Tips to forget ex

Buellguy

absolutebounder wrote: »

Certainly not :mad:. I can think for myself.

Oi, Sod off (22 years in and now out) LOL. I'm not a number (oh, sorry yes I was (regt no) LOL)

go_cat

Write down reasons why you should not be with her/ what you didn't like about her ...she may have irritated you more than you think!!

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

A barrier sh@g often does the trick - it creates a mental separation where 'my girlfriend did...... to me' to 'I had an ex who was a !!!!!, but it's in the past' and 'I've been getting back into this dating thing'.


Think about yourself, not what she's done - cut all contact if at all possible and try and get on with living - do all the things you might have done had she not been around, go places she didn't like, that kind of thing - even grow a beard/shave it off/get a tattoo/anything you feel like.

Alias_Omega

How to forget?

Move on, find someone else.

Many a time i would come home from a night out with a ladies phone number on my arm, and not remember her name.

(This was before mobile phones)

I would often find that going out to "pull", would not end up with it. But going out on a whim, straight from work would do the trick..


Now, i'm an old man.. (32 yrs old)..

LutonGirl

Be kind to yourself. 10 years is a long time and you are in a sort of bereavement right now. Remind yourself of everything that irritated you about her and replay those memories in your head instead of the good ones. Follow the advice about mobile numbers/emails above - no contact is hard, but you'll heal so much faster and be less wound up. I know it's a cliche, but time is a great healer and you will start to feel better soon. Good luck.

meg72

LutonGirl wrote: »

Be kind to yourself. 10 years is a long time and you are in a sort of bereavement right now. Remind yourself of everything that irritated you about her and replay those memories in your head instead of the good ones. Follow the advice about mobile numbers/emails above - no contact is hard, but you'll heal so much faster and be less wound up. I know it's a cliche, but time is a great healer and you will start to feel better soon. Good luck.

Great post, I divorced my ex after 30 years of marriage, 10 years on time has healed and I find I quite like him as a friend.

ramjug

absolutebounder wrote: »

You could try forgiving her. I bet you have lusted after a few off limits females before. One thing you havent said is how she felt about all of this.

when i found out, she apologized for couple of weeks but when my behavior didn't change. she just went into her shell(thinking their is no point as i was quite adamant that i am done). I understand people say changing mobile numbers etc but that's the bit i am struggling with. cant get enough courage to do that (as i know doing that will completely cut it off).

By the way, i am 27 and she was the first and only girl i loved. I don't know if i'll be able to trust anyone in future.

I would have forgiven her, but i asked her to tell me the truth. she told me her story but after a month i found that there were more lies and that's when i couldn't take any more. Lie is something i cant take, i dont trust people that often and the reason is: with trust come expectation and that's where people let you down.

getzls

You will never forget her, part of your life but you will move on.

When i split with my 1st wife i didn't cross the front door for a year.

Then met a wonderful girl.:D

directdebiter

absolutebounder wrote: »

Sh@g her sister

Ha Ha. :rotfl:

Or hate her. That makes it easier than wanting her back.

simple_but_sweet

just try to remember what life was like before her. spend time with family & friends and soon enough you'll start thinking of her less & less. Then one day you'll wake up and realise you're better off without her!

p.s will def agree with the other posters - don't do the whole drunken text thing, you'll feel so much better!