Relationship/sex advice

Lotus-eater

EchoLocation wrote: »

Good idea if he's worried about his performance, but PLEASE make sure that any toy you whip out is not only smaller than 'him' (you don't want to give him a complex!), but leave him in no doubt that it is to be used ON YOU!:money:

Not all men are so worried about their size that they can't cope with using a toy bigger than them on their OH, it does deserve a gentle talk first though to check. Don't want to make him any worse.

And why does it only have to be used on her? Is this where several women go, Eu! and Grose! :rotfl:

Barneysmom

Lotus-eater wrote: »

Not all men are so worried about their size that they can't cope with using a toy bigger than them on their OH, it does deserve a gentle talk first though to check. Don't want to make him any worse.

And why does it only have to be used on her? Is this where several women go, Eu! and Grose! :rotfl:

I would say 'buy your bluddy own'

Ellejmorgan

ukjoel wrote: »

You say your a big girl - how big.

Not saying size is an issue before anyone jumps on top of me but maybe he just doesnt know how to handle you. Every girl is different and some guys find it hard to make the crossover.

You mention the words sex and cuddles - it doesnt sound like it was ever wild and rampant.

Also you mention you have teenagers and he is 35. If the teenagers live at home maybe he is put off by them being on the other side of a thin wall and hearing mum screaming her head off in passion. Could be awkward for him at breakfast if he is shy.

Your threatening to run off with shades of grey and a rabbit. Why dont you just get the rabbit out in front of him and start playing with yourself. Maybe he is more of a watcher and that will get him started. And if it doesnt who cares - just got to hope the batteries dont run out.

Dont compare him with blokes from your past - if they were that good then they wouldnt be from your past.

Try one of those adult games when your away to try and force him into dipping a toe in the water. If all else fails and your still really horny I am sure there will be large numbers of posters offering to help along in a moment.

Fantastic advice...:T:T

Maybe you are trying too hard, forgive the pun..;)
Relax a little, try a bath together with some radox, don't suggest sex initially, kiss him gently...

Compliment him and hopefully he'll do the same, ask him if he would like a massage, or ask him to massage you...

Perhaps he could also be too tired for it, how many of us want to at the end of a long day ??
Is the time of day right for you both ???

I am certain it isn't what you weigh or he wouldn't have got with you in the first place if it was..

Lotus-eater

Barneysmom wrote: »

I would say 'buy your bluddy own'

Fair point :rotfl:

candygirl

Lotus-eater wrote: »

Fair point :rotfl:

Awww it's nice to share though;)

BitterAndTwisted

The only really natural remedy is desire, you spamming numpty

geoffky

Is he on any sort of medication?

And have a good day out shopping at ann summers together.

bltchef

Hi i had a similar problem iam a male i live with someone who i could never please in all ways we separate and i meet some else and had very similar problems to what you described but we worked through it. What it was for me i did not enjoy sex any more i felled like a work horse i had not lost interests in it i because i could please my ex i thought this new was going to the same i could not climax during sex so i made a lot of excuses but she made it less about sex and made fun which help me a lot but i did have to be very open with her and we talked . and it took awhile for me to enjoy sex agin but it was been worth it all the embarrassment
:beer:

silkyuk9

God I cant believe im getting involved in this but now ive read ive got to write.

Men generally get turned on by what they see. So ill leave it there.

familygirl82

you cant change someone unfortunatly, and if this is how he has become in your relationship, it could just be thats how he is. and you have the right to want something different if its not making you happy?
if you have discussed with him your wants, likes and how you feel and he is not being reponsive in any way, then i would see this as a problem personally. when your in a relationship and you love someone and care and respect them you would make the effort be aware that things have slipped and changed as this is normal in relationships due to the pressures of everday life, but when its one sided and only one of you is doing the work and making the efforts then there is and will be a continuing problem? relationships should be 50 50 and communication is the key? talk and discuss with him how you feel, in the hope he will listen and act on you would like ? if he dosnt then think about your options and act accordingly. We all deserve to be happy, and sometimes things dont always work out as we hope. maybe after time you have realised you are different people and have different interests and it just wernt meant to be, or if its a case of becoming content and comfortable where he has stopped making so much of an effort then there is definatly room for improvement. good luck in what ever happens, and as hard as it is, turn down any other attention because you will regret it and it will not help your situation just make it so much harder...i hope everything works out for the best xx