How do you discipline your children

masonsmum

I have 2 small boys one aged 6 and the little one is 16 months, dont get me wrong they are nowhere near terrors but I am starting to find the older one getting a little cheeky, not listening and lazy into the bargain

I work full time as well so we lead a busy lifestyle, Im feel that he is now old enough to do certain things around the home but he gets home from school dumps the jacket, bag and shoes in the middle of the floor gets changed then out the door to play, also in the morning he can get himself ready but I am constantly on his case to do so as he seems to be a millions miles away half the time. He never tidies his room again everything is left dumped on the floor.

I feel as though all I ever do is repeat myself, do this, do that, dont leave that there etc etc, so just wondered am I expecting too much because he is still young or is it start as I mean to go on?

Dunroamin

What discipline methods to you already use?

raven83

masonsmum wrote: »

I have 2 small boys one aged 6 and the little one is 16 months, dont get me wrong they are nowhere near terrors but I am starting to find the older one getting a little cheeky, not listening and lazy into the bargain

I work full time as well so we lead a busy lifestyle, Im feel that he is now old enough to do certain things around the home but he gets home from school dumps the jacket, bag and shoes in the middle of the floor gets changed then out the door to play, also in the morning he can get himself ready but I am constantly on his case to do so as he seems to be a millions miles away half the time. He never tidies his room again everything is left dumped on the floor.

I feel as though all I ever do is repeat myself, do this, do that, dont leave that there etc etc, so just wondered am I expecting too much because he is still young or is it start as I mean to go on?

I feel your pain, I feel like all I ever do lately is constantly repeat myself. My girls are not particularly naughty but they do cat fight a lot with each other and I am forever telling them to tidy up after themselves. It isn't usually too bad when they are at school, but the 6 weeks holiday is starting to take it's toll on their behaviour. They are good as gold with other people and everyone always tell me how well behaved and well mannered they are, so I know they are not that bad, but the older they get the worse they are getting. Give me a baby anytime, they are easy as pie

masonsmum

TBH nothing at the moment because I dont know if I am being too harsh but I dont want my sons to grow up being spoiled brats and feel they need to understand the importance of helping around the home, on the first day back at school last week he was a nightmare getting ready when he was supposed to be getting his clothes on I looked in and he was playing with toys still in PJ's, so I didnt let him out to play that night, the next morning he got ready so quickly but then its back to normal again???

peachyprice

I don't think it's a question of discipline, he's not being naughty, just lazy.

Have you explained that you all need to work together to keep a tidy home and that he needs to respect your home and you by picking up after himself now that he's getting to be a big boy?

It's also quite difficult for young children to get back into the habit of getting up and out in the morning after 6 weeks holidays. Perhaps you could get him up 10-15mins earlier, without telling him that you are, so that he's a little extra time to get back into the swing of up-and-out. By half term he should be back to his usual routine.

Del_Astra

We are constantly reminding DS who is 5 the same things, take your jacket off properly so its easier to get on, that sort of thing. It does seem like you are on repeat all the time, but it does start to pay off. If things get really bad we remove access to favourite toy (normally lego) that sees an improvement.

Perhaps no going out until jacket is hung up, clothes placed neatly (in washing basket or whatever) Shoes in show rack / place they stay. I mean, it could reach the point where he is "grounded" if you like until these are done.

grannybroon

I don't think you are expecting too much. At 6 I think he should be able to help with tasks like putting his bag, coat, shoes away, tidying toys etc.

My grandsons work on a points system for pocket money and are expected to do basic tasks to get their basic pocket money. Any extra special help is rewarded with extra pocket money. Persistent bad behaviour (yes my little darlings do sometimes behave dreadfully!!!) results in a favourite toy or their DS or similar being taken away for a period of time and has to be earned back.

Del_Astra

masonsmum wrote: »

TBH nothing at the moment because I dont know if I am being too harsh but I dont want my sons to grow up being spoiled brats and feel they need to understand the importance of helping around the home, on the first day back at school last week he was a nightmare getting ready when he was supposed to be getting his clothes on I looked in and he was playing with toys still in PJ's, so I didnt let him out to play that night, the next morning he got ready so quickly but then its back to normal again???

Ah - Out the routine, hopefully things will settle down now he is back in the normal routine of going to school. I was glad to get them back last week, we can all get back to the normal routine.

mrcow

Scrape all of his mess into the middle fo the room and sit on his bed and read a book whilst he tidies each and every toy up. It's his mess, he can tidy it.

If you leave him alone to tidy it, it will never happen as he'll end up playing with said mess.

if he dumps and stuff on the floor, call him back immediately and get him to tidy it up.

Just being generally unhappy and stern should get the message across. You don't really need to punish. Being an old nag is horrible, but unfortunately, it's an important part of the parenting process.

He doesn't go out to play until it's all done.......that's your hook.

AvadaKedavra

masonsmum wrote: »

I have 2 small boys one aged 6 and the little one is 16 months, dont get me wrong they are nowhere near terrors but I am starting to find the older one getting a little cheeky, not listening and lazy into the bargain

I work full time as well so we lead a busy lifestyle, Im feel that he is now old enough to do certain things around the home but he gets home from school dumps the jacket, bag and shoes in the middle of the floor gets changed then out the door to play, also in the morning he can get himself ready but I am constantly on his case to do so as he seems to be a millions miles away half the time. He never tidies his room again everything is left dumped on the floor.

I feel as though all I ever do is repeat myself, do this, do that, dont leave that there etc etc, so just wondered am I expecting too much because he is still young or is it start as I mean to go on?

I get you, my daughter is 4 and a half nearly, my son just 9 weeks today and even since he was born as we anticipated, her behavior changed, which is understandable. She craves attention more it seems from us and can be VERY VERY cheeky at times, although overall she is so well behaved its great. When she is cheeky, for example in a large cafe last week, she answered me back and I firmly told her to stop being cheeky and to behave, warned her. She answered back again so final warning it was. Again she answered me back so I said right get up. She knew what was coming and shouted or screamed for a second in pure anger and cried, I took her to a corner in front of 60 people where she cried for 4 minutes, then I told her to behave and hugged her, end of problem all good. That is my way of dealing with my daughter when shes naughty, I was slapped as a child and grounded. But this works better for me personally. Hope that helps somewhat.

AvadaKedavra

raven83 wrote: »

I feel your pain, I feel like all I ever do lately is constantly repeat myself. My girls are not particularly naughty but they do cat fight a lot with each other and I am forever telling them to tidy up after themselves. It isn't usually too bad when they are at school, but the 6 weeks holiday is starting to take it's toll on their behaviour. They are good as gold with other people and everyone always tell me how well behaved and well mannered they are, so I know they are not that bad, but the older they get the worse they are getting. Give me a baby anytime, they are easy as pie

The 6 weeks hols especially with all this rain make it very hard, as some days your'e stuck in:mad:.