working away from home

piglet74

lisawood78 wrote: »

Mine lives/works in south Germany 5 days a week every week, has done for 6 years. Feel for you op

how often does he get home?

gingin_2

Why can you not book some time off and go away somewhere? Does he not have days off?

It doesn't have to be expensive, you can go camping by the coast or something but if you have nothing to look forwards to, or no goal to work towards you are not really living, just existing.

piglet74

gingin wrote: »

Why can you not book some time off and go away somewhere? Does he not have days off?

It doesn't have to be expensive, you can go camping by the coast or something but if you have nothing to look forwards to, or no goal to work towards you are not really living, just existing.

I know :mad:

He was meant to be off jubilee weekend, and we took our caravan to the coast, at the last minute he was called into work!! myself, my DD and her pal went tho, it wasnt the same.

he has no set days off, eg he can be sent to England / Scotland for 2 /3 weeks at a time, then he gets home, works around Ireland for a week or so, (usually nights) then away again. :mad:

gingin_2

piglet74 wrote: »

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I know :mad:

He was meant to be off jubilee weekend, and we took our caravan to the coast, at the last minute he was called into work!! myself, my DD and her pal went tho, it wasnt the same.

he has no set days off, eg he can be sent to England / Scotland for 2 /3 weeks at a time, then he gets home, works around Ireland for a week or so, (usually nights) then away again. :mad:

It sounds miserable, I think you need a goal as a couple though, even if it is a weekend in your caravan in 3 months time, or a more long term goal in terms of him not being away so much.

It looks like you have been productive though, because you weight loss in your signature is seriously impressive. I normally pick and eat not so good stuff when my OH is not here! Your sig is very inspirational.

thegirlintheattic

I'd say there has to be some give and take. He needs to book time off and mean it, go somewhere with no phone signal (large parts of Scotland) and have a weekend to yourself.

Is this a situation that will continue indefientaly? If so, and it's making you unhappy perhaps it's time for the OH to start putting feelers out for a job with less travel. No rush but be on the look out.

mavvymoo

My DH works away too He comes home every other weekend which is not enough.
I find it hard but think he finds it a lot harder being out of the loop so to speak.I find I am making all the decisions without even thinking about it.Then when he phones(which is everyday) I forget to mention it.
The other thing is DSS lives with us so I have sole responsibility for him (he is 15)
Last time he came home he really wants to leave the job but we cant afford it.Contract is until December so we have both said we will work as much as we can and hopefully pay the mortgage off by Christmas and then he has the choice of working nearer on less money but then without mortgage we will be ok.
But it is hard and I cant wait until he is home for good.:)

piglet74

gingin wrote: »

It sounds miserable, I think you need a goal as a couple though, even if it is a weekend in your caravan in 3 months time, or a more long term goal in terms of him not being away so much.

It looks like you have been productive though, because you weight loss in your signature is seriously impressive. I normally pick and eat not so good stuff when my OH is not here! Your sig is very inspirational.

thank you.

a weekend in October / November in a carvan...no thanks :rotfl:

i know what you mean tho, he needs to book holidays, AND take them.

yes i am lucky to have my work, walking, water aerobics, swimming, exercise classes etc to keep me busy, also i am a big reader and can go to bed early with a book and sleep for 8hours so i dont find the days so long at times,

but it is just having someone to share you day with, chat to about your day etc.

billa_champion

piglet74 wrote: »

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I know :mad:

He was meant to be off jubilee weekend, and we took our caravan to the coast, at the last minute he was called into work!! myself, my DD and her pal went tho, it wasnt the same.

he has no set days off, eg he can be sent to England / Scotland for 2 /3 weeks at a time, then he gets home, works around Ireland for a week or so, (usually nights) then away again. :mad:

What does he do?! I worked for a management consultancy who are known to be notorious slave drivers but it was never like this!

piglet74

thegirlintheattic wrote: »

I'd say there has to be some give and take. He needs to book time off and mean it, go somewhere with no phone signal (large parts of Scotland) and have a weekend to yourself.

Is this a situation that will continue indefientaly? If so, and it's making you unhappy perhaps it's time for the OH to start putting feelers out for a job with less travel. No rush but be on the look out.

there is literally NO work here at the mo, a lot of the ads in the jobcentres involve travel, out of the frying pan into the fire,

it prob will go on indefinetly :mad:

he is lucky to have a job, he was made redundant a few years ago, and i had to take on 5 (yes 5) jobs to keep us all,

the last thing i want is to moan and yap that much about it, that he quits, and then where does that leave us

thanks for listening everyone, thanks for all the advice and letting me know i am not the only one,

piglet74

mavvymoo wrote: »

My DH works away too He comes home every other weekend which is not enough.
I find it hard but think he finds it a lot harder being out of the loop so to speak.I find I am making all the decisions without even thinking about it.Then when he phones(which is everyday) I forget to mention it.
The other thing is DSS lives with us so I have sole responsibility for him (he is 15)
Last time he came home he really wants to leave the job but we cant afford it.Contract is until December so we have both said we will work as much as we can and hopefully pay the mortgage off by Christmas and then he has the choice of working nearer on less money but then without mortgage we will be ok.
But it is hard and I cant wait until he is home for good.:)

13 years left on our mortgage :mad: