60 year old widow needs some advice to survive

oliveoil99

starrystarry wrote: »

I'm not sure we can say that the daughter should be helping more without knowing both sides of the story. Perhaps she's genuinely not in a position to help. Perhaps there's more to it than we know (there generally is when you only hear a story from one person's perspective).

Yes you have been the first person to pick up on this is not the whole story which is something not for this forum and of a much more serious issue than lack of income and my daughter has no knowledge of it.

Marisco

oliveoil99 wrote: »

Yes you have been the first person to pick up on this is not the whole story which is something not for this forum and of a much more serious issue than lack of income and my daughter has no knowledge of it.

It is totally understandable if you don't want to post the full story here, but I think it's then unfair of you to show negativity to posters who are trying to help, when they don't have the full facts. The answers could have been very different with the whole story. Posters can only go on what they read, they cannot second guess you or mind read.

poet123

oliveoil99 wrote: »

Yes you have been the first person to pick up on this is not the whole story which is something not for this forum and of a much more serious issue than lack of income and my daughter has no knowledge of it.

Whatever the issue is, your daughter is an adult and presumably your next of kin, surely it would be a good thing to put her in the picture?

oliveoil99

poet123 wrote: »

Whatever the issue is, your daughter is an adult and presumably your next of kin, surely it would be a good thing to put her in the picture?

Yes your right cann't go on like this will have to share with her be ready for fireworks will be mad with me for keeping it to myself.

Torry_Quine

SandraScarlett wrote: »

Why are we still referred to as "the United Kingdom" when we are clearly not united! Care home and uni fees are still free in Scotland, I believe, and why should those in Scotland and Wales, get their bus passes earlier than their English counterparts?

I'm glad for the Welsh and Scottish, but it would be nice if the English didn't have to still stump up for these items.

xx

Can't let this pass. Care homes aren't free in Scotland or anywhere near it and people do still have to use up savings and sell homes.:mad:

No drop in centres here either, I'm glad for others but it would be nice if we had the same.

poet123

Yes, we would like free Uni fees, so my son wouldn't be facing £9000 for five years to qualify as a Doctor.

poet123

oliveoil99 wrote: »

Yes your right cann't go on like this will have to share with her be ready for fireworks will be mad with me for keeping it to myself.

Things are rarely as bad as they seem when you keep them to yourself and fret over them. I hope it is not very bad, but whatever it is I expect you will feel better when you have shared it.

SandraScarlett

Torry_Quine wrote: »

Can't let this pass. Care homes aren't free in Scotland or anywhere near it and people do still have to use up savings and sell homes.:mad:

No drop in centres here either, I'm glad for others but it would be nice if we had the same.

Hi, I stand corrected, if that is the case, but I understood nursing care for the elderly was free in Scotland. Has this changed recently? And what do you mean by "no drop in centres here either" - what are these centres?

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SandraScarlett

This is what I just found on the Scottish Government web site. Sorry I haven't provided a linky thing - but I can't do that!

"Free Personal and Nursing Care in Scotland

Personal care is available without charge for everyone in Scotland aged 65 and over who have been assessed by the local authority as needing it.

Free nursing care is available for people of any age".

Where is the charge?

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azzabazza

My mother is about to go into a care home (she has Alzheimer's) in Scotland. Fees will be paid to the care home from my mother's savings. Nursing care is not totally free for the elderly.

My mother requires nursing care but it still has to be paid for.