is he pulling the wool over my eyes??

balletshoes

he's still smoking weed. You know it, you don't need a drugs test. So if him not smoking weed is the dealbreaker, the deal is off.

busiscoming2

He is making you feel guilty for him rescinding on his agreement to stop.

His drugs are obviously more important to him than his family.

meer53

Doesn't sound as though he is pulling the wool over your eyes. Sounds as if he's lying. I'd get rid.

bargainsneeded

have just opened the savings jar that i only started 2 weeks ago when i did the last carboot of the season i placed in there £75 any way its about £20 short, i knew it would be there is marks on the top of the tin as if a knife or tweasers have been digging about etc. ive asked him about it and the plastic weed bag, the answer is regarding the cash i have set him up i never put all that amount in there in the first place so i could accuse him of taking it out later on, and the weed bag he says is used the other day at fishing to store some rubber bits in. I have asked to order a drugs test off ebay but he says no way he will go to the doctors as he doesnt trust the ebay ones but he cant go yet as he cant get time to do it (i think buying time to get it out of system). Says im too controling and he will get a flat and leave looks like the descision is out of my hands but to be honest it speaks volumes.

bargainsneeded

sorry forgot to add he has made this way he has made me paranoid with the weeds over the years and if i was innocent i would have no issues in doing a test if it put my hubbys mind at rest knowing that actually it was my behaviour over the years that has made them this way.

meer53

bargainsneeded wrote: »

have just opened the savings jar that i only started 2 weeks ago when i did the last carboot of the season i placed in there £75 any way its about £20 short, i knew it would be there is marks on the top of the tin as if a knife or tweasers have been digging about etc. ive asked him about it and the plastic weed bag, the answer is regarding the cash i have set him up i never put all that amount in there in the first place so i could accuse him of taking it out later on, and the weed bag he says is used the other day at fishing to store some rubber bits in. I have asked to order a drugs test off ebay but he says no way he will go to the doctors as he doesnt trust the ebay ones but he cant go yet as he cant get time to do it (i think buying time to get it out of system). Says im too controling and he will get a flat and leave looks like the descision is out of my hands but to be honest it speaks volumes.

If it were me, i'd let him leave. You gave him a chance. he blew it. You need to get on with your life without having to drag him along with you.

Tiglath

I'm so sorry, hun, but well done for tackling this head-on. Now you can start to make practical plans for you and the kid(s) - you deserve better than lying and accusations.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Threatening to leave when caught out stealing from the family to fund drugs?


Sounds like an offer too good to refuse.

thorsoak

You've given him an ultimatum - drugs or family ....and he's chosen drugs

At least you you that your children will not be harmed/tainted by his drug-taking.

{hugs to you} - you're obviously a strong woman and you will manage . x

Fire_Fox

He is lying to you repeatedly, stealing from the household, has broken his promises and is engaging in illegal activity that you would not want your children to emulate. Why do you need drug tests?