why are parents who swear at their kids suprised when they hear them swearing.

weepingtree

Having a lazy afternoon and since I have just recently started posting on here, this has become my chill on the sofa place.

Got me thinking about things that I can post on to see what others think. There will be more to come lol.

Had this only recently with someone I know, I've heard the parent swear at the child more than once before now. And yes I have siad something in fact my dd is no longer allowed around there because of this.

But the other day another friend of mine was round there with her son when the the child of that family ( aged 6 ) was caught using the F word and was screamed at for swearing and guess what told to get up the f***ing stairs. :mad:

j.e.j.

I suppose children have to know that there are some things that adults are allowed to do that children aren't. I wouldn't use foul language to or in front of a child, though, I think it's very inappropriate (and chavvy )

Person_one

It makes no sense, just like punishing children by hitting them and then trying to tell them hitting people is wrong.

weepingtree

j.e.j. wrote: »

I suppose children have to know that there are some things that adults are allowed to do that children aren't. I wouldn't use foul language to or in front of a child, though, I think it's very inappropriate (and chavvy )

Oh I agree with this, if my dd said that she would be told off but not screamed at and sworn at to get upstairs. I would just tell her that this is bad and explain why to the best of my ability and ask her not to say it again, and hope that that would be enough.

Obviously as you I do not swear around my dd either.

balletshoes

I don't think parents who swear around their kids are that surprised that their kids swear, are they?

Bambam

Have to confess to letting the odd swear word slip out when my children were young - but not in a vitriolic way or to/at them - just 'absent-mindedly.'

They are now adults and if they let a 'bloody' appear in a conversation they say "oops, sorry mum!" I'm sure when they're amongst friends it flows freely though but I cannot imagine they would ever use it in front of minors :eek:

weepingtree

balletshoes wrote: »

I don't think parents who swear around their kids are that surprised that their kids swear, are they?

You would think not wouldn't you but apparently this one was.

delain

They hear it at school anyway sadly however careful you are at home!

weepingtree

delain wrote: »

They hear it at school anyway sadly however careful you are at home!

agreed, but maybe I'm just one of the lucky ones because I have never once heard my dd say one bad word. She is in year 3 at school. And she always tells me when someone else says a bad word because she does not like it. ( little tell tale ) lol

room512

My ex's SIL used to call her baby a little b****r (in a nice voice ("Who's a little b****r then?")!!!) from the day he was born. Always wondered what his first word would be - unfortunately we split up before I found out.

weepingtree

room512 wrote: »

My ex's SIL used to call her baby a little b****r (in a nice voice ("Who's a little b****r then?")!!!) from the day he was born. Always wondered what his first word would be - unfortunately we split up before I found out.

thats just strange