Husband gave up smoking yesterday

fluffnutter

beanymagoo wrote: »

If your husband finds it a struggle to give up the ciggies then I highly recommend Allen Carrs book - the easy way to stop smoking. I gave up using this book about 9 years ago. I had lots of failed attempts previously at stopping but I actually ENJOYED stopping using this book. I know at least 15 other people who have given up after reading it. Good luck to your hubbie.

This book was recommended by Victoria Coren who was a biiiig smoker. She thinks it's great too.

mudgekin

well done to him and all you other folks who are stopping. DH and I stopped 3.5 years ago and did it with the Allen Carr book.

I was a heavy smoker and loved it to be honest but both our mums has end stage copd with cigs and we were both at the breathless stage. We used the silk quit meter which is a free download to motivate us. According to that we have saved over 15k and that is going with the price of cigs 3.5 years ago. I dread to think what the actual saving is.

We did it just in the nick of time as DH was made redundant 3 months after stopping and we just wouldn't have managed as it took him 2.5 years to get back into work and even then it is p/t term time.

Good luck and get him to try the book and also the Silk Quit meter

getmore4less

I think having a goal for the money can help a lot, something you really want.

when I tried to give give up 2 times in the first 6 month I broke due to booze(once on a flight it was that long ago),

Boy did I feel ill the next day, that cracked it.

My savings goal was a deposit/mortgage so short/long term.

My mum died from Lung cancer, she gave up too late hope I didn't

Sammie_03

Well done to your husband
I gave up cold turkey 16 months ago, best thing I ever did!!
Xx

paddedjohn

Well done to him, i gave up 10 years ago and went from 40 a day to nothing overnight, not saying its easy but within 3 weeks my tastebuds improved and I started enjoy nice food more and put on a few much needed pounds, also found my clothes didnt need washing everyday due the smoke smell.

margaretclare

teabag29 wrote: »

Think the shock led him to it, my mums in poor health at the minute she has COPD but recently been having bad chest pains. She's been admitted to hospital twice as an emergency and they've found nodules and black spot on her lung and although I dont think it is, there is a possibility of lung cancer. Think its made hubby think about his own health

Congratulations. He's a wise man. I've known many, many people, both personally and in the course of my past career, who had any number of shocks and still did not manage to have the 'lightbulb moment'.

Apparently, according to an army officer out in Afghanistan at this moment (he's been distributing the contents of parcels sent from well-wishers in our town) he doesn't know of anyone who smokes, the British soldier, he says, is becoming more health-conscious by the day! If they can do it, with all the stress that they're under, it can be done.

A little suggestion: don't keep reminding him of how well he's doing - that will just re-focus his mind on how much he wants one. This was a mistake I made long ago and I thought I was doing the right thing.

After 72 hours some of the effects have already cleared from the body. He can look forward to a healthy life with you, and yes, more money to spend on worthwhile and pleasanter things. Best wishes to both of you.

scottish_lassy

My worry when I smoked was when people told me that the cravings never went away - Well I gave up 5 yrs ago and have not found that at all. Don't even think of them unless something comes on tele about them and even then it's not craving, it's just a type of smugness! this was maybe helped by the fact that I tried a cig a few months after I stopped, and I have never felt so sick in my life - don't ever want that feeling again. Good luck to your hubby. There is life after smoking!!!! (and more of it!)

ariba10

Just to wish you both Good Luck.

(Are you still talking to each other?)

margaretclare

scottish_lassy wrote: »

My worry when I smoked was when people told me that the cravings never went away - Well I gave up 5 yrs ago and have not found that at all. Don't even think of them unless something comes on tele about them and even then it's not craving, it's just a type of smugness! this was maybe helped by the fact that I tried a cig a few months after I stopped, and I have never felt so sick in my life - don't ever want that feeling again. Good luck to your hubby. There is life after smoking!!!! (and more of it!)

The cravings DO go away - that's the physical addiction. What remains is what's called 'habituation' i.e. if you're in the habit of having a cigarette in a particular situation, after a meal, while sitting in a particular chair, whatever it might be, then do your best to break those habits - do something different!

I used to sit across the table from my first husband while we were having a coffee and having a conversation, a discussion about anything at all, and I'd watch him automatically make those movements, reach for his fag packet, put one in his mouth, and he was barely aware he was doing it - it was a habit, and that was one of the things that was so hard for him to break. When he was out and met any of his mates, they'd offer him a fag packet and he'd take one without even thinking about it, just like a reflex action that he was barely aware of.

I knew a man who was very seriously ill, in Critical Care then in High Dependency, was in hospital for ages and - one would think - the habit had left his body. Once he got home he re-started - 'I've been a smoker for 50 years, too late to stop now' although he had, effectively, stopped! When he got back to sitting in his usual chair, watching his usual TV programmes, it was back to old habits.

teabag29

Well he's doing well he's still not had one. He hasn't been half as snappy as I thought he'd be (like last time he tried to quit) and says he's only craved a fag once when he was stressed at work but didn't have one. His patches keep falling off and the gum he was given makes his throat burn but he's back at the chemist on Thursday.

The big test will be next week when we go on holiday. He rarely drinks but on holiday he usually has a few pints and this year we're going with his dad who he's never had a proper night out with so he'll probably have a few beers. When he drinks thats usually always accompanied by a fag so will be tough for him.