Gambling addict state of affairs

PintAndAPie

montymud wrote: »

I find it appauling they way this young man is being treated, don't you think if we could all say things like 'stop making excuses and stop gambling' it would be a helluva lot easier for gambling addicts?

No, it's not appalling at all. The first thing you will hear at any kind of addiction counseling is 'stop making excuses, be responsible for your situation, be responsible for getting out of your situation'. Fair play that he's sorting himself out but if you don't make yourself responsible then you are just leaving yourself the excuses you need to fall back into addictive behaviour.

help897

montymud wrote: »

I find it appauling they way this young man is being treated, don't you think if we could all say things like 'stop making excuses and stop gambling' it would be a helluva lot easier for gambling addicts? Whilst I also see gambling as stupidity it is also an addiction so if you have nothing helpful to say then perhaps it would be better off if you posted elsewhere on the forum as you are all more then capable of offering good, helpful and valued advice - just not in this case.

With regards to the OP - You need to find yourself a a Gamblers Anonymous meeting, just search it and you will hopefully find one close to you. As to your current state of finances I am afraid that so long as you continue to gamble they will stay this way.

MONTY - as a new member I can not send you a message - I have to wait 60 mins per message.

I noticed your signature...

As a job I am a personal trainer and I have some fantastic tips for you...

I will send you a message in an hour.

oh wait your signature is 8 months old...

ill message you anyway

thanks for your help

help897

DCFC79 wrote: »

Do your friends/family know whats going on ? Can they not support you through it ?

I would rather admit to a million things as apposed to gambling... I am the rock of my family and they think I am reliable... silly them silly me

Jane4now - I will strike whilst the iron is hot and find me a meeting right now.

thanks

ILW

PintAndAPie wrote: »

No, it's not appalling at all. The first thing you will hear at any kind of addiction counseling is 'stop making excuses, be responsible for your situation, be responsible for getting out of your situation'. Fair play that he's sorting himself out but if you don't make yourself responsible then you are just leaving yourself the excuses you need to fall back into addictive behaviour.

Completely true.

All the "reasons" such as bad potty training, mother ran off etc do not address the problem. Sometimes one just has to be blunt and honest with oneself.

DCFC79

help897 wrote: »

I would rather admit to a million things as apposed to gambling... I am the rock of my family and they think I am reliable... silly them silly me

Your choice, if it were me its what i would do.

Good luck with getting through it.

montymud

PintAndAPie wrote: »

No, it's not appalling at all. The first thing you will hear at any kind of addiction counseling is 'stop making excuses, be responsible for your situation, be responsible for getting out of your situation'. Fair play that he's sorting himself out but if you don't make yourself responsible then you are just leaving yourself the excuses you need to fall back into addictive behaviour.

I agree with what you are saying and you have said it well but the context of the post I replied about was unhelpful. Had it have been worded like this then fair enough, but it was not.

montymud

help897 wrote: »

MONTY - as a new member I can not send you a message - I have to wait 60 mins per message.

I noticed your signature...

As a job I am a personal trainer and I have some fantastic tips for you...

I will send you a message in an hour.

oh wait your signature is 8 months old...

ill message you anyway

thanks for your help

Thank you very much. I have made it down to a size 8 now so Im pleased as punch, the poor dog (Monty) is a bit knackered though!

Mrs_Ryan

Hi OP, I just wanted to chip in and say well done for trying to help yourself. That idiot who thinks that gambling is an excuse and you could just stop needs to grow up or go and play with the traffic.
I have a family member who is a gambling addict and his addiction has pretty much torn the family apart. I know its horrendously difficult and I'm up to my eyeballs in debt myself so I'm probably not the best to give you advice on how to deal with them, however what I can say is well done for facing up to your addiction, admitting you have a problem and taking the first steps in dealing with it.
Best of luck to you

help897

Mrs Ryan

Thanks very much for your message of support.

Monty - I have a message you need to see will send it you in an hour...

or google

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best website ever along with this one

montymud

help897 wrote: »

Monty.

Please go on

( i cant post links as i am a new member but google marks daily apple start here )

I dont know if you are still interested in health and fitness but that website is the bible

Found it - thanks for that, much appreciated :beer: