Trainers stolen at school

mrsrwallace

Hi

My son came home couple of weeks ago with his PE kit that he had used that day. When I go to wash it I always remove the dirty kit then replace the deodorant can and trainers back into the bag to make sure they don't get misplaced. Anyway, that day there were no trainers in the bag. SO I asked him where they were and he was "Oh I must have left them in the changing rooms". So I said well first thing before the bell goes you make sure to get to the changing rooms and get them back (his name is written inside them).

SO that was fine and I forgot about it til last week when again he came home with the kit - minus the trainers. SO i tried to stay cool and asked where they were and he looked all sheepish and said a fella from another class took them!!! Just casually walked up to my son in the changing room and took them! Now a couple of my son's friends saw this. So I told my son to go to school and with the friends tell their form teacher what happened in order to get the trainers back. So it turns out that they didn't tell the teacher and the trainers have never been given back. What can I do as a parent?? I want to go into the school and DEMAND that the boy return the trainers as I have not got the money to replace them (DS is wearing old ones he uses for kickabout at home) BUT my dilemma is this.....

My son and his friends are intimidated by the thief and I fear for their safety on the way to or from school as they occasionally walk. I am scared if I go to the school and this boy is challenged he willl either deny all knowledge OR he will make my son's life hell. What do I do? I would rather lose the money on a pair of trainers than see my son get a kicking BUT I am angry that some wee sh*t can just blatantly take them and get away with it. Who is not to say that in the next few weeks he could take something off someone else seeing as there don't seem to be any repercussions for his behaviour? Any ideas? I am tempted to write to the school and explain my fears but it will have to come out in the open and that leaves my son open to attack.

jen007

I would think this would be a police matter? Does the school have an on campus police officer? (Might be a Scottish thing...)

Previously my son's jacket has went missing, with blatant ironed on name tags on the hood. I saw another child wearing it this last week and had a quiet word with his Mum and asked for the jacket back. She did so and I told her to ask the school to borrow one to get home with.
Granted I get a lot of horrible looks now, but I spent £36 on that jacket to last him from August to June, not August to last week!

mrsrwallace

No police onsite no. They do have CCTV in the school but it is not inside the changing rooms for obvious reasons. I have the word of my son and a few of his mates as witnesses so I think the school and/or police would believe them but if the wee sh*t just denies it and they can't locate the trainers then he gets away with it. He has never worn them to school and I am sure his parents are BOUND to notice a new pair of trainers although for all we know he could have sold them on for something.

Fire_Fox

If nobody reports incidents bullies get away with this sort of thing. Both the school AND the police should be involved, this boy would be very silly to try intimidation or violence once the police have been brought in and there is a case to answer. Given there are witnesses the police may choose to visit the boy's home.

Yum

thats awful. I thought teenage girls were bad!!

Honestly I think you should go to the school and demand something gets done about it. If this boy does it once and gets away with it then he will continue picking on your son, his friends and everyone else until someone does something about it. I understand your son and his friends may feel intimidated. I suggest they stick together and stick up for each other where possible.

Barneysmom

Not only that if you do nothing, you are teaching your son that it is ok to be a victim and let people take your stuff. You have to stand up to bullies.

mrsrwallace

Thanks, exactly. I am annoyed that if I stay silent I am teaching my son that it is better to put up and shut up and take that treatment. I am going to write to the school giving the details and ask that they do an internal investigation and that if they fail to reach a satisfactory conclusion then I shall have to involve the police.

Barneysmom

Good for you, even if you don't get the result you wantm at least he'll see that you aren't a pushover and he needn't be

jen007

mrsrwallace wrote: »

Thanks, exactly. I am annoyed that if I stay silent I am teaching my son that it is better to put up and shut up and take that treatment. I am going to write to the school giving the details and ask that they do an internal investigation and that if they fail to reach a satisfactory conclusion then I shall have to involve the police.

I wouldn't even write a letter, i'd make an appointment to see his head of year and say exactly what you said, then provide a letter to back this up dated with the day of your appointment. You need to act fast on this, don't wait about for them to 'lose' the letter.

bylromarha

I want my kids to stay in primary school...

bestpud

jen007 wrote: »

I wouldn't even write a letter, i'd make an appointment to see his head of year and say exactly what you said, then provide a letter to back this up dated with the day of your appointment. You need to act fast on this, don't wait about for them to 'lose' the letter.

What she said!

Why the heck are you messing about writing a letter?

Go to the school asap and speak to someone and then back it up with a letter - I'm a fan of paper trails but it wouldn't stop me acting first in a situation like this!

This happened over two weeks ago - don't mess about!

Is it actually your son who is afraid, or is it really you not wanting to make a fuss? *Perplexed face*