CSA for 5 kids

kelloggs36

MJMum wrote: »

Oh well, !!!! you then.

I beg your pardon? Isn't that comment more offensive than somebody being described as being absent, when in reality they are if they don't live with the other - absent meaning not with!!!! ? Not many people find it offensive, although some may do, but making such comments like yours is highly likely to offend, so a bit hypocritical I feel. If you find something offensive, then I would think twice before making offensive comments yourself.

kelloggs36

slscarborough wrote: »

It is correct that if your ex is one benefits he only has to pay £5.00 a week - but I thought that was per child. My ex partner although he earns well more than me only has to pay £18.00 a week and he still does not manage to pay that. He now has arrears of over £5000 and i still do not get a penny. the CSA are a waste of time!!

No, it isn't per child, it is a flat fiver payment!! What action have they taken to try and get him to pay? Is he self-employed? If not, then why haven"t they stuck a DEO on?

MJMum

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loopychicken

do you not teach your children that if you have nothing nice to say then dont say anything at all?

an she wasnt she appologised an explained why she said it

and was is deemed necessary to use such language

slscarborough

He has had earnings orders in the past but unfortunately is now self employed. He doesnt respond to their letters and they have to follow procedures that seem to take forever!!

Zara33

loopychicken wrote: »

OMG and they strike again does this little click go around just pulling down posters

she appologised

It's apparent that you have issues with what i say here on MSE, would it not be better to take your issues out in private rather than trash someone els'e thread

Oh btw it's clique not click :j

thesaint

I do not like the term absent parent personally, I am not offended by it though.
My solicitor used to refer to me as the 'Absent' parent, even though my child lived with me most of the week.
Her (solicitor) reason was because as far as 'the authorities' were concerned I was not recognised as anything else because I was not in receipt of any benefits relating to my child. So absent meaning 'Not with' does not actually mean what it implies.

There will never be a term that will suit everyone though, so it's best to take it in the manner intended while politely pointing out any objection you may have.

kelloggs36

I agree - I was just trying to point out that in most cases one parent is absent from the household in which the child 'normally' lives - although there would be differences. Also, non-resident has its difficulties if the child lives part and part with each parent, so non-resident doesn't really apply either!! I just could not believe what I read!

kelloggs36

Zara33 wrote: »

It's apparent that you have issues with what i say here on MSE, would it not be better to take your issues out in private rather than trash someone els'e thread

Oh btw it's clique not click :j

Zara - are you sure that Loopychicken was referring to you? I am a bit confused. MJ mum did not apologise so I thought she was referring to somebody else???

N71

mollycat29 wrote: »

So my view of the CSA is not a good one im afraid, they punish the single parent by leaving them short of money when things go wrong and let the absent parent (absent by choice) get away with years of not paying anything towards their children, we were married for 10 years, and it was his choice to have 5 children too.


Tanya x

The CSA are not leaving the single parents short of money - the absent parent is!!