Weekly Flylady Thread 1st October 2012

xx_Jo_xx

Hi Flyers

God Im Depressed... Have just done a budget planner and have £247 a month MORE going out than Ive got coming in Or at least what I will have come October when I am only on bursary alone :eek:

My outgoings didnt include any treats, new clothes, eating out or anything but the basics! I want to just try not to think about it so it doesnt get me down, but thats not at all practical really...

Im off to set up a Gumtree account... seems to be more popular in this area for selling than Ebay does

WM filled
Meal plan done
Shopping list started... need stuff for packed lunches


Need to do dishes, lunches and sort clothes for tomorrow, so best get on

Goodintentions

Good evening

I have cooked dinner for 4 monsters, and played at being referee for same monsters They have gone home now :j All toys picked up, coffee table & dining table polished, door handles wiped, hall mirror cleaned (had lots of little hand marks!) DW emptied & run on clean cycle. Now restacked DH cooked dinner. Not too bad after a busy day.

I have a question that is totally off topic
Has anyone had any experience of teenagers with depression? I thought I had a stroppy teenager, but I think it goes deeper than that She has been in tears this afternoon (during the bedlam of feeding time at the zoo!) saying that she is sad, and has been for ages? Should I take her to the GP? Am I over reacting?

bonnie_bumpkins

Goodintentions wrote: »

Bonnie we have the auto biography, although I haven't read it If I get time to read, it is normally Nursery World Magazine or a text book! DS really enjoyed it though. MM is a good comedian for kids to see (not too young though!) as he doesn't swear excessively and is not too rude

I agree, mine were 13 & 15 when we saw him, and there was only one minor swear word; kids hear worse at home :cool: The accounts of his scrabble playing with his Hungarian grandmother are hilarious... kerritz anyone??

LameWolf wrote: »

Ah, so you have got your priorities right, then! Good for you - who needs a controlling nit-wit in their life?;)

Oooh that's a good description As is 'immature t*sspot' as suggested by another friend :T

xx_Jo_xx wrote: »

Car failed its MOT on headlight alignment and a missing clip which costs £2! £30.... W@&£)£s :mad:

I feel your pain ((((hugs))))

Dailies done. Time spent with friends. I am happy

*SPECIAL 10 ALERT*

I will be asking for progress reports very shortly - be prepared!!

xx_Jo_xx

Goodintentions wrote: »

Good evening

I have a question that is totally off topic
Has anyone had any experience of teenagers with depression? I thought I had a stroppy teenager, but I think it goes deeper than that She has been in tears this afternoon (during the bedlam of feeding time at the zoo!) saying that she is sad, and has been for ages? Should I take her to the GP? Am I over reacting?

I work in mental health but dont have experience with children or young adults, so hopefully someone more knowledgeable will be along to help out shortly! But I would say that you should take her. Depression is a difficult condition to manage at any age and to be young with little life experience to apply to managing it must be tough. A trip to the GP cant hurt xx

Dustykitten

GI big hugs for you both. Depression in teenagers is quite common I believe, I read about it somewhere. One of mine is quite fragile in some ways. Obviously it can be hormones and a tendency to over react in some of them. I would not go rushing to the GP but try to monitor it over the next week or two ie could AF be due tomorrow - makes me very tearful and prone to a bit of the OE tbh. May be try to arrange something 'nice' to do etc and see if that raises a smile. If things don't improve then suggest the GP. How old is she?

sammiell

Ok here goes this week!

Monday - Living Room, Hall & Stairs
Level One
Clear and hoover floors
Level Two
Dust any dusty bits
Clear and wipe coffee table
Level Three
Wipe door handles and light switches
Clear the hallway
Wipe mirrors
Extras
HHI
Empty all bins

Goodintentions

xx_Jo_xx wrote: »

I work in mental health but dont have experience with children or young adults, so hopefully someone more knowledgeable will be along to help out shortly! But I would say that you should take her. Depression is a difficult condition to manage at any age and to be young with little life experience to apply to managing it must be tough. A trip to the GP cant hurt xx

Dustykitten wrote: »

GI big hugs for you both. Depression in teenagers is quite common I believe, I read about it somewhere. One of mine is quite fragile in some ways. Obviously it can be hormones and a tendency to over react in some of them. I would not go rushing to the GP but try to monitor it over the next week or two ie could AF be due tomorrow - makes me very tearful and prone to a bit of the OE tbh. May be try to arrange something 'nice' to do etc and see if that raises a smile. If things don't improve then suggest the GP. How old is she?

Thanks ladies
She is 17. She said she has felt sad for months We have had a holiday in Florida - you can't get much more of a treat than that! There were times on holiday that she was withdrawn or distracted, but TBH we put it down to 'being a teenager' (and she usually had her iphone on her at those times!) I have asked her if she can pinpoint it to a particular time/event, but she can't. I may watch her more closely this week, and make an appointment sooner rather than later.

funfairprincess

Hi all been trying to post on here for over an hour on the pc but it wasn't playing so I've hijacked the iPad from DS2.
Dinner of homemade soup made and decluttered and washed up, more WM and TD, homework with kiddies done, my bed remade, consent form for pantomime for DD filled out, packed lunch for DD made, DS2 is home lunch tomorrow not that he knows that yet! DS1 can do whatever it is that he does at college ! BiL phoned asked him to pay my book order at his work (OH work too) tomorrow that's 2 more Christmas pressies, I have a tablet on layaway for DD and a drum kit for DS2 at 0% interest and only have a couple of more weeks to pay then I will be up to 4 !!!

I will see you all in the morning off to bed with my book!

funfairprincess

Goodintentions wrote: »

I have a question that is totally off topic
Has anyone had any experience of teenagers with depression? I thought I had a stroppy teenager, but I think it goes deeper than that She has been in tears this afternoon (during the bedlam of feeding time at the zoo!) saying that she is sad, and has been for ages? Should I take her to the GP? Am I over reacting?

not got experience as such but I suffered from depression from about 12/13 years. I would say you know your daughter best if she is out of character and has been for some time I think a visit to your GP might be helpful x HTH x

bonnie_bumpkins

Goodintentions wrote: »

Thanks ladies
She is 17. She said she has felt sad for months We have had a holiday in Florida - you can't get much more of a treat than that! There were times on holiday that she was withdrawn or distracted, but TBH we put it down to 'being a teenager' (and she usually had her iphone on her at those times!) I have asked her if she can pinpoint it to a particular time/event, but she can't. I may watch her more closely this week, and make an appointment sooner rather than later.

If she can say she's been sad for months then I would take her to GP asap; it is difficult to verbalise feelings when clinically depressed so if she open up now then take/help her. I have long history of depression on and off since early teens - hindsight is a wonderful thing - parents didnt understand, in 70s/80s it was taboo... pm me if you need. Much love xx

ETA not being able to pinpoint to a particular time/event is totally normal with depression