How do I stop feeling broody?

jbbonce

Aargh! DH and i have decided to ttc after we've moved house, as dh doesn't want to raise a child here, which is fair enough, but this immense desire for a child is taking over my life.

I just can't think of anything else, and have to bite my lip to stop myself from talking about it, and the other day i burst into tears in asda because i saw this little babygro, I mean it was nothing special, but I wanted it so badly and more than that, obviously i wanted a baby to put in it. So far i have managed to restrain myself from buying anything baby related, so it's not impacting the budget, but still. I feel like having a child is a need now rather than a want, like something animalistic and primitive,

It could be a year before we even start trying as the move is a complicated one as we want to move somewhere that is 4 hours away from where we are, and before we can even start that ball rolling, we both need to get jobs up there, which is not as easy as i thought it would be.

I know it must seem like i am being really pathetic, an moaning about nothing, but I need to do something about it because i've got my finals coming up and i can't concentrate on anything but my broodyness.

has anyone successfully managed to get over broodyness, or am i stuck with it til I get pregnant?

*zippy*

I was very broody before our first, but we wanted to wait until the time was right. I used to buy one little thing a week or a parenting magazine, nothing expensive and always small that i could fit into a carrier bag in the cuboard. Everyones different, but it kept me happy, I thought of it as planning for our baby and would bore hubby to death with it whenever he would let me

Horasio

I used to get broody when I was young but it soon passed when I saw a bratty child.

Try looking after a challenging toddler and see if you still feel the same

Jo_R_2

I remember having a vague broodiness a while before having DD1 and a definite broodiness:D before DD2 was conceived. We had planned to wait and DD2 was planned a few years later than she actually arrived

It was quite difficult because I knew I really wanted another as I wanted them to be close in age, and lovely as DD1 is, there's so many lovely things about a little baby that I had started to miss. So I used to read up on baby stuff, make plans for what sort of things we might need to buy, what the room might look like, what pushchair we might get. It doesn't quite compensate for actually having that baby here with you but it's a lovely pastime to window shop for baby stuff and not quite as expensive as forking out for the actual real goods :eek:

As I said, we didn't have to wait as long as we'd originally planned but it helped in the meantime.

bigburd

look after my teenagers for me for a week - that should curb the urges LOL! Only seems like yesterday they were small and helpless. Now I live with real-life Kevin & Perry!! OMG!!

Justie

oh bless jbbonce I hope you find a way to deal with it. It's not something I ever really had a problem with but any time I felt broody I'd have my friend's kid for the weekend and any desire to have a child was amazingly absent for some months afterwards :rotfl:

azjh77

Come to my house and have my four for the day...although if OH hadn't had the snip I might be thinking of another...no what am I saying!!!

ktb

jbbonce I completely understand how you feel! I have had strong maternal urges since I was about 18 (i'm 27 now) but the last few years it feels like it has gone into overdrive. It got particularly bad after my mum was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2005... I suddenly felt like the only thing that made any sense was to have a baby & the thought of losing my mum before I had done that was unbearable. I was single at the time but it got so bad that I seriously asked my best friend if he would consider fathering a child with me.. craziness!

Thankfully 2 years on my mum has been given the all clear and although the intense broodiness has diminished a bit it has not gone completely. I met a wonderful guy 18 months ago and from the outset I made it very clear that having babies was a big priority (& he didnt go running which was a bonus!). The time isnt right for him yet tho - he is only 23 - but he understands that I very much want to have them in the near future.

There are times that its worse than others but I have to let my head rule my heart. We both have debt & cant afford a baby right now and we also want to spend a bit of time travelling together - which having a baby would rule out. Those are really the only things that can snap me back into reality when my head seems totally consumed with pregnancy & babies and all I seem to see around me are pregnant women, babies etc etc....

I dont know if there is an easy answer regards how to stop the broodiness its not easy being rational when your emotions are all over the place... but think how much better it will starting your new life with your baby when you are settled in the place that you really want to live. A year isnt long too wait (my estimated baby time is 2010 :eek: ) ...things will come together for you soon! Keep your chin up hun.

Idiophreak

Just get hold of a birthing video and watch that.
Should be enough to put anyone off.

Horasio

bigburd wrote: »

look after my teenagers for me for a week - that should curb the urges LOL! Only seems like yesterday they were small and helpless. Now I live with real-life Kevin & Perry!! OMG!!

Yes look after troublesome teens and toddlers

If anyone can survive that they can survive almost anything:eek:

sharronloves2spend

I have the same feelings everyday but its something i just have to live with. I have four adorable kids 12, 11, 7, 4. Hubs had the snip when the baby was 1 and i (and he )regrets it. It was a knee jerk reaction to having four kids i think
for me, i have to concentrate on the children i have got and not the ones i havnt. But for you its a bit different, My own personal view is that there is never a right time to have a baby, if we'd have waited for more job security/bigger house/car/more money we never would have had any kids whatsoever! The joys that my children bring me far outweigh any hardship we have had to face. (tiny thing though...babys grow into hormonal 12 year olds....thats another thread though)