How do I stop feeling broody?

MoaningMyrtle

Okay, watch a birth video, go to bed, set the alarm for 11.45pm, 2.30am,5.15am at each of these times, get straight out of bed, go to a cold kitchen to heat an imaginary bottle, change an imaginary nappy (maybe on a wriggling cat/dog?), pace the bedroom with an imaginary baby on your shoulder each time (for at least half-an-hour).

Get up at 7.30, try to have a shower in two minutes flat, look at your jelly belly in the mirror. Start the day feeling knackered. Wipe sick off your clothes. Go to the supermarket, buy nappies, wipes, milk, clothes, dummies etc. Check bank balance, which will be lower that ever.

This should stave any broodiness for a while.

Snaggles

MoaningMyrtle, that was possible one of the funniest posts I have ever read - I'm STILL laughing 5 minutes later.

alyth

I was laughing at it as well, her post is the reason I'm child-free!

jaype

Myrtle - you forgot... 'cover every item of clothing you possess in tomato sauce and have fun trying to get it all clean again, likewise all your soft furnishings (you may alternate the sauce with jam or yogurt here and there for a bit of variety) make sure you add extra muck to any items with any value or which are dry clean only, and also - go shopping while limiting yourself to looking at each item of food or clothing for just 2 seconds (don't even think about attempting to try things on). if you linger for longer then the penalty is having to run through the shop / crawl round under the clothes rails shouting 'WHERE ARE YOU' at the top of your voice for at least 5 minutes...

gron1979

But i bet none of you would want to be ithout your children in spite of all these things. I have always had an interest in children and knew i wanted to work with children. I am now a primary school teacher, but during the last few months i have become really broody.

I have never felt this bad before, so i can completely understand all the things that you are going through jbbonce. Me and my patner are getting married next year, and we have discussed trying for a baby straight away, but that just seems like such a long time away. I will be 28 by the time we are married, so depending on how long it takes i might be in my 30's before i have a baby.

I would like a big family, but then again i don't want to be old with young children. My parents have retired early from their jobs and are travelling the world as we are all old enough to look after ourselves. This really appeals to me.

My h2b has said that he would love babies too, but if we want to start now then we will have to have a much smaller wedding, which i don't want to do, and i don't want to have just given birth before the run up to the wedding!

Gutted that i will just have to wait and to be honest i am looking forward to all the things a child has to give you, including the long nights, sick, poo. At the end of the day thats a life that you are raising, nothing can bet it...i hope! :A

purplepurple

Could you concentrate on preparing your body to become pregnant? Such as starting to take folic acid, coming off the pill and clearing the chemicals out of your body, (if you're on the pill!) exercise more (not assuming you need to....) learning to meditate etc etc... that way you can feel that you're doing something every day for the baby you'll have in the future.

We moved when I was 8 months pregnant... wouldn't say it was ideal by any stetch of the imagination (mind you, gave me a great excuse to sit back and watch everyone else lug heavy boxes around!) but it can be done. If the desire to get pregnant is so strong it's starting to affect the rest of your life, I say go for it. It may well take you longer than you expect to get pregnant... and as sharronloves2spend says.. there's NEVER a right time to have a baby... you just adapt to the situation you're in.

Good luck... hope it all goes well for you!:D

Carmina_Piranha_3

i was really broody when we were trying for little roo, even though i already had a child. it's something you can't describe to somebody who hasn't felt it. buying baby clothes for our friends when i had been trying for years and wasn't getting pregnant was really painful - physically not just emotionally. it must be even worse for people who don't have a child already.

just as an aside might you be thinking about a baby so much because you've got a lot of stress going on in your life?

perhaps thinking about how awful you might feel if you are being sick every 2 or 3 minutes during all of your exams, and that's even if you can drag yourself out of bed in the first place might make you want to at least hold off until the exams are over of course not everyone gets ill but i have a terrible time for the first 16 weeks including hospitalisation - if i had been pregnant while taking my finals i would have failed.

i also wouldn't want to move house while pregnant, and from an MSE point of view if you get a new job and work for a few months then by the time you need maternity leave you will be entitled to maternity pay :rotfl:

i would buy that little babygrow though, and maybe a pregnancy magazine. you know that your OH wants a baby with you so it's not unreasonable to start planning.

ooobedoo

My stomach hurts soooooooooooooooooo much from laughing

jbbonce

Thanks for all your lovely messages, i really needed someone to give me another perspective, and even after Mrytle's very funny advice, I still feel the same.

I told dh tonight how I feel and he didn't realise how strongly i felt and agrees that there is no point in waiting, so we are now officially TTC! and apparently my fertile period begins tomorrow.

So in the morning i'm off to boots to get some folic acid and I have set myself two weeks to give up smoking. I am also going to try to like oily fish, which I think will be considerably harder than stopping smoking!

I know it does sound a bit stupid to be ttc now when i am so close to finishing uni and i dont even have a proper job, let alone maternity benefits, but I can't bare to wait, but as everyone says, there is never a right time and the chances are that it will take a while anyway. Carmina Pirhana hit it exactly on the head when she said that it feels like a physical rather than a mental or emotional thing.

Toto

I'm a bit broody too sometimes, funnily enough it seems to come on around mid cycle, when I am likely to conceive which means it is obviously all chemical. I am 37 and have 3 kids 16, 10 and 9 so the thought of my having another is a bit silly (especially when you consider my little one has autism and a host of other problems) but I do keep getting that niggle and it's hard to ignore, so I understand what you mean.

I guess you need to concentrate on the journey right now, really get stuck in to moving and finding those jobs, time will go really quickly if you are focused. Before you know it you will have that little bundle. Why not buy one babygrow to keep somewhere secretly, it might help you to stay moving forward and act as an incentive when things are looking tough or you are feeling down.