Trying for a Baby Part 8

amyloofoo

I've just managed to submit my assignment and I now have DH's cake in the oven so now I'm free to procrastinate away whilst waiting for news from the hospital (she's currently still only 2cm, but has been moved to the delivery suite. I'll keep you all updated, unless it's upsetting anyone, in which case please tell me, or PM me if you don't want others to see - I don't want to be insensitive and know how easy it is to be accidentally insensitive on here) :j :eek: :):( :beer: :mad::jThink I've managed to sum up in smilies how I feel about the whole little-sister-giving-birth situation there

QQ - Thinking of you today, I'm not at all religious, but can't think of a better way to say what I mean other than that I'm praying for you... hope you understand what I want to say (you always do somehow ). I desperately hope hubby turns up and realises what a wonderful woman you are, and that he needs some help with his trust issues. Working things out may be uber-complicated now, but if that's what you want then I sincerely hope that's what happens.

Vesper - Noooooo, you're one of us, no lurking! :grouphug:Can you imagine how sloooow this thread would be if we didn't post when we were low? :rotfl:In all seriousness though, I know there are a few of us on here who're hounded by the black dog (although let's not start using BD for depression like some threads do, could get very confusing lol), and we're all here for you, even when thinks look a bit on the bleak side. If it makes you feel in any way better about sharing - I'm bipolar II so if I only spoke when I was happy then no-one would hear from me for about 10 months at a time and when they did I'd be nonsensical Sometimes sharing, even when you're worried it might bring someone down, is the best thing. And it's sooooo cathartic (and chances are, on here, there's someone else feeling the same way ). Hope your cold disappears soon... sniffles and sore noses are horrid when you're already feeling fragile :grouphug:

TeamLowe - Wise words about the SSing.... (won't stop me though :rotfl:). Google truly is the TTCers worst-best-friend

Courgette - Your post made me do the smile of recognition at your 'symptoms' Big hugs to you, and I truly hope that you're our first recorded case of chapped lips as an early pregnancy symptom....

Tea Lover - I think (hope) we all knew what you were getting at and that you would never mean to offend. All people and relationships are different and have different boundaries, you were simply saying where your boundaries were and offering some (really good) advice.

Code - I saw that research too, and I think it might be true for me... there are certainly times of the month when I tend to spot people who aren't my usual 'type'... but then again I'm very impressionable and bisexual so I'm probably just being daft :rotfl:It's interesting that evolution and biology can play such a huge role in who we choose to 'mate' with, although it makes a lot of sense. I think my type is very girly lol, but don't tell DH I said so! Oh, and not to encourage SSing (especially since the return of QQ and the wagging finger of DOOM), but I really hope things are different this month because things are different, IYSWIM.

Miffy - Hope things work out quickly with DH, this TTCing stuff can be very stressful for both us and partners Take some time to look after each other

Atton - Hun, no-one meant to offend / upset or be snippy with you. I think some people were alarmed / confused by the way things were phrased, that's all. Of course lots (I'm prepared to say all ) of us have crushes, and hormones can be a major influence on them. I know that I am attracted to different people at different points in my cycle, for example (not sure exactly where each fits in, but I've definitely noticed it). DH knows too lol, he'll point people out and say "s/he's very your type right now" and he knows I do the same. Relationships are very individual things, and whilst I'm comfortable being this way with DH now, I definitely wasn't with my ex. It's a question of how secure both you and your partner feel, and as long as you're both okay with it, I don't think there's anything wrong with a little flirting.... but every relationship's different and all views are valid.

I don't think anyone was saying you'd cheated, or were about to; but things like 'holding hands' and 'brushing up' against each other are definitely a no-no for some couples; and I think people were just pointing this out in case it went further than you wanted and you ended up regretting it. You have to bear in mind that the feelings of the other person could be hurt too - if he really likes you and you're even a little over-friendly then you could end up losing a friend that it seems you have a good relationship with. It's very easy to accidentally take flirting a little too far, especially if you and OH are going through a rough patch atm with arguing. My OH got into a situation a couple of months ago where a friend's sister (who he'd previously had a brief fling with before we were together) was going through a rough patch with her ex, got horribly drunk and propositioned him. As it happens, no harm was done, he told me all about it, and I know she was just vulnerable and daft so haven't even embarrassed her by telling her I know - but it's easy to see how it could have been soooo much worse. It's really good that you feel able to talk to us about these things, and I hope you've not been put off by how you perceive people to have replied. No-one was being judgemental or malicious, I think there was just a little confusion and sharing of their own feelings.

Tink - Enjoy your snuggles with DD, sounds blissful Am really hoping for good things for you, but think you're very wise (and restrained) to hold off on testing again immediately. A massive fingers crossed for you.

Abis - I soooo relate to not knowing whether I want something to be wrong (so I can be 'fixed') or whether just carrying on will get us there in the end Hope all our bloods give us the best possible news, and signal the start of lots of December BFPs... On a completely unrelated note, I know when I first moved into my own place I wanted loads of those scented things for my drawers - maybe that's something that you could do with your crafty talents? It's sweet, but crafty, and doesn't take up room (but maybe it was only me that wanted these!) Failing that, chocolate / flowers / wine in any combination is always welcome! Or you could send the spa to her, in the form of some lovely toiletries / treatments. I think there might be some nice Champneys ones on cheapie in Boots atm.

I'm going to give you the wagging finger of doom though... please don't let something like size get in the way of enjoying a wonderful day of treatment and relaxation with your sis. Surely all the upset and hard times you've had recently is MORE of a reason to pamper yourself, not less :grouphug:

Amus - Whilst it's lovely to see you, I hope you're soon off again IYSWIM Welcome back :grouphug: and would love to see a very, very special Christmas present for you and your family

BZ - No symptom spotting... but I would LOVE to see you come back and tell us your symptoms IYSWIM... fingers crossed honey

becca0417

vesper wrote: »

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2238648/Woman-goes-doctor-backache--gives-birth-hours-later-baby-WEEKS-overdue.html

Anyone read this today?

How weird!!!

kellykins

Yes i was thinking the same.........its very weird!
umm.... 5 weeks overdue???really???:think:

Ah.... fed up of waiting now.. i just want AF to come so i can get properly started on this new journey!

Hope everyone is well... just about to go on a night shift! yuk!

Kel x

amyloofoo

Oh dear... DH's cake is a crumbly disaster, time to pop to Asda!

Hopelass

Hi Ladies

QQ - big hugs, we are all here for you!

Just a very quick post again - I am so rubbish at posting on here because as soon as I sit down to write a post, OH wants something or cat wants something or like now OH has text to say he is on the way home so I have to start cooking :mad: as soon as I get 5 mins the thread has moved on and I've forgotten what I was going to say! GRRRRRRR!

Please can the lovelies doing the list update me to 3dpo? Thank you !

Best get back in the kitchen. humph. Hugs to all in need xx

becca0417

Aww amy just chuck some buttercream on the top and all will be fine. Or a better idea - cover it with chocolate buttons!!

Hopelass hope yu are ok xx

AFM my scan date came - 18th December. Fingers crossed all will be normal or I won't need it Birdie your PMA must be rubbing off on me!

DH is working away at the moment so I'm miserable I hate it when he's away.

Hopelass

Thanks becca I'm ok, just hate rushing around when I get in from work, it's like starting my day all over again but at home

I understand what you mean about hating OH being away, mine sometimes works away and I feel a bit lost - start talking to myself and the cat (I talk to the cat anyway though:cool:). I tend to do something nice for me like having long baths, turning the heating up and watching "girl" tv!! Hope he's back soon for you xx

vic3

TeamLowe wrote: »

oh and for my late ovulation buddies, i did ask the gynae last time i visited and she was completely unconcerned with my ovulating late, she said it doesnt matter as long as you do ovulate x

Thank you for this, it's really reassuring. I have had pinching sensations all day and have a really strong line (not quite there yet but almost!) on the OPK.

Thinking of you QQ, fingers crossed x

becca0417

Hopelass wrote: »

Thanks becca I'm ok, just hate rushing around when I get in from work, it's like starting my day all over again but at home

I understand what you mean about hating OH being away, mine sometimes works away and I feel a bit lost - start talking to myself and the cat (I talk to the cat anyway though:cool:). I tend to do something nice for me like having long baths, turning the heating up and watching "girl" tv!! Hope he's back soon for you xx

It's horrible rushing around isn't it?!

I'm very lucky atm as we are between selling and buying so have moved back home - I'm in good company tonight just really miss him which is probably ridiculous! Oh well he's back tomorrow. x

purcy81

Just popping in quickly to say thinking of you QQ I'm keeping my fingers crossed that all works out for you x

Also I need a telling off for ss I'm having cramps and vivid dreams which I never ever have apart from before I got my bfp trying not to get my hopes up though.

I loved the new style list it gave me a real chuckle! I spotted im at 9dpo on it and while I wish that were the case would you be so kind as to change me to 7dpo please

Huge hugs ladies here's hoping December brings some happier times for us all x