Employers and Sickness

Savvy_Sue

Might be worth talking to ACAS about whether there is a way of resigning which gets through to your boss that this is NOT an acceptable way to behave. I think there may be: by raising a grievance or something you can go on to a tribunal for unfair dismissal. Even if you don't want to take it that far, you might get through to him that he is bullying and that that's not acceptable.

peardrops_2

I don't feel like he is bullying, more an insensitive small employer who thinks more of the pounds rather than the wellbeing of his staff.

I know that once he receives my resignation he will slag me off blind to the clients who I've made a lot of headway with - they regularly slag him off to me and feel quite responsible that these relationships will break down again.

However I have to think of myself and my wellbeing rather than him.

Thanks to everyone.

Pear

Mrs_Supersaver_1

Well-done-Peardrops-for-taking-responsibility-for-your-own-health/well-being.

I-really-understand-your-situation-have-been-there-myself-and-also-had-to-make-decision-to-finish-work,-because-of-too-much-responsibility/pressure-and-excess-work!-I-am-disabled-and-unfortunately-due-to-workplace-pressure-and-bullying-from-one-line-manager-5-people-left!!!!

Take-care-and-all-the-very-best-for-future-:)

Ps-sorry-about-all-the-small-dashes,-my-spacebar-has-just-gone-on-strike!

Savvy_Sue

Well, it sounds like bullying to me ...

Either way, don't feel guilty OR responsible. One day this man might learn that the most valuable 'resource' in his company is the people who work for him. Until then, let him struggle.

peardrops_2

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

Well, it sounds like bullying to me ...

Either way, don't feel guilty OR responsible. One day this man might learn that the most valuable 'resource' in his company is the people who work for him. Until then, let him struggle.

I know exactly where you are coming from. As a victim of severe bullying at school and my first job (many eons ago I might add!) I don't feel this is bullying. It is mis-management with him I'm sure.

When I am there, I am privvy to alot of very secure information and I am most definately his "right hand man". However I have had to make this decision, my health is worth alot more than his mis-practice of work ethics.

I have 2 kids who need a fit and healthy mum, not a worn in to the ground old hag who can't give them any sort of a life.

Thank you everyone for your kind words of support.

Pear

peardrops_2

Well the dead has been done. I've sent a letter advising of my resignation due to having long periods of time off sick and receiving no sick pay.

He is now free to find a replacement and I am free to look after myself and get myself into tip top condition.

Be interesting what communications I get from him now i.e. angry phone messages or nothing at all. I can't predict but I'm sure it will happen shortly.

Many thanks to everyone for their help and guidance.

Tori_Bellatrix

Timmne wrote: »

I think as it's a small company you'd be being a little unreasonable just not answering the phone - I'm half of a firm and we would really struggle if we couldn't speak to each other when necessary. We'll be taking on a couple of staff soon and I would be annoyed if someone wouldn't answer their phone when off - very few illnesses render you voiceless afterall.

Having said that though though you are finding it difficult to actually answer him, so I would request that he sent you emails with queries so you can answer them in your own time when you're feeling up to it.

It doesn't matter if you're not voiceless - if you are ill, rest and relaxation is what you need to recuperate. Unwanted phone calls, unless to find out the welfare of an employee, could well be deemed harressment. Furthermore, the OP wasn't even being paid for their services :rolleyes:

Tori_Bellatrix

peardrops wrote: »

Well the dead has been done. I've sent a letter advising of my resignation due to having long periods of time off sick and receiving no sick pay.

He is now free to find a replacement and I am free to look after myself and get myself into tip top condition.

Be interesting what communications I get from him now i.e. angry phone messages or nothing at all. I can't predict but I'm sure it will happen shortly.

Many thanks to everyone for their help and guidance.

Good for you ...

Think no more of it - your health is far more important and any decent employer will recognise this

Tori_Bellatrix

vaio wrote: »

I think you should take all the calls from your boss and be as helpful as possible, as someone else said very few illnesses make you dumb.

The other side of this particular coin is that having made yourself as available as possible to your employer thus keeping things as normal as possible then he should do the same and carry on paying you your normal wage

Glad I don't work for you ...

peardrops_2

I've been reasonable, I've been more than reasonable and logged on whenever I could to answer queries etc whilst been unpaid and realising that his company is small and in need.

However, my health is defintely more important. I'm in my late 30's and have another 30 odd years employment ahead of me. Drilling myself into the ground for a small time mis-managed employer isn't sensible. Getting myself into A1 health and moving on to another employer who will benefit from my skills is sensible in my eyes.