emplyment law and Pre Menstrual Tension

Face1992

I posted the following in the Benefit section, but someone has suggested I might get more luck in this section. Can anyone tell me what is what?


I work part time so therefore am below the threshold for paying tax and NI.

I have always suffered from very bad PMT.

I get irritated, aggressive and my mouth absolutely runs away with me. On many occasions I've thought I could cheerfully put my hands around someone's neck and strangle them when they are getting on my nerves. I say nasty things that have repercussions for months with my family. I've walked out on partners, split up my family etc whilst "off on one".

One doctor says it's amazing I haven't actually physically attacked anyone.

I've been on Prozac on and off for years, and it's the same old story, as soon as I'm feeling fairly stable, I think I'm cured and come off it. Then it all starts again.

I've been having problems with one of the kids who on Sunday was brought back to mine in the back of a police car after threatening his older sister at his dad's house with a knife.

I just can't cope any more. Work is a massive strain. I work in a shop and tonight was called a stroppy effing cow because I asked a customer to hang on while I finished another's transaction.

I can't cope anymore with customers who never say please or thankyou and talk to me like I'm a servant of some kind. I am literally chewing through my tongue not to be nasty back because I will end up getting sacked.

I think I (yet again) need to be on the Prozac, but I need to stay away from work before I go for someone.

Would I be able to claim any benefits? Sick pay or whatever? My husband works full time and there are 2 kids at home under 16.

Notmyrealname

You won't be able to claim anything. You can put in for ESA and get NI contributions but your husbands income would exclude any pay out. You may get an increase or be entitled to WTC depending on his income.

dandelionclock30

My ex girlfriend had really bad PMT and she also was prescribed anti depressants by the doctor which did help her. Prior to getting those the DR prescribed beta blockers but these just made her feel spaced out.
I definatley think you need to go back to the DRS and ask for some support.As well as tablets what about looking at joining a self help group for depression.Mind run things like this all over the country.They will help you with strategies for coping etc and often people find it usefull talking to others in a similar situation.

Humphrey10

Would hormonal contraception help? It can stop your periods, so it might affect PMT too?

sharpy2010

Face1992 wrote: »

I posted the following in the Benefit section, but someone has suggested I might get more luck in this section. Can anyone tell me what is what?


I work part time so therefore am below the threshold for paying tax and NI.

I have always suffered from very bad PMT.

I get irritated, aggressive and my mouth absolutely runs away with me. On many occasions I've thought I could cheerfully put my hands around someone's neck and strangle them when they are getting on my nerves. I say nasty things that have repercussions for months with my family. I've walked out on partners, split up my family etc whilst "off on one".

One doctor says it's amazing I haven't actually physically attacked anyone.

I've been on Prozac on and off for years, and it's the same old story, as soon as I'm feeling fairly stable, I think I'm cured and come off it. Then it all starts again.

I've been having problems with one of the kids who on Sunday was brought back to mine in the back of a police car after threatening his older sister at his dad's house with a knife.

I just can't cope any more. Work is a massive strain. I work in a shop and tonight was called a stroppy effing cow because I asked a customer to hang on while I finished another's transaction.

I can't cope anymore with customers who never say please or thankyou and talk to me like I'm a servant of some kind. I am literally chewing through my tongue not to be nasty back because I will end up getting sacked.

I think I (yet again) need to be on the Prozac, but I need to stay away from work before I go for someone.

Would I be able to claim any benefits? Sick pay or whatever? My husband works full time and there are 2 kids at home under 16.

This is called "being moody" and you need to just stop.

sniggings

working with the public is never easy, I'm not sure you can blame all these feeling on PMT, I know I had most of them when working with the public,and I don't get PMT
customers can be rude for no reason but for a customer to call you a " stroppy effing cow" is extreme and I have a feeling you probably were less than polite, given what you have said you suffer from.

Maybe a different job would be part of the answer, ESA is very hard to get, getting ratty with customers would not do it.

heretolearn_2

I doubt you would qualify as disabled due to PMT; it's only a temporary situation each month and does it really stop you doing everyday functions? Therefore you would find it hard to give up work and live on benefits. Best that would happen is that you would be sanctioned for leaving work (a period with no jobseekers allowance), and then get JSA.

Better to tackle the actual problem.

I get PMT too, there are days when I am 'grumpy' at work, but I do know when it's happening so I try to make allowances on those days - taking myself in hand basically and making sure I think before I react to anything. I'd defer 'difficult' situations and conversations for a few days. I understand that is not possible in a customer service/retail role, but you have to do your best.

When you feel yourself getting worked up, then you have to say to yourself 'ok, it will give me 5 minutes satisfied feeling to vent this, BUT it'll destroy my career/job/standing with my colleagues so I'll count to 10 (or 30, or 100), keep my mouth shut, and deal with it.'

Racheldevon

Tackle the actual PMT - consider speaking to your GP about something like Cerazette which is a progestrogen only pill which often stops periods all together.

Try acupuncture with someone BAC registered

Ask your GP to refer you to a Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction /Cognitive Therapy programme - run by the NHS in partnership with local universities - evidence based, NICE guideline recommended for stress/depression.

Or consider seeing a counsellor to also support with the additional family stresses you referred to- low cost options available in most places, just google to see what's available in your local area.

nimbo

I to used to suffer from horrible PMT - it's not just being moody it's a massive chemical imbalance.

OP I have PM'd you.

nimbo

sharpy2010 wrote: »

This is called "being moody" and you need to just stop.

I'm sorry no it isn't - I don't want to act like a psychotic !!!!! once a month. I like being 'normal' my sister has in fact been in hospital with talk of sectioning, when 30 minutes after getting her period lo, and behold she was a nice well adjusted person once more.

We really can't help it, and people spouting shi te like this will only rile us more.

MissSarah1972

sharpy2010 wrote: »

This is called "being moody" and you need to just stop.

That is an outrageous thing to say. Women have been known to kill and I do not think it was down to being moody.