help! slipping into depression

Sparklebabey

You left a job when you were the only breadwinner (which is bad enough but in these times is just madness) for a pretty flimsy reason and are now whining that you are slipping into depression?!

Sorry but the DWP have been quite right to sanction your claim.

Sparklebabey

lilliesmum wrote: »

where i can see a family breakdown.

Yeah, I saw that galloping over the horizon....nothing like a bit of 'lone parent' benefits to get a family finances in order.

PippaGirl_2

I have to say I feel sorry for lilliesmum. For all we know she has been fighting off depression for many months and this could well be post natal depression. She might have been fighting to hold herself together in her job but the stress of what is happening at home, her partners injury and his inability to cope with that (as others have said, many people would manage and still get a child to bed but the OP's partner is not a coper obv) and her child. She might have been fighting a losing battle over this depression and life was overwhelming and the final straw was lifting her child from sofa to cot upstairs, child waking and refusing to settle down again, her tired from her evening at work. For all we know the OP has been in pieces over life and couldn't hold down the job any longer and quit. She's been slated for that decision when really no one knows her circumstances or the reasons for it except for the one thing she said about her child needing to sleep on the sofa until she came home from work. That probably is not the sole reason for the decision, but in all likelihood was the straw that broke the camels back.

Lilliesmum, could you phone your local council and ask if there are local floating support services you could use? I think getting you a floating support worker would be really good, they are expert at knowing what you are and are not entitled to and can intercede on your behalf with agencies and departments and get stuff sorted.

Life must be very stressful right now, try to take one day at a time and try to go out each day even if just to the park and say hello to other Mums. Take care x

Face1992

Chrissiew wrote: »

So your partner has to sleep downstairs, too?


Why would her partner have to sleep downstairs too? The child sleeps on the sofa untill she gets home from work at 10pm then she carries the child to bed.

If he can't get up the stairs with the kid, how does he get himself up the stairs to go to bed?

Merrylegs1969

Yes well, am sure the poor girl feels so much better for having posted on here, such constructive critique.

As said in a couple of the more helpful posts OP, get yourself an appointment with the CAB to discuss your financial situation and if you do feel yourself slipping beyond what is deemed to be a normal 'low' mood, go and see your GP ASAP and lay your cards on the table. Do not be tempted to leave it or feel that it's a pointless exercise, do it, for your little ones sake as well as your own.

shedboy94

Chrissiew wrote: »

He has been off sick from work for 2 years, he is now fit enough to return to work but his employer has decided to sack him, hence the tribunal, he can't claim ESA because he is no longer sick.

No offence, but what kind of knee injury would stop someone working for 2 years? I know amputees who are up and about quicker than that!

FBaby

marybelle01 wrote: »

Perhaps all the singing will keep them awake?

Ha ha, that made me smile too!!! Stupid phone, but worth the laugh!