Nice people thread part 7 - a thread in its prime

BertieUK

I think that we cannot generalise because each of us have different needs. Parking can be a nightmare in some areas that is true and I tend to put extra int the meter to avoid having to keep looking at the time in case I run over. Payment upon departure is the best really.

We are planning putting our house on the market next month and looking for an area that is within walking distance to all amenities that we will be needing in our retirement. Then we can remove the car from the equation.

We can only dream I suppose but all of us really have to plan for the time when we may not feel comfortable driving anymore and the last thing we want is to be miles from anywhere.

Must get back to my Spring cleaning...

silvercar

LydiaJ wrote:

At the independent school where I teach, kids can have extra help sessions for learning difficulties (dyslexia, dyspraxia, poor study skills, English not first language etc) if their parents pay for the sessions. So there's no limit on how many kids can be provided with help, and anyone is offered help if their difficulties are impeding their access to the rest of the curriculum.

At DS's state school, however, the budget for extra help is finite, so help can only be offered to those who are significantly worse than the "normal range" of performance. DS's perception is that he is by far the worst reader in his tutor group (and among the worst in the school), but it turns out that this isn't at all accurate, and that as far as the school are concerned, he's within the normal range and doesn't qualify for any help, although there are other children who do. (He may qualify for spelling help when that happens next term, though.)

The middle option financially is to send to a decent state school and then tutor in every subject where the student needs extra help. In some cases parents are using tutors to secure top grades rather than address weaknesses.

A couple of state schools near here that do really well in the league tables because there is intensive tutoring go on in the background that credits the school in the results league.

lostinrates

Also, iln the independant sector all is not equal. For example, the one that was not near you Lydia, is supported (I think less well) for extra needs within the cost of the fees. I know a primary leading to secondary school that get a lot of referalls for kids with special needs because they are ruddy good at it, but not necessarily in an academic way....but the kids who often get sent their who might not otherwise to private, learn as well as a student with more natural aptitude/educationally motivated parents might do at state, but crucially they learn the social skills they arrived with out. The primary years my neices had had phenominal support. Again, the 'intellectual' expectation might not have been as your school.....they left for a reason, but the foundation it gave them ...and a lot of kids from monied but not easy backgrounds...was second to none i have seen in primary years. Its sort of the opposite parent to a lot of those I expect you see... (I expect you have a notable percentage of parents who are academically motivated to support their chilldren and make choices in their lifestyle to get their kids in your place)

Generali

lostinrates wrote: »

I would include almost all the nice people, but I didn't see pn say it! Only nikkster.

I'm no homophobe but I would prefer a cat to a nice man and I don't even like cats.

lostinrates

Generali wrote: »

I'm no homophobe but I would prefer a cat to a nice man and I don't even like cats.

Cue one of the things I ask dh 'but WHY wouldn't 't you have loved me if I was a man but still me in every other way? '

Generali

lostinrates wrote: »

Cue one of the things I ask dh 'but WHY wouldn't 't you have loved me if I was a man but still me in every other way? '

To which my answer, if you were my long suffering wife, would be a slow shake of the head and a muttered, "Stone me".

lostinrates

Generali wrote: »

To which my answer, if you were my long suffering wife, would be a slow shake of the head and a muttered, "Stone me".

It's a valid question I think.

Generali

lostinrates wrote: »

It's a valid question I think.

I agree. It's also a valid answer.

lostinrates

Generali wrote: »

I agree. It's also a valid answer.

Well......it hasn't really answered the question has it? .

Dh has gone so far as to say I would probably have Still been his best friend but that it would be a complicated relationship if I still kept trying to grab him.

michaels

Aren't we back to that pheremones/smell thing which means that although you can find someone very attractive intellectually, emotionally and even physically to look at there is no sexual attraction?