Due a police visit - help

longwalks1

Had a call from a policeman last week, wanting to speak to me about my partners son being racially bullied at school before the summer hols. Until yesterday didnt know why I was needed to be seen, as he's not my son. I've since found out through a friend at the school an allegation of me either threatening or 'roughing up' the racist bully (who's only 15) has been made, this would explain the policeman almost smashing my front door down with his knocking earlier in the week, even though I was at work, and had called him and left a message explaining my work pattern. I was told about the knocking by our local nosey neighbour.

I'm due a visit at 3pm today at home, what can i expect please? I offered to pop out from work for half an hour to see him the other day (on my lunchbreak) but he said he wanted to see me for a couple of hours, why?

And the only time i've even seen this bully is 2 occasions I picked up my partners son, with her, at the school few months back. She pointed the bully out, and I saw him from maybe 30 motres away, and admit I did stare at him and he saw, and was clearly uneasy about it. but i've never seen him any other time. What is this visit for and why need me for a couple of hours?

fluffnutter

I don't know what you should expect because I've never been in a similar situation. But just tell the truth.

longwalks1

Thanks fluff, thats what i was gonig to do anyway. Just worried thats all

Sammie_03

I'm not sure exactly what you should expect but I would think they need to take a statement off you, ask questions about the allegations etc that's why it may take a while.

Good luck I'm sure if you tell the truth everything will be fine

fluffnutter

It might not take as long as they say but I guess they want to call the shots and not have you looking at your watch and saying 'oops, got to go back to work now. Bye'. Paperwork also takes loads of time so if they're going to take a statement this could drag on.

I wouldn't read anything sinister into why they want a particular length of time. Basically, an allegation's been made and they're just following it up. Standard procedure, I'd say.

longwalks1

Thanks again, am i likely to be carted off to the station? Sorry for the probable silly questions, i just want to know if it may happen on the words of a teenager, if so, it seems a little crazy?

Sammie_03

I wouldn't expect to be taken to the police station. They have been informed of an "incident" and obviously have to follow it up by speaking to you. I think this is probably a routine visit but I can totally understand your nerves. X

Penny-Pincher!!

Maybe not show them your user name on here:D

Just be honest with them. It will all be written down in a statement, then you will have to read it and sign it.

peachyprice

If they're planning on being with you for a couple of hours it sounds like they're going to be taking statements.

Just tell the truth, but be aware that they tend to side with the side of the minor even if they are lying through their back teeth, so stay calm and make sure you don't display any signs of anger, no matter how frustrating the situation is.

My 17yo was assaulted eariler this year by a 15yo who had been harrassing him for about 18 months, the boy told the police that my son had been bullying him, which couldn't be further from the truth and for which there was absolutely no evidence, but they more or less took his word for it becuase he is only 15 and my son is 17. My son has since been chased and assualted by this boy's friends, but he won't do anything about it because of the attitude of the police.

fluffnutter

britishboy wrote: »

Thanks again, am i likely to be carted off to the station? Sorry for the probable silly questions, i just want to know if it may happen on the words of a teenager, if so, it seems a little crazy?

I doubt it. They just need to follow things up and if you're content to do this in your own home, there's no need for you to be taken to the station. I'm not surprised you're a bit nervous but hopefully the police are used to teenagers stretching the truth at times and can easily work out what's really going on.

fluffnutter

Offer to make loads of cups of tea to soften them up. Everyone loves a brew.