Tips to forget ex

ramjug

Recently found out my partner/gf of 10 years was cheating on me, but i just cant forget her. Everytime i see her, it makes my blood boil. If i dont hear from her, i keep on looking at my phone expecting her msg.

Mixed feeling but how can i get over this.

bossymoo

Hmm. I think time will do it. Until then, find something to distract yourself. Get a new hobby, get out a bit more. Leave your phone at home once in a while.

I find keeping busy is a great help.

Seanymph

I was in an abusive relationship, eventually I got out and I was exactly the same.

I was in counselling, and expressed to her that I should feel nothing but relief, and yet I was MISSING him! I wasn't missing him, but I was. IYSWIM.

She said it was habit.

People had good habits and bad habits - for me he was a bad habit, but it would still take some time to get into new habits.

So, you are in a time of transition, and change is difficult - but you can change bad things for good things, it just takes a while.

fluffnutter

I take it you've split up? Do you have children together? If not, then don't see her and don't contact her. There's no reason to do so - you're not mates.

Time will heal pretty much everything. Ten years is a long time to be together and it will take a long time to get over it unfortunately. Allow yourself time to grieve - I wouldn't be surprised if you felt upset and angry for a year or so. But do yourself a favour and don't see her unless you have to. It will just prolong the agony.

absolutebounder

Sh@g her sister

fluffnutter

Or her mum.

columbiana

When I split with my ex after a few years of living together, I felt exactly the same way, you have my sympathy.

I found that the best thing to do was firstly to change my number, if you dont want to do that your phone may be able to block their calls/texts. This stops you from sitting around moping and checking for a call every 5 minutes, and then feeling rubbish when they haven't tried to contact you. You will feel that you have taken controll, which will make you feel better.

The next thing I did was to think up a list of all of the things I wanted to do, just for me, that I couldn't do while we were together. I took up horse riding, and joined an ice skating class once a week. I planned my weekends so that I would always have good friends around me to cheer me up, and tried to make my own life better.

Try it- you'll find that after a few weeks you'll be so busy you wont have time to think about ther, and will have a whole new crowd of friends to make you feel better about yourself!

Good luck

Buellguy

absolutebounder wrote: »

Sh@g her sister

You a squaddie by any chance LOL

to OP, don't bother with alcohol, costs you a fortune and your head hurts (you may even do the drunken text thing - not good)

snozberry

give it time. Delete her number and/or get a new phone number. Block her email addy and concentrate on yourself. Develop new hobbies and spend quality time with your friends.

absolutebounder

You could try forgiving her. I bet you have lusted after a few off limits females before. One thing you havent said is how she felt about all of this.

absolutebounder

Buellguy wrote: »

You a squaddie by any chance LOL

Certainly not :mad:. I can think for myself.