Nights out with/without partner

HeadAboveWater

Hello :wave:

Wanted to get other people's opinions on this just (this is a couples chat but maybe more suited to the discussion section so feel free to move...)

Basically the question is...

Do you prefer to go out on a night out (pub/bar/club) with or without your partner/OH/hubby/wife/bf/gf?

Can you explain why? Does your partner have the same opinions as you? Are there 'dos and donts' for when you or them are on a night out (eg (un)acceptable behaviour)?

Obviously it would depend on circumstances like birthdays/stag or hen nights/how often etc etc.

Now! Spill.... :eek: :rotfl:

rachbc

I like to do both - we go out togther just us, togther with a group of friends or each with our own friends.

Nights out with the girls a generally a bit more raucous and giggly (depsite us all being nearly 40!) though sometimes I might just go out with 1 or 2 female friends for a really good natter and catch up, nights out in a group we mix about and sometimes talk to eachother but mainly not but always have fun comparing notes and gossip at the end of the night, and nights out just us are a great chance to catch up wihtout house/ family stuff distracting us.

There are no 'rules' - other than text if you miss the last bus/ are going to be later than expected so the other doesn't worry. We trust each other and just take it as read that the other won't do anything 'unacceptable' and don't feel the need to treat each other like children

Faith177

I'm with Rach on this one

Me & OH have our own nights out occasionaly. Normally me more as he works long hours.

He often goes down to Bristol to see his mates from Uni for the weekend a big group of them go out. Sometimes I'll go with him if it's for a Birthday ect. Mostly though I let him go for some down time.

He lets me go to gigs ect on my own or out with my friends for a girls night out. I even went to Canada on my own for 2 weeks to visit my best friend and his family.

The only rule really is let me know you're home. That's all we ask of each other.

twigglet35

I never go out with my OH as its not his thing.

But that dont stop me :rotfl:

LameWolf

My DH and I always go out together.

I can't go on my own; for one thing I'm disabled, and he's my only Carer; for another, I have severe social phobia, and am simply too scared to go anywhere without him.

I have on numerous occasions told him if he wants to go to the pub without me, for instance to have a pint or so with his pal, he's more than welcome to do so, but he declines, saying it's not as much fun without me. Go figure.....

ciderwithrosie_2

Same as Rachbc really. We've been married far too long to get possessive or jealous, not that we ever were anyway.

HeadAboveWater

hee hee From the replies so far it sounds like the girlies are the party animals!! :rotfl:

Idiophreak

HeadAboveWater wrote: »

hee hee From the replies so far it sounds like the girlies are the party animals!! :rotfl:

Just to reprazent for the men, then

I go out with the wife most often, if we're going for a meal, or a night at the theatre or a drink or two with friends...but being a teacher, she has to get to bed early most nights and is tired the rest of the time...so I tend to do more of the big drinking sessions on my own...:)

Mrs_Ryan

OH is 10 years older than me and his clubbing days are behind him. I also go to a lot of rugby club events which he wont come to as he doesnt want to know what's going on I go out with my best mate if we're going clubbing but its not often as she lives so far away. Me and OH do go to the pub and we do go out in town but I prefer to go out with my female friends.
If I'm away he might go for a quiet drink on his own but he doesnt go out otherwise.
As for unacceptable behaviour.. no not really. Long as he knows where I am and if I'm away send him a text at some point to let him know what time I need picking up the next day. That's about it really. Oh and if I'm at a rugby club do I dont talk about it, end of......(not because there's any naughtiness going on, just because there's so many fit men about and he doesnt like it! He wouldnt stop me going, he's not actually bothered in that sense he just doesnt want to hear about it)

cottonhead

I dont go to pubs or clubbing etc so if my husband does ( very occaisionally ) its with his mates and I stay in with a film and nibbles. I never go out without my husband unless its just for a coffee with my mum. When we do go together its for a meal or cinema or theatre, nothing noisy or active! This is because I wouldnt feel right ( neither would my husband) going 'out with the boys' and I have no friends to go out with without my husband anyway.

BugglyB

When we both want to go to something, we go together. If one of us wants to go and the other doesn't, then we do that.

The rule is you have to smile and say 'have a lovely night'. We also have a little tradition of giving each other enough money for one drink ('have a drink on me love') if we're off to separate places.