Onwards- Students!

Pollycat

I can't see why this is on the Benefits board.

As someone has already pointed out the OP hasn't asked a question (and seems to be getting a fair amount of benefits anyway).

She has also started another very similar thread (also on the Benefits board):
https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/4062997

FBaby

Have you asked them why they don't think they should contribute?

Samsaragirl

Pollycat wrote: »

I can't see why this is on the Benefits board.

As someone has already pointed out the OP hasn't asked a question (and seems to be getting a fair amount of benefits anyway).

She has also started another very similar thread (also on the Benefits board):
https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/4062997

Yes wrong board- but YOUR point is???

I acknowledged that I am stupid and crap with technology, hence the double thread.

MikeR71

who or what is DD?

Pollycat

Samsaragirl wrote: »

Yes wrong board- but YOUR point is???

I acknowledged that I am stupid and crap with technology, hence the double thread.

My point is that this is the Benefits board where people usually post to ask what benefits they are entitled to etc.

You don't appear to have any questions about benefits.
You have just made 4 statements, asked no questions.
People are confused about what you want.

Instead of getting all antsy why don't you ask any questions you might have.
Maybe somebody can help you.

And that was the point of MY post!
And I'm not the first poster to make that point!

However, if you have problems with your family (as opposed to having problems with benefits or needing advice about benefits), then the best place to post for advice is here:
http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/forumdisplay.php?s=&daysprune=&f=24
rather than here.

Have you followed the links in mynameistallulah's post that directs you to 2 other threads which discusses asking for rent from children to get an idea what is a reasonable amount to ask for?

And instead of getting angry with me, why don't you answer FBaby's question;

FBaby wrote: »

Have you asked them why they don't think they should contribute?

OK, Samsaragirl - here's another question for you:
you say your daughter and her boyfriend are both in full time education.
you say your daughter and her boyfriend refuse to pay 'anything to you'.
So that we can put that into perspective, maybe you can tell us what each of them earn?
They do have jobs, don't they?
Or are you expecting them to pay you board out of their grants and student loans?

MikeR
DD = Dear Daughter

flea72

seeing as a maintenance loan is supposed to cover the majority of a students housing needs, then in reality she should be paying all of this over to you for her keep

F

Pollycat

Samsaragirl
Are you struggling financially and therefore really need to ask for money from your daughter or do you just think she should contribute?

I think her boyfriend is a totally different matter and shouldn't expect to live (presumably) rent free, bill free and have food bought for him in someone else's house.

alwaysonthego_2

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Lotus-eater

Samsaragirl wrote: »

DD gets full loans and grants, yet refuses to pay anything to me. Her boyfriend is here and he refuses to pay anything also.

What do you mean they "refuse" to pay.

You can just refuse to let them stay in the house then.

thorsoak

Dear Samsaragirl

If your ADULT daughter and her ADULT boyfriend refuse to pay you rent - then you refuse to house them!

Tell them - don't ask them - that by the end of - say July, if they do not pay you £xx amount each per month - IN ADVANCE, then their belongings will be packed up in bin-liners and put on the doorstep - and that you will change the locks!

Don't accept any c**p from them - they wouldn't get away with it anywhere else - just tell them - no discussion, nothing - then walk away.

It would appear that you have let other people walk over you for quite some time, and consequently you are coming over on this board as "aggressive passive" - you have been given this advice by several people but you seem to reject it. What else do you expect people to say? Your daughter and BF are behaving like brats - and you are allowing them to do so!

You deserve some respect - so start demanding it, now!

Good luck!