sick with worry -sorry long post

flutterby_lil

Good luck, your dd comes first, as I am sure you know.

I would prob run a mile in your shoes x

preciousillusions

What exactly does your DD want? Does she want to keep seeing her Dad? Would she prefer just to keep in touch with him by phone or letters rather than having to visit? How would she feel about moving away?

eta: how old is your DD now? I guess if very young she won't really be understanding the situation. In that case feel free to ignore the above questions sorry!

Jinx

You sound like a great mum OP. Reading your post I think you are completely right to keep your daughter from her dad. You have a duty to protect her and in my book that overrules the gains from visiting her dad in prison.

I do also think you could confide in family and friends - you will find they are horrified on your behalf and there to support you and your daughter.

BugglyB

Poet123 is right. Trust your instinct and keep this person out of your daughters life. Until she is old enough to make her own choices.

Your top priority has to be your personal safety and that of your daughter. This is not a matter of his rights to be a father. He is forgoing those rights if he is hiding the extent of his illness to those who care for him.

if you don't feel able to talk to your family, make an appointment with victim support or go and speak to your doctor, don't go through this alone.