make do and mend for tougher times

Pips_Mum

Daughters room sounds fantastic Pooky! What a great way of letting her express herself and wonderful she has done it tastefully and thoughtfully. My 20 year old cousin has one complete wall in her room thats covered in photos it looks amazing and you get so many memories just from looking round.

mcculloch29

Pops, it was definitely me you saw, I am the only female trike rider on the town (now, saying 'on the town' DEFINITELY gives it away, Fuddle, lol). If you love music you will perhaps enjoy the live music club that meets at the Cricket Club on a Tuesday night from 8.30. I'm not there next week but I am there every week usually.
I've been reading your posts for some time, never imagined you would be here too - let's face it, it's not a big town.

bossymoo

Popperwell wrote: »

The PO allows me to access my Lloyds TSB account so I probably can stay with the bank if it closes here.


Short Bird it isn't finalised until November but I cannot remember if that's this year or next year so I can wait and see what happens...may have to pay the cc bill by cheque as you suggest.

Running a car really is expensive now Katieowl, frightening...yes I am thinking of paying my utility bills by DD, I have to pay my ISP that way...

As I understand it the new bank wil be trading (allegedly) from jan 2013, although its not yet certain if there is a buyer or if it will IPO. Customers will be migrated across from then to may, and the whole thing has to be finished and out there on its own by nov 2013. Customers who's accounts will be transferred will hear about it early next year.

Popperwell

mcculloch29 wrote: »

Pops, it was definitely me you saw, I am the only female trike rider on the town (now, saying 'on the town' DEFINITELY gives it away, Fuddle, lol). If you love music you will perhaps enjoy the live music club that meets at the Cricket Club on a Tuesday night from 8.30. I'm not there next week but I am there every week usually.
I've been reading your posts for some time, never imagined you would be here too - let's face it, it's not a big town.

Well one of these Tuesday's...who know's;)

If I use the clich!, it's a small world, it really is. As I passed you, you'd have done the same and seen me struggling around where Aldi is being built walking very, very slow and struggling with my walking stick and yet we never knew...

It's a very slow night and as I listen to the radio I can see me going to bed aerly. I do that more now than I used to...I was always first up and last one up.

To all those that told me to look after myself ,

I promised that I'd eat more today and I have been better but I kept falling asleep and by then it was later in the day...

But have had some soup, coffee, caramel shortcake and sandwiches with ham, tomato, lettuce and spring onions(not in any particular order)but I will do better over the weekend now I have cooked that chicken.

I may still have some cereal and fruit later so I am trying...

Popperwell

bossymoo wrote: »

As I understand it the new bank wil be trading (allegedly) from jan 2013, although its not yet certain if there is a buyer or if it will IPO. Customers will be migrated across from then to may, and the whole thing has to be finished and out there on its own by nov 2013. Customers who's accounts will be transferred will hear about it early next year.

That sounds about right Bossymoo and you'll have the inside information;)and may be affected by the change too?

But I'll never be a favourite customer of any bank unless I win the Euromillions...

Popperwell

The milk situation may improve as the Co-op says they'll pay more for the Dairy Farmer's milk...I assume other suprarkets etc...will follow suit?

monnagran

I can see that the way to cope with this thread is to sit here waiting for the next post to come up. It's taken me an hour to catch up on just today's.

Pops (if I may be so familiar), I know just where you are coming from. Grief is a mixture of lots of things, not just loss but guilt, nostalgia, having to cope with change, and sheer disbelief that the person just isn't there any more. I lost my Dad, aged 97, last year and although it didn't hit me at once I still find that the strangest things can set off the raging pain.
It didn't help that Dad was in hospital at the end and his treatment was appalling. We did everything we possibly could to make the staff aware of the fact that he was very deaf but they still talked very quietly with their backs to him and within the first two weeks they'd lost one of his hearing aids and broken the other. They also lost his glasses so he couldn't read. In the first month he lost two and a half stone and was always thirsty when I arrived - his water was left out of his reach. So our grief was compounded by anger.
Both my brother and I live a long distance from the hospital but we had a family friend who went in every day that we couldn't make it and she was horrified at what was going on. My overwhelming feeling was guilt because I had promised him that if it was in my power he would not die in hospital and that I would be with him. As it was I couldn't keep either of those promises. When the doctor called me to say that I had better come I shot out of bed, it was just gone midnight, and I managed to get the last ferry by the skin of my teeth and broke all the speed limits but still arrived about 10 minutes too late.
Anyway - why am I boring you all with this> Sorry. I just wanted you to know that my heart goes out to you and I know how much you must be hurting. It doesn't actually get better but it does get less bad. You will laugh again.

I don't know where all that came from so I'd better go to bed and get back on track tomorrow.

x

Popperwell

Monnagran,
Thank you for that, my heart goes out to you too and there are so many simularities about the care or lack of it, in the hospital and the nursing home when it had come to that. I have specific examples that would illustrate the sghort comