) know their pooch will have a grand time staying with us.If your dog thinks you're the best, don't seek a second opinion.;)0 -
not last christmas but the one before my husband's totally adored (by both of us) grandma passed away on christmas day
last year i was meant to be 37 weeks pregnant but unfortunately had miscarried.
so there was two people missing from that christmas day. it sucked majorly and i never thought i'd say this about any year but it was the worst christmas ever.
we're still struggly to conceive, still have those precious people not with us so this year will be a challenge too.
i can understand the feeling of bleugh why bother, but i'm going to try hard this year as i think it's like anything, if you can happy for your plans you'll be pleased with them, no matter what they are. if you sit and think 'gawd, i've got to cook turkey, do x y z' and don't look forward to it, then it won't be good.
So i've baked a christmas cake and i'm going to throw myself full into making this a great first christmas for my niece
Do what makes you happy, it's a day for indulgence after all x x
Ahh TL that is really sad, I hope this christmas you get that extra special present that you so badly want, then maybe christmas will have a happier memory for youRaven. :grinheart:grinheart:grinheart0 -
I will be thinking of all the lonely people this Christmas. For various reasons there are members of my family who wont be here so its not going to be the same without them, but there are small children so we will make it special for them, and look forward to the Christmases to come which will be better0
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