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jk0 wrote: »

I know a number of you guys have medical conditions far worse than mine, so maybe you can give me some advice.

You may know that I have to watch my diet like a hawk now, so that I don't have any fat. (My gallbladder starts twinging if I do.) I haven't dated anyone since before I was ill. I only got rid of my zits a few years before that, so am very behind in the dating game.

However, it's not very sexy to have to explain to someone why you can't eat in cafes or even restaurants in view of your medical problem.

Should I keep quiet about the problem before meeting the person, and only let on after a few dates, or should I be upfront from the start?

What do others do?

Personally, in your position, I'd tell the person concerned after the first few dates (or when it came to a social occasion involving food) - whichever of those two came first.

I wouldn't think they'd regard it as that big a deal - as these days there are so many people that either cant or wont eat some foodstuffs (quite apart from any personal tastes they have) that its becoming more normal to accept it/cater for it. Ask Nuatha - after his wedding reception.

I was at something today that involved food - and several people with specific requirements had just turned up expecting they would be okay and just mentioned it after coming. The person in charge duly looked embarrassed - because they hadn't thought to ask people in advance about that and they obviously realised they had been a bit amiss not to do so.

ivyleaf

I wouldn't get too anxious about it jkO - after all, it's quite a common problem, so the person you're dating will most likely have heard of it even if they haven't come across it in their own lives

Karmacat

Mentioning after a few dates, or when food is involved - its not a big deal socially, its a big deal for *you* health wise.

Good for you for thinking about it and considering how best to go for it :j

GreyQueen

Thank you for that tip, AnimalTribe. Do you know if the soya in that TVP is GM free? I won't touch the GM kind. We haven't got that product in my T*sco, which is a mini one, but I will aim to check out one of the bigger stores in a few weeks time. As the others have said, it is an excellent storecupboard staple.

Having a pretty poor run of luck in the 30 minutes after work each day this week; Monday it was a migraine attack, today I nearly passed out up the precinct, tres embarrassing. Dunno if this is all related to the early stages of the menopause or part of the endless variety of weird stuff caused by my chronic illnesses. I think I shall have to get a library book on the Big M and see what's probable.

Been chillaxing with a good book this evening, but just had to pop up and see what the wicked of the world were up to - and youse lot, of course.;)

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MrsLurcherwalker wrote: »

There is a product by Bachelors called 'BEANFEAST' which is still available (I've seen it in A*da) and comes in spag bol, chilli and savoury mince flavours if anyone wants to try it before investing in a big bag.

I buy Beanfeast.

It's quite good actually.

However, I find a decent squirt of tomato ketchup, improves the bolognese one considerably.

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GreyQueen wrote: »

Thank you for that tip, AnimalTribe. Do you know if the soya in that TVP is GM free? I won't touch the GM kind. We haven't got that product in my T*sco, which is a mini one, but I will aim to check out one of the bigger stores in a few weeks time. As the others have said, it is an excellent storecupboard staple.

I work on the basis that ALL soya is G.M. - unless it specifically states its organic. Its my understanding that pretty much all conventionally-grown soya beans are now contaminated by GM:(.

Darn annoying - as I look longingly at edamame beans:mad:.

However, I think maybe all is not lost and I believe I might be able to grow some soya beans myself in my garden and certainly intend to do a bit of experimenting with bean growing there. I'd rather forgotten that until that salutary reminder.

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Re the menopause - couldn't say about those particular symptoms. But hot flushes were a right nuisance for ages and my emotions were even less under my control than regular monthly interference with them. However, there is light at the end of the tunnel and my emotions are MUCH more under MY control since that's all over and done with. So theres that blessing to look forward to. Its shocking to look back over my life prior to then and realise just how often what I thought were MY emotions weren't at all and quite horrifying - but no point in dwelling on it. At least they are mine, all mine now...

nuatha

jk0 wrote: »

I know a number of you guys have medical conditions far worse than mine, so maybe you can give me some advice.

You may know that I have to watch my diet like a hawk now, so that I don't have any fat. (My gallbladder starts twinging if I do.) I haven't dated anyone since before I was ill. I only got rid of my zits a few years before that, so am very behind in the dating game.

