Gambling addict state of affairs

DebtClearer

wow ILW what an absolute !!!!!. There is a big difference between being cruel to be kind and just stamping on someone when they are down. Nothing you said has had any positive impact, you provided no tangible advice and no useful content to help the OP. He clearly acknowledges his errors and wants to get back on track...

Gambling addiction is a nightmare and it should be taken seriously. Do you pay any interest on gambling debt?

Congratulations on stopping but it will be a long hard slog, I myself turned to gambling after some traumatic events in my life and lost a lot of money. Set yourself blocks to this, don't let it to your head again and you will be ok.

chevalier

Can you self exclude yourself from spread sites like you can regular gambling sites?
Might help with temptation
chev

sharpy2010

I know this is a bit further on in the thread now from ILW's (correct) advice, but let me just say (as a one time gambling addict - I speak from 20 years of experience), that -:

1) If you gamble, you gamble because you want to gamble, not because your pet died or you got a cold or you got dumped. Those are excuses. You gambled because you wanted to gamble, nothing more.

2) If you want to stop gambling, its this easy -: Don't go to the arcade, the casino, the bookies. Just stop. Don't go there. It really is that simple.

I was as addicted as you could get. One day I thought no sod this I've had enough, this is making me skint all the time, and it shouldn't be like this. And that was it.

Within a couple of months you'll notice your financial situation get considerably more favourable. You'll feel happier. You'll be healthier. Your family won't have to worry. You'll be able to pay your debts.

So, in summary, you can either continue gambling, and totally ruin your life, OR you can be an adult rather than a spoilt little child, and stop gambling.

sharpy2010

DebtClearer wrote: »

wow ILW what an absolute !!!!!. Nothing you said has had any positive impact, you provided no tangible advice and no useful content to help the OP.

ILW's advice is correct. Is he/she a gambling addict? I don't know. Are you a gambling addict? I also don't know.

Take it from somone who WAS an addict. ILW is right.

DebtClearer

sharpy2010 wrote: »

ILW's advice is correct. Is he/she a gambling addict? I don't know. Are you a gambling addict? I also don't know.

Take it from somone who WAS an addict. ILW is right.

In your opinion he might be. In my opinion he is short-sighted. Don't presume people just turn to things because they want to, otherwise why would cognitive therapy have been proven to help thoasands of people change their ways from gambling addiction, alcoholism etc. Some people take the first drink or make that first bet quite innocently and it can all be triggered off from outside events.

sharpy2010

DebtClearer wrote: »

Some people take the first drink or make that first bet quite innocently and it can all be triggered off from outside events.

With complete respect to you, anyone who gambles and blames it on something else is making excuses for their actions.

DebtClearer

I see what you are saying, no one forces you to do anything. All I'm saying is that it is complex and sometimes it isn't just as simple as deciding to stop. Addictions are powerful things and unfortunately they can be excacerbated by events in your life for many.

sharpy2010

DebtClearer wrote: »

I see what you are saying, no one forces you to do anything. All I'm saying is that it is complex and sometimes it isn't just as simple as deciding to stop. Addictions are powerful things and unfortunately they can be excacerbated by events in your life for many.

Fair enough. My PERSONAL belief is that if you want to stop doing something, then to do that, you simply don't do it any more.

It worked for me.

Of course, everyone is different, thats what makes up lifes rich tapestry after all!