Lost buyer due to family across the way and new viewing tomorrow, HELP!

Daisy70

James_N wrote: »

You have obviously never lived in a terraced community where people sit on their doorsteps gossiping. Maybe high hedges and net curtains are your thing, and where interaction with a neighbour is just the minimal nod you can get away with.

Sitting outside the front of the house is not in itself weird. I've lived in such a community, and have also experienced the "no idea who the neighbours are' isolation of a city suburb. I know which I prefer.

No I have not. I love your assumption that I'm a snob who hides behind her net curtain all day sniffing disapprovingly of the lower classes lowering the tone in their front gardens:rotfl:

I know my neighbours and get on well with them but I have no desire to gossip with them on a regular basis, that's what friends are for.

James_N

Daisy70 wrote: »

No I have not. I love your assumption that I'm a snob who hides behind her net curtain all day sniffing disapprovingly of the lower classes lowering the tone in their front gardens:rotfl:

I know my neighbours and get on well with them but I have no desire to gossip with them on a regular basis, that's what friends are for.

My "assumption" is exactly where you started this yourself, so you shouldn't really be that surprised that this is how you come across ...
"... have decided to start drinking in their front garden and lounging about like chavs. Theyre on the tinnys and look awful ..."

Strapped

Hee hee, we only have a front garden - am I a chav for wanting to sit out in it in this nice weather? I might even *gasp* have a drink too.

I can see both sides though: I grew up in married quarters, where ALL the families sat out front and the kids played together. It was nice. But we were "kept an eye on". But I have also experienced the sort of green where older, unsupervised kids hang about swearing and smoking, and calling comments at passer-bys, and that's not nice. The OP's neighbours don't sound like that anti-social sort though?

byjimini

We've got an undertaker with a suspiciously frequent bonfire at the top of his garden living opposite us...

abankerbutnotafatcat

Good luck OP. Neighbours come and go, particularly in rented as this family are, and many potential buyers will bear that in mind. I think only an actual dispute would cause real concern for me.

This thread has caused me to consider the whole concept of front garden use - is it considered a lower class thing and if so I wonder why??

If we had a real front garden I think we may occasionally sit out there for a sun-downer as it gets the evening sun unlike our back garden. It would probably be a glass of wine rather than a tinny haha if that makes any difference!!

I have noted that in Australia it's fairly usual for people to put a sofa and even a tv in front of the house although I'm not sure how that's interpreted!!

phoebe1989seb

James_N wrote: »

My "assumption" is exactly where you started this yourself, so you shouldn't really be that surprised that this is how you come across ...
"... have decided to start drinking in their front garden and lounging about like chavs. Theyre on the tinnys and look awful ..."

Sorry to barge in, but I think you'll find that it wasn't Daisy70 that originally posted that comment, nor is she the OP - who was the originator of the above quoted observation

Good luck to the OP (mummybaker)

keystone

I'm minded that the OPs prospective purchaser was looking for and found a way of saying "sorry but actually I don't want to buy your house now I've seen it." but was too polite to come straight out with it.

Cheers

PoisonIvy

Give them a cocktail shaker and martini glasses. Then they'll look well posh.

mummybaker

James_N wrote: »

These neighbours whose conduct you feel justified in condemning may be glad to see the back of you, and not have a snob as a neighbour. You may get cooperation that way.

I'm less of a snob that you are rude. I look after my home, I work hard to pay my mortgage and selling my home is something which means something to me if you dont want to help or support take your comments elsewhere. Theres no need to be rude.

mummybaker

Thank you all for the advice I totally forgot to set up an email for the post subscription so I'm sorry it's taken me until now to get back to you all.

Well today's viewing went OK as far as i know. The neighbours didn't come out thankfully so the worry was unfounded. I don't know how it went yet as it was the last viewing of the day I shall find out tomorrow. I'm keeping my fingers crossed.

I guess I am a bit of a snob. If wanting my house and the area I live in to be nice and well kept. I join in with the neighbours keeping the green tidy and roads clean so I expect it to be the same from everyone. To us selling the house is really important and to loose it because of the neighbours in the garden was a real shame.

I rew up in one of the worst areas locally and I then bought my first home in another bad area to get on the ladder I've done my stint in rough housing and I paid a premium to get here. So if I expect a bit more than where I grew up its not suprising.

Sorry the nasty comments from James have irked me. funny how he was the only one to be nasty and not supportive.

I hope those of you who have similar issues get it sorted. Fingers crossed my house will sell and we can relax about it all again.

Thank you all for the support I wish I'd seen it all last night when I was stressing. xxxx