Screaming Neighbours Yaaar!!!

Riversong

So without giving too much detail. Our neighbours and us had a dispute and it ended up that althouh I was speaking calmly and trying to work on a compromise. They resorted to screaming and yelling and being un co operative. This dispute has since resolved by us being pro active and compromising, while they grumbled and moaned to the others on the street.

Today i was coming home, they were in their garden. I don't speak to them unless they talk to me, if our eyes meet i will smile. but after the row they don't even do that.Infact I said hello and waved once and then just blanked me. So i took that as a hint to leave them be.

So i was getting the boys out of the car and overheard them grumbling about how rude i am.

Do i really have to talk to them? Tbh i would love nothing more than to just go inside and close my door on everyone, not just them. i do an intense job and barely see my boys. so why i have to worry about them is beyond me. They seem to thrive on drama and the more i ignore them the worse they get.

Oh and they even take issue when i come in and close my blinds or curtains right away. I mean seriously? I just want some privacy from the world! It has NOTHING to do with me disliking them at all.

Tell me im not being unresonable here? Tell me im not the only one with dramatic neighbours. **headdesk**

1940sGal

We have a neighbour that is nothing short of mental. She's totally gaga. Hate her guts with a passion. She's abusive, rude, stupid and, as i said, mental (you actually wouldn't believe how mental she is).

It's fair to say we never talk to them and avoid eye contact at all costs.

There's nothing to say you have to talk to them at all. If they want to act like children and say crap about you behind your back, rise above it and let them get on with their sad little existence. Trust me, I'm speaking from 15+ years of living next door to my nightmare.

Oh but it might help to keep a record of everything they say against you so if it gets to the point that you can't stand it anymore, report them either to the council/lanlord/police/housing association (whichever applies).

Riversong

She sounds like a delight! I feel for you!

I think the problem is a lot of people on our road are unemployed lets say. so they spend a lot of time talking etc, i work so many hours i just want to spend time with my family. Maybe they can't understand because she's never worked?

I juat don't have time for the drama and i can't get my head round it!

The diarys a good idea! Im going to keep a dictaphone on me too to record while i unload the car.

Northern_Princess

This is one of many reasons I am so glad our nearest neighbour is a mile away:)

When I visit friends I hear horror stories about neighbours and for the short time I did live on an estate my neighbours drove me mad :eek:

I would continue to say hello, smile or nod even if they don't nod or reply at least you acknowledge them.

1940sGal

Riversong wrote: »

She sounds like a delight! I feel for you!

I think the problem is a lot of people on our road are unemployed lets say. so they spend a lot of time talking etc, i work so many hours i just want to spend time with my family. Maybe they can't understand because she's never worked?

I juat don't have time for the drama and i can't get my head round it!

The diarys a good idea! Im going to keep a dictaphone on me too to record while i unload the car.

Our neighbour in question has 7 children by 3 men and hasn't worked a day since she did a summer stint at Butlins in the early 70s with my mam. She's been on benefits almost all her adult life and if she gets a job now I'll die of shock. But then there's quite a lot on our street exactly the same.

The dictaphone's a good idea, we've used the same tactic.

I feel for you too. I know what it's like to be under pressure and then have to deal with this crap on top of it all. The last time ours acted up I was trying to finish my final major project for uni and write a dissertation, plus mam and sis both work (mam gets up at 4:30am everyday to work).

There was one occasion my sister was getting cash from the machine and the neighbour was stood behind her. Sis heard her say to her daughter 'i wonder where she gets all her money from'. The cheek of it! :eek: However, I did enjoy the look on her face when I pulled her up about it. I know i shouldn't have done but i couldn't help it. She didn't have a clue what to say in return

1940sGal

Northern_Princess wrote: »

This is one of many reasons I am so glad our nearest neighbour is a mile away:)

a mile away???

i envy you

Northern_Princess

1940sGal wrote: »

a mile away???

i envy you

It's lovely in summer - very lonely in winter though. BUT I have only sheep and horses for neighbours which makes up for being isolated :T

I honestly could not cope neighbours now.

Riversong

I wish mine lived a mile away!

Some people just think because you happen to live close they should know ALL od your business lol.

I had a neighbour who was abusive in our old house. She was threatening to brick the windows, while we had a child with us. i recorded her on my phone, she got so angry about it lol. Her husband had to drag her away. But a dictaphone is more covert, it can go in your pocket and still pick up voices

marisco_2

The emptiest vessels make the greatest noise, as your neighbours seem to be going out of their way to prove. You are neighbourly, smile and say hello and they blank you. So you give them the space that they gave you the impression of wanting and now you are being painted as being rude. You will never win with that type.

Remain the bigger person and if they are around smile and say hello then leave it at that. They are clearly not people you have anything in common with or have any need to cultivate a friendship with. Go inside your house and get on with your personal life, your way. What they think of you is of no importance or relevance really. How sad that they have nothing better to do with their time than to take umbridge to someone arriving home and closing their curtains on the world when it suits them :cool:

Dunree

Used to live next door to a nutter.

Played music, very loudly, all times of the day and night, and he only had two CD's.

I tried to kick his door in one night just to get some peace.

One day he left his front door open. A couple of local thieves were outside. They were advised of his new ''open door'' policy, and told to make sure they helped themselves to the cd player.

Of course when they cops came to investigate a ''break in next door'', I could not lie, I knew nothing about it...

First peaceful nights sleep of many that was

Sparklebabey

Riversong wrote: »

I think the problem is a lot of people on our road are unemployed lets say. so they spend a lot of time talking etc, i work so many hours i just want to spend time with my family.

That's the problem with these kind of neighbours...they think you are posh and above yourself as god forbid, you earn your living (and not by lying on your back).

I lived in a HA flat several years ago. Was brand new and for a flat was massive.

I had neighbours like that though...used to come in at all hours and start partying. Of course they could - they didn't have work to go to unlike me...and naturally had no consideration for my then toddler.

HA were useless...it transpired the reason they had got moved to the brand spanking new block was becasue of complaints from their old neighbours.

After 4 years of living on eggshells waiting for the noise to start and the smary comments as I passed their house to get to my car (they were on the ground floor), I just bit the bullet and bought a house...far far away from these kind of people.

You have my sympathy...it really is rotten when you want to come home from work to unwind and you are more stressed than when you were at work!