However, it's not very sexy to have to explain to someone why you can't eat in cafes or even restaurants in view of your medical problem.

Should I keep quiet about the problem before meeting the person, and only let on after a few dates, or should I be upfront from the start?

What do others do?

If you are using online dating services, put it in your profile, it gets it over and done with before you meet - your date can then raise it if they want more information.
Given that eating out is considered a usual dating activity it might be worth trying to find a restaurant that can cater to your needs, though in good weather might you be able to put a picnic together. That might be an easier scenario to explain that gall bladder issues affect your ability to enjoy a range of foods.
Good luck with it.

GreyQueen wrote: »

Thank you for that tip, AnimalTribe. Do you know if the soya in that TVP is GM free? I won't touch the GM kind. We haven't got that product in my T*sco, which is a mini one, but I will aim to check out one of the bigger stores in a few weeks time. As the others have said, it is an excellent storecupboard staple.

Tesco claim that all Tesco branded products are GMO free.
http://realfood.tesco.com/our-food/tesco-value-range/promise.html

Having a pretty poor run of luck in the 30 minutes after work each day this week; Monday it was a migraine attack, today I nearly passed out up the precinct, tres embarrassing. Dunno if this is all related to the early stages of the menopause or part of the endless variety of weird stuff caused by my chronic illnesses. I think I shall have to get a library book on the Big M and see what's probable.

Been chillaxing with a good book this evening, but just had to pop up and see what the wicked of the world were up to - and youse lot, of course.;)

Hope the rest of the week does not reflect the start.

Penny-Wise_4

nuatha wrote: »

I haven't seen the stewed steak, but have had and enjoyed their tinned steak puddings (tinned suet puddings).
If I saw Goblin stewed steak, I'd certainly buy it, though my initial purchase would be one or two tins. A quick google suggests that poundworld carry it, I'd also check B&M etc.



My favourite cut of beef was one of the cheapest, though lately I've noticed most supermarkets sell shin beef (hough) as stewing steak.
It does amaze me just how pervasive gluten is - especially in products that I couldn't justify using it in my own recipes.

Thanks, that's good advice. I'll keep an eye out for it.

Gluten is in everything these days. I tend to eat no processed foods at all, its safer - and healthier.

I eat cheap cuts of meat too, I believe in nose to tail eating, but I eat cheap cuts from outdoor raised animals. I meant tinned meat was 'cheap' in that it was raised at as cheaply possible to be bought by the canning company at the lowest possible price - and therefore even the best cuts of it would be an inferior product to what I normally choose to eat.

If I buy any goblin stew they will be going straight into the 'Armageddon' cupboard, never to see the light of day unless something dire happens.

Frugalsod

GreyQueen wrote: »

Thank you for that tip, AnimalTribe. Do you know if the soya in that TVP is GM free? I won't touch the GM kind. We haven't got that product in my T*sco, which is a mini one, but I will aim to check out one of the bigger stores in a few weeks time. As the others have said, it is an excellent storecupboard staple.

I think that GM Soya is pretty much everywhere apart from Europe. I think that most soya from Latin America and India is GM.

nuatha

Penny-Wise wrote: »

I eat cheap cuts of meat too, I believe in nose to tail eating, but I eat cheap cuts from outdoor raised animals. I meant tinned meat was 'cheap' in that it was raised at as cheaply possible to be bought by the canning company at the lowest possible price - and therefore even the best cuts of it would be an inferior product to what I normally choose to eat.

I was brought up to eat the whole animal, father was a butcher, but anytime I had any say in the matter we had stewed hough meat. I'm sure there were times we had it out of necessity due to family finances, but its still my favourite meat. Though now its often sold as stewing steak its no longer the cheap cut it was.

Supermarkets generally only sell a limited number of cuts, a trend I've seen echoed by online butchers, this means the less popular cuts are sold cheaply to manufacturing. Though I'm fairly sure the welfare stands that apply to the to animals which end up as supermarket meat are not what I'd consider optimum.