OS Daily Tuesday 11th September

Bitsy_Beans

Judi have a hug, must be awful seeing her this way. Do you know when her son visits? Is there anyway you can schedule a visit at the same time and speak to him.

Hilstep ouch! Another fall? Hope you're OK xx

System

Yes, on a Sunday but i guess he can see the things i see and it really isnt my place. The blue lips do concern me though. Auntie said she'd been told she had got to have a pacemaker, the lodger/carer says she hasnt.

I think the last thing they need is someone else wading in and sticking their oar in.

I did say i'd pop round one of the Sundays to see Aunties granchildren (by her one and only son) but although i mean well, it still isnt my place. I did ask if she was still under the hospital but i cant remember if they answered me.

taplady

evening all!

been a long day at work but a very happy one. We took 3 service users to WhitleyCourt(English Heritage) and they all enjoyed it. We've been before but not for a while. The only down side was it was a very chilly wind and my reynauds kicked in!

We're eating the leftover pasta bake that we should have had yesterday for tea - its very tasty:)

Washing dried, ironing done after work and kitchen floor cleaned on my hands and knees - always looks better that way.

Judi - (((hugs))) re auntie x x

Hilstep - sounds nasty - hope its soon mended x x

Bitsy - positive vibes for DH's interviews x x x

thats about it for now

take care all x

flutterbyuk25

Evening all

(((((Judi)))))) can you maybe clean for her anyways, and if she pays you spend the money on her - flowers or something she likes?
Hilstep - ouch, hope you are ok
HH - DO NOT WORK FOR FREE!!!
Bitsy - hope OH finds something soon

My new group started today. 14 out of 15 turned up (and all on time!). The 15th decided it wasn't for her, but hopefully I have another one joining tomorrow. If not will stick with the 14. I absolutely hate the first day - they are all so shy and quiet! And it's really hard to judge how they work cos I don't know them. But we had a good-ish start, some kids really shone. Fingers crossed they do well.

I went for a jog as soon as I got home, but it wasn't very succesful :rotfl:. I went to go my normal route but there was an old lady walking her dog on the path, it's a very narrow path and I didn't want to startle her so I turned and went to do my route backwards. But there were too many people out, it felt wrong running the opposite way, a dog tried to trip me up, and then 10mins before the end I got a phonecall which then reset my running app! But a half-hearted jog is better than nothing I guess.

Just had nice dinner of stuffed cabbage from freezer, with LO mash. I'm absolutely shattered now. I was going to do some college work but think I'll just relax tonight.

OS wise - freezer/LO dinner, dishes put away.

Have a good night all

x

miffy257

Evening all, Bitsy love the photos of Luna and Hollie and good vibes for DH's interview. My DD is trying to find a job and has applied for loads but not even an interview, it is very hard to keep them positive.
Hugs to Hilstep , Judi and anyone else who needs one and Maud of course. Off to stitch club for a knit and a natter,have a good evening all.:)

System

(((((Judi)))))) can you maybe clean for her anyways, and if she pays you spend the money on her - flowers or something she likes?

I'll have to pop round and see her and her son on one of the Sundays when he bring the grandkids to see her and mention she doesnt look well and then play it by ear.

Ive offered to sit with her whilst the lodger goes out, in fact he moans about not being able to go out as Auntie has panic attacks when she is left alone so when i ring to arrange to go see her i tell him he can go and do his own thing for a few hours but i think he likes my company too.

I'm really not keen on taking any money off her (even if i spent it on her).

I'll think about it some more.

monnagran

I don't know if it helps Judi, but I was in a similar position when I thought my mother was in the early stages of Alzheimers and my father didn't seem to realise it, I wrote to her doctor. I emphasised that the letter was very confidential as I didn't want anyone to think I was interfering, but I outlined what was happening and, bless his heart, he immediately sent round what was then a health visitor. She was obviously primed and introduced herself as someone working for the doctor's practice who was going round to all pensioners to see if she could do anything for them.

She very speedily got Mum assessed and social services involved. It might be a way of getting something done.
Failing that if you could get in touch with her son you could suggest that it must be very difficult for him and was there anything you could do to help him. People get a bit touchy if it is suggested that there is something wrong, but if you just offered help to make his life easier you may start getting somewhere.

It's awful when you feel so helpless isn't it?

Hilstep: whatever have you been up to? Do take care.

redruby

Judi,

So sorry to hear about your aunt, I do think you need to 'pop' round one sunday when her son is there, and get your heads together, he might be glad of the help, or get in touch with SS or her GP it really sounds like she needs some help, also the blue lips dont sound good, hugs to you xx

Hilstep, ouch poor you, take it easy xx

topsyturphy

Evening everyone

Struggling to post at the moment, not an awful lot of os going on. Not sure about the new job, after talking to other staff sounds like they are always like that with everyone. I feel like Im a child being told off. Feeling drained with it all, but will bide my time.

Ds1 seems settled at college and has got a few more hours part time work. DS1 seem to settle at school, but has got a detention in the 1st week for behaviour and attitude. He had to stay in friday evening down to his attitiude at home with loss of xbox, tv etc.

Went to The proms on saturday at HYde Park, had a fabulous time nd the weather was lovely. Il divo were fantastic, also saw kylie, alfie boe, the group from Let It be. Even coming home on the tube, people were singing whilst queing to get on, it was just great.

os today a quick tidy round, kitchen cleaned and dinner made. DW loaded and will put on before bed.

Hilstep ((hugs)) hope you are ok now.
Judi ((hugs)) can you not contact social services or GP if you cant contact your Aunties son.
Bitsy - Hope something comes up soon for your dh. It is disheartening when you spend so much time on an application and dont even get a reply. Love the pictures of Luna.
HH - I have to agree with everyone else and dont work extra for no pay.

Hugs to anyone that needs/wants one. Take Care.

Butterfly_Brain

Judi wrote: »

LameWolf ive got a Lucy too.

Well ive come back from visiting my Auntie and ive cried buckets after coming home.

She had a stroke a few months ago and was getting over that and she fell a few weeks ago and broke her hip. She was in hospital for a time and taken to a nursing home to reccuperate for 2 weeks. There is a marked deteriation in her physical and mental state since i saw her just before her fall. The first thing that struck me was her lips, they are blue. The last person i saw with blue lips was my daughter in the final stages of heart failure. Further on in our discussion i noticed she mentioned that she had been to see her Mother on the bus... Her Mother died the day after Aunties husband 13 years ago. Now i would imagine this would be due to the stroke but i've seen several times since she had her stroke and she definately didnt hallucinate then. She definately didnt have blue lips either.

Her lodger usually gives us a little time together on our own which usually gave Auntie a little space to have a whinge about him but he decided to sit in on our conversation this time. He wasnt any cleaner than the last time i saw him but this time he smelt too. I think he is struggling as well as Auntie is. He's got type 2 diabetes but doesnt take tablets and doesnt look after his diet either. He is now having problems with his eyesight.

I'm really at a loss as to what to do or say. I take comfort in knowing Auntie's son sees her every weekend and he seems to be looking after her in his own way but theres little things that concern me. I'm not close to her son and dont know where he lives so i cant contact him. Ive mentioned a few of my concerns to the lodger (who has now become Aunties carer) but i dont think its my place to say anymore.

Ive had two cups of coffee (with milk that had gone off) and i turned down the biscuits (told them i was on a diet).

I am distraught to say the least.

I know one thing, i need to see her more often.

I think that you had better check if they have put her on the Liverpool care plan (How they can call denying food and water to a dying person to speed things up a care plan I really don't know:mad:) This is what happened to my Mother without our knowledge and she went downhill in days