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Students taking the proverbial

Where do I start.

Leave all the other details out, DD 19, full grant and loan, living at home , doing honours degree at local uni- will pay no keep.

Runs a nearly new car, bought by Dad.

Boyfriend stays over a lot.

Both have max grants at same uni.

I do not want to be mother who cooks and cleans anymore.

I look after my parents 24/7

What is fair?
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  • Samsaragirl
    Samsaragirl Posts: 145 Forumite
    looks like I've opened 2 threads, apologies, moderators sorry.
  • mynameistallulah
    mynameistallulah Posts: 2,238 Forumite
    Has anything changed since the thread you posted ten minutes ago?

    https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/4062973
  • Samsaragirl
    Samsaragirl Posts: 145 Forumite
    Has anything changed since the thread you posted ten minutes ago?

    https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/4062973

    No, just posted about that sorry. What a silly question
  • mynameistallulah
    mynameistallulah Posts: 2,238 Forumite
    No, just posted about that sorry. What a silly question

    About as silly as posting two near identical threads, eh?
  • oldhand
    oldhand Posts: 3,749 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture
    Where do I start.

    Leave all the other details out, DD 19, full grant and loan, living at home , doing honours degree at local uni- will pay no keep.

    Runs a nearly new car, bought by Dad.

    Boyfriend stays over a lot.

    Both have max grants at same uni.

    I do not want to be mother who cooks and cleans anymore.

    I look after my parents 24/7

    What is fair?

    Show her the opening and tell her not to slam it on the way out.:cool:
  • Samsaragirl
    Samsaragirl Posts: 145 Forumite
    About as silly as posting two near identical threads, eh?
    Absolutely, I must be stupid- sigh
  • Samsaragirl
    Samsaragirl Posts: 145 Forumite
    oldhand wrote: »
    Show her the opening and tell her not to slam it on the way out.:cool:


    Have to do a damage limitation on high earning daddy though
  • kerrypn
    kerrypn Posts: 1,233 Forumite
    No, come on, really, you're the PARENT.

    If she wants to live in your house she has to pay keep, and so does the boyfriend. How will she cope when she flies the nest if you dont show her she has to pay her way now.

    She is lucky to have got away rent free until 19. Tell her she is paying rent or moving out. Her decision.
  • McKneff
    McKneff Posts: 38,857 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture 10,000 Posts Name Dropper
    They are talking the proverbial because you are allowing them to.

    House Rules, write a list.

    Contribute to the household bills, (both of them)

    Also a share of the chores.

    Do it, but you have to follow it through - always - for your own sake.
    make the most of it, we are only here for the weekend.
    and we will never, ever return.
  • Samsaragirl
    Samsaragirl Posts: 145 Forumite
    They are now going to look at flats to move out- good on em, but I feel awful.

    But then why should I?

    Truth is, Daddy earns lots, she is a spoilt bratt.

    I pick this up though, she gets max grants cos of me on IS, but he buys hetr top stuff, and never, ever tells her not to speak to me like a spoilt madam. That alone would have been worth millions to me in our marrriage.

    So, how much board for a 4 bed luxury house, per week?
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