Trainers stolen at school

msb5262

mrsrwallace wrote: »

Well, the meeting went ahead and it was the culprit and his dad who attended with the Head of Year plus the principal. The child denied it but the witnesses had all given his name and he was asked to seriously consider his response. His dad was miffed at having to attend the school AGAIN about his son's behaviour so he made the son tell the truth. He finally admitted it and said he'd "lost" the trainers. His reason for stealing them? Cos he was "bored" and it seemed fun at the time!?! So the Principal has excluded him from school for this week which will be reviewed next week. His parents have to reimburse me for the cost so I am going to get the money for that at the end of the month.

Well done OP - nice work!

You have addressed the problem really well and everyone - even the bully in the long run - will benefit.

Make sure you let other parents know what has happened and hopefully it will encourage other kids to speak up.

MsB x

tesuhoha

This reminds me of when my son was at school. His entire P.E. kit went missing several times and I had to keep replacing it. He would never admit to being bullied but each time I sent him to lost property it was never there. I don't even know if he actually went. The school treated me as if I was making a fuss about nothing and I now wish I had been firmer with them. It was a boys grammar school and I was a bit intimidated.

When I used to wait for him in the car pupils I didn't know used to mock me and he was always last out but he would never tell me anything. It wasn't just his P.E. kit, it was his pencil case and his scientific calculator and his blazer. I did manage to get the blazer back in the end. When he went on a ski trip I spent a lot of money kitting him out with warm clothing and he came back minus most of it, just a few items of underwear in his case. There was of course no information on how he came to lose it. It was a trivial matter to staff and they always passed the buck. I never got to the bottom of it but I suspect his stuff was just tossed on the roof/in the bin.

Now 12 years later I wish I had acted as you did. So well done for being tough. My son became the class clown, afraid of no teacher and very popular he was in the end but has not done very well in life because he neglected his studies.

claire21

Well done Op, great result !

Yum

mrsrwallace wrote: »

Well, the meeting went ahead and it was the culprit and his dad who attended with the Head of Year plus the principal. The child denied it but the witnesses had all given his name and he was asked to seriously consider his response. His dad was miffed at having to attend the school AGAIN about his son's behaviour so he made the son tell the truth. He finally admitted it and said he'd "lost" the trainers. His reason for stealing them? Cos he was "bored" and it seemed fun at the time!?! So the Principal has excluded him from school for this week which will be reviewed next week. His parents have to reimburse me for the cost so I am going to get the money for that at the end of the month.

great result. Chin up to your son school is tough I wouldnt want to go through that again.

nickj_2

it's about time schools woke up to the fact that if these sort of things ,ie theft , bullying etc had happened outside of school the police would be involved and it would be a criminal matter , just because it happens inside school doesn't mean that it's any less serious

Alias_Omega

Why give you the money at the end of the month?

What are you going to do if the parents do not pay up?

Spendless

Alias_Omega wrote: »

Why give you the money at the end of the month?

What are you going to do if the parents do not pay up?

My guess it's at the end of the month cos that's when parents get paid and they don't have the disposable income to buy them prior to that? I've no idea what action if any could be taken if parents don't pay up. Am pleased culprit confessed and that his Dad could put enough pressure on him to do so, rather than have him insisting he didn't.

mrsrwallace

yes, we're getting the money at the end of the month as the dad gets paid then. I hope he is true to his word and we get the cash to replace the trainers but if we don't then I am going to the police to report it as theft and I will have the school's notes to show I tried to sort it nicely. I think though that the dad will pay up, it did seem that he was aggrieved by his son's behaviour.
It seems to be the chat of the school what with it being the first day back after the meeting and as the wee fella has been excluded for this week he isn't there to intimidate anyone. I hope though that when he comes back he doesn't feel the need to take his rage out on my son or anyone else. I have heard from some other parents that they had small items belonging to their child stolen, not necessarily from the same pupil who took my son's trainers but it shows you that there are a lot of children who feel it is "funny" to steal and it doesn't matter to them that we as parents are left out of pocket.