Nights out with/without partner

sassyblue

We do both, but l go out more.... Once a week to the local quiz night and sometimes with girlfriends, nothing outrageous though l'm not a party animal.

If we go out together l prefer to go with another couple, after 20 years theres not much left to talk about. :rotfl:

Squish815

We go out together more often than not, but this due to the fact that we have pretty much all the same friends and that we're in to the same kind of music as each other and are limited on pubs/clubs that play the kind of music we like. It's been like this since I met him so it's 'normal' for me (and a few other couples in the same circle).

We do go out separately on occasion as we do have friends that the other doesn't know as well but they're generally quieter nights out. The OH has been going out with our usual group of friends without me a bit more though as my job means having to be up in the morning earlier than he does. As long as he lets me know if he's going to be later than he thought as otherwise I worry something has happened to him.
We don't do it often though as we prefer going out as a couple-it's just how it's always been!

System

Bf isn't the going out type, so never goes out. Its LDR anyway so when he's not up and and my friend's are out i'll go out with them. When he's here we prefer to stay in. Though if he's up for my birthday i might drag him on the birthday night out as all my friends want to meet him

Sally22_2

Me and my partner go out together usually to a restaurant or the cinema or just a Sunday trip into Brighton round the lanes!

He is fine with me going out on my own, this is where I go out for drinks with the girls, we go to gigs or clubbing or out for dinner. Sometimes I stay at theirs, sometimes I drive home(if I have been designated driver). This can be as late as 3am!

He goes out on his own but this is usually to the pub with his friends or a car show/event.

We are both quite trusting and dont stop eachother going out, as long as we know where eachother is then thats fine

Alias_Omega

Mrs AO invited me to the cinema the other week, then last minute called a "switch-er-oo" and bailed on me even after i looked up what was on the cinema.

Mrs AO went to Bingo, Romantic Cinema for 1 for me. Looked like a right weirdo..

So, Yes.. I can go out without my Partner..

Bufger

meals with
Drinking without

We annoy each other when drunk but we enjoy each others company on all kinds of nights out that arent drinking orientated!

Gavin83

I like both depending on my mood. I'd hate to be in a relationship where I couldn't do my own thing as equally as I'd hate to be in a relationship where we never did anything together. We do have similar interests and therefore do a lot together but I still have hobbies I do without her and see friends without her, as she does without me. Keeps things fresh.

I do admittedly have nights out with her when I wish she wasn't there and other nights where I wish she was there.

I do overall value both options though.

System

I'd love it if my husband went out without me.

podperson

I like both - they tend to very different nights though. It's nice to go out just the two of us sometimes and have a change of scenery etc. and catch up on each other's weeks.
We used to go out a lot together in a big group as where we used to live we had mostly the same friends - would usually split up and meet up throughout the night as we both knew most of the people there so would be quite happy chatting to people on our own. Where we live now it doesn't happen as much as we have more separate groups of friends - eg while I like his friends and am happy to go out with them sometimes I am aware that OH feels he needs to stick with me for most of the night as there'll be plenty of people I don't know very well and might not be as comfortable being left on my own. I don't think he minds too much but I wouldn't go all the time as it makes me a bit self-conscious that he would probably be mingling more without me.
At the same time I like having some nights out on my own as well. I doubt my OH would want to have girlie chats and cocktails so it's nice to me to go out with friend to do things like that.

angelil

Generally we see friends separately.

This is mainly because I get waaaay too tired at night (by 10 or 11pm I'm done!) so am useless on just about any sort of night out. I don't want to compromise on his enjoyment and be a party pooper by constantly needing to leave early. Because he's a sweetheart he always feels obliged to leave with me even if I'd be OK with him staying alone - and I don't want to put him in the position where he feels his evening's been cut short.

Neither of us socialise loads though so generally this isn't a problem. We don't have 'rules' for when one of us goes out without the other. We were in an international long-distance relationship for 3.5 years, which definitely takes away any sense of paranoia you might have You just can't be paranoid if you see the relationship working long-term. We just trust each other - end of!