Non-coupon related Drivel Thread 8

fungaltendancy

myalphabetgirls wrote: »

Can I ask some advice from you worldly wise bunch who always offer welcome and unbiased advice?...

Hun I cannot begin to express my sympathy at the situation you find yourself in.What your dad has done was awful.

That being said all I can suggest is that you do what YOU can live with,if you know what I mean. If it were me I would not help just out of a sense of duty but if I felt that I would regret not spending the time I had left with my mum.
I guess for me it comes down to the greater of the upset.The upset you feel over what has happened or how much regret you might have afterward.
Only you really know which is stronger.

(I'm sorry I don't have your way with words so finding it hard to express what I mean.This is not meant critically or nastily so please do not take it like that. I guess I mean mainly in the long term what do you feel will cause you less pain!)

Luv and hugs xx

fungaltendancy

Dr.Who-Who wrote: »

FT which center parcs are you going?

Sherwood forrest.Its really flat(good for lazy walks and elderly legs(not mine!)) and a really good swimming pool which is the most important part for [STRIKE]DS[/STRIKE] sorry I mean OH:D

myalphabetgirls

heartfelt thanks Doc and FT... means a lot!

Mum and Dad have been married for 68 years! It has worked purely because she has always been submissive to him and he has revelled in the power of control. Many of my childhood years are memories of his making mum cry, endless moaning sessions between my mum and grandmother about him, mum making plans to leave him which she always found an excuse to avoid (usually involving me reaching various milestones), mum's endless silent visits to "coventry" for schoolgirl errors (didn't open the kitchen window while boiling potatoes was a common one). I couldn't wait to leave home and fell headfirst from the frying pan into the preverbial fire (another story, lol). My sister has always lived away having married into the Navy life whereas I have always bobbed about locally. I could easily fill 100 pages of forum space with tales. As their health fails them, I see panic in his now almost transluscent eyes. At mum's bedside he is all over her like a rash, it makes my skin crawl "oh, my lovely girl" "you were always the only one for me" "you're still my beautiful girl..." and recounting the tale of when they first met, on Weston super Mare Promenade in 1944 whilst he was billoted here during ww2. Watching girls go by with his airman pal Harry they spotted my mum and her chum and my dad insists on repeating that he said to Harry "that one's mine". They married within the year. Doesn't that sound a romantic tale? The reality was he was a controlling bully and I find it so hard now watching him hold her hand in apparent ignorance of the past. When I try and talk now of how I feel, my mum shusshes me. I will never get closure on this.

Doc and FT, you are both right. Im going to print your posts and sit, read and think. thanks for your kindness x

Just to confirm (BP as above) as an aside, yes pears is working, got my voucher back from a 1pm shop today. x

Dr.Who-Who

I got 2 lots of these - remember soup website similar to SSM I guess, have to post "good & bad" talk to "friends":rotfl: fill in the form blah blah blah:D

CouponWoman

MAGS

I read your messages with sadness as it appears you feel you lost your family when you lost Chloe. Maybe I am wrong on this, but while you feel your family did nothing to help support you at the most horrible time a mother can face, they are still your parents.

Now that your parents are getting on in years, in fact they are getting towards the end of their lives, it is the right time, in my opinion, to help them cope with their health problems. Not just for their sake, but for your own. You need to forgive your parents for not being there for you. I think that way you will eventually be at peace with them and know that you didn't just walk away like they did.

Your father sounds as though he cannot express his emotions easily. He might hide behind a gruff and grumpy nature as he doesn't know any other way to act. Maybe this is how he was brought up, maybe it was something to do with his experiences in the war. I have no doubt he loves your mother, and he will be lost if she goes first.

So while I could forgive your parents I would find it harder to forgive your sister. She doesn't have age and illness as an excuse for not supporting you in your darkest hours. Maybe she, like your father, cannot express emotions, grief, sorrow, sadness and thats why she backed away from you.

As she lives only an hour away from your parents so has no excuse for not going to see them at least every few days if she has car. She too should bear some responsibility for helping with your parents appointments.

So you will never forget your familys betrayal, maybe you can allow some forgiveness into your heart and help your parents in what could very well be their final years.

I hope my comments don't upset you in any way hun, and I send you lots of (((hugs)))

CWxx

adoreholidays

:j:j:j got 2 shops at S's for J20, 2 x £10 BM & with S/D nean't they worked out £2.20. They only had the orange and passion fruit.

adoreholidays

Dr.Who-Who wrote: »

AH & BP , I would like Apple & Melon, Apple & Mango, Orange & passion please:D. And AH, don't forget to buy a spare bottle opener so we can open the bottles at weatherspoon:rotfl::rotfl:.

Just finished my 2 days work in 1 day as I am taking time off tomorrow 1/2day in the afternoon to drop DD1 back to York for her 2nd year uni. Then we are going to indian rest for dine dine. Me daughter said the food is very nice & me wanna try it:D

http://akbars.co.uk/york

We now keep a bottle opener in the car:D;) as DH always has a few bottles of beer when we at travelodges etc:rotfl:I really want some apple and mango but they didn't seem to stock it at my small S's:( haven't tried apple & melon:o

DH thinks this was the Indian we went to the first time we visited York with DS very nice:)

Dr.Who-Who

adoreholidays wrote: »

:j:j:j got 2 shops at S's for J20, 2 x £10 BM & with S/D nean't they worked out £2.20. They only had the orange and passion fruit.

Ah - is it a glitch? or just a normal offers ie : sada £3.00 sains £3.99?

Dr.Who-Who

For FT :- lol, didn't know you have been many times. I have deleted the photos you blink you missed it:p:p

Dr.Who-Who

I think I will do sains compare shop at sada.

I just had this & its very nice

http://www.mysupermarket.co.uk/#/sainsburys-price-comparison/snacks/jacobs_smoky_bacon_oddities_5x25g.html