Back with parents + child on weekends

19lottie82

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rambo29

I do have other payments going out such as loans, insurance, petrol so im only left with around £700 then if i take 400 off for rent, bills and food im left with nothing

PasturesNew

Get one of those bunkbeds that has a bed at the top and nothing underneath it... then you can put the cot/etc under it.

Edit: e.g. Ikea do one at £120 http://www.ikea.com/gb/en/catalog/products/70161829/

19lottie82

50% of your net income for loans petrol and insurance is A LOT.

DO you drive an expensive / powerful car? If so can you downsize to save ££?

You should visit the debt free wannabe section of the forum, and they may be able to advise you how you can cut back so you can afford your place, good luck.

Failing that a flatshare sounds like your only option, unless you want to stay in your parents box room forever?

rambo29

I dont drive a big powerful car but i do go and see my daughter during the week which is a good travel thats why i pay alot for petrol. I am also with a debt ilimination company clearing up my debts.

Hump

Assuming you had your own self contained accommodation with the ex-

Your old house - the one with the ex-, was it owned, shared ownership, council rented, housing association tenancy, private tenancy? Are you still joint owner/ joint tenant?

The reason for asking is that certain tenures/ arrangements give you certain rights (and responsibilities) even after 'splitting'

shop-to-drop

How about until you can afford a place of your own you bunk in with your brother at weekends and your daughter can sleep in your room?

rambo29

Me and ex lived with her mother as we had our own room and so did my daughter.

My brother will not budge from his room or have the space for me to bunk in with him.

dibuzz

What about your parents? Could they not have the cot in their room?
Or is there a downstairs room, dining room perhaps, that could be used as a weekend bedroom?

shop-to-drop

rambo29 wrote: »

Me and ex lived with her mother as we had our own room and so did my daughter.

My brother will not budge from his room or have the space for me to bunk in with him.

I actually think it is unfair to expect your brother to give up his room but surely there is room to put a blow up mattress in his room to bunk up at the weekends. Otherwise sleep on a blow up somewhere downstairs and use a baby alarm to listen out for your daughter. We are a family of five who visit grandparents who have a two bed house at weekends and we need to stay over. We bunk up with blow up mattresses and a sofabed it's fine for weekends but am glad it is not permanent.