How much time do you spend with your partner?

nixe

oh no we re both disabled so both dont work but spend as little time together as possible he is always in his room thank goodness.
its our anerversary on either the 21 or 22nd or 23rd of this month.
we have been married about 17 or 18 years cant remember think it was 1995? kids in there widom have booked us a weekend away dreading it, after i said aint the sea beautiful and he said yes then what will we speak about.. emm

tanith

I'm retired and OH works either 3 or 5 days a week depending lots of factors, OH has a hobby that means he's often out either Sat or Sun and sometime several weekday evenings , but we always spend any other time together , chatting watching tv, visiting children and grandchildren or just out for a drive, we like to spend time together on holidays but we also value time for our own hobbies or just chilling in the garden or reading . OH likes tv and I don't so he doesn't mind if I potter off to the garden to read or weed and I don't mind him playing bowls several times a week , what time we share suits both of us and we always have plenty of news to chat about.. but we've only been together 20 odd years so a long way to go before we get bored of each other lol

Nan63

Aside from work and a few hours each week we are barely apart. We like it that way, neither of us feel any great urge to have 'me' time and our marriage hasn't suffered for it (14 years strong).

We are both able to go and do our own 'stuff' when we want ie nights out with friends, weekends away etc but we are genuinely happier when we are together ...or at least I am, perhaps I'd best ask him his opinion!:rotfl:

Dunroamin

We spend nearly all our time together and always have done, having met when we were teaching at the same college.Now we're retired and my husband's disabled we're together virtually all the time, except for a couple of times a week when I see friends.

I can't imagine marrying someone I didn't want to be with most of the time - we celebrated our silver wedding anniversary this year and I only wish that we could spend the next 25 years the same way.

Cat501

nixe wrote: »

oh no we re both disabled so both dont work but spend as little time together as possible he is always in his room thank goodness.
its our anerversary on either the 21 or 22nd or 23rd of this month.
we have been married about 17 or 18 years cant remember think it was 1995? kids in there widom have booked us a weekend away dreading it, after i said aint the sea beautiful and he said yes then what will we speak about.. emm

That has to be one of the saddest posts I've ever read

HeadAboveWater

Cat501 wrote: »

That has to be one of the saddest posts I've ever read

Agreed
Never want to ever feel like that in a relationship. That's just wrong to me

daisiegg

Most weekday evenings together, although he often doesn't get home from work until about 8pm and we go to sleep at 10 so that's not a huge amount of time together.

On the weekends that he is home, we spend most of the time together. Occasionally I'll go to see my parents without him, but generally I do things like seeing friends and family on the weekends he is not here.....two weekends a month he is away visiting his daughter (so I don't see him from Friday morning until late Sunday night). I do go with him sometimes but only once every couple of months.

We love spending time together and never get tired of it when we go on holiday and are together 24/7 for over 2 weeks, we don't run out of things to talk about at all and we have a great time. We have been together over 3 years and never argue.

The post that talks about dreading a weekend away together makes me really sad

rachbc

Right now none - my OH is working away for 17 days. I miss him hugely which is odd as we are gneerally quite independant and its suprised me.

Other than me running 2/3 times a week both our hobbies tend to be based at home anyway, he goes out maybe one a week fo his, sometimes less, occassionally more. We tend to potter about the house doing our own thing but being around each other and its that I miss.

Prior to his new job we worked for the same organisation so commuted together and sometimes met for lunch too

tea_lover

rachbc wrote: »

Right now none - my OH is working away for 17 days. I miss him hugely which is odd as we are gneerally quite independant and its suprised me.

I found that too. My OH worked away for 3 weeks last year and I felt like I'd lost a limb, it was horrible. Really surprised me considering how little time we spend together when we're both at home.

I think it was the little things I missed - just getting a cuddle at the end of the day, or leaving each other notes in the kitchen.

masonsmum

HeadAboveWater wrote: »

Agreed
Never want to ever feel like that in a relationship. That's just wrong to me

Got to agree with you there, I was in a relationship like that where my time was spent "hiding out" I would go to my mums or spend all my time in my bedroom to avoid the person I lived with at the weekend I made all my plans with my friends and never included him, it is wrong in every level in a relationship, I eventually got away from it and have never looked back since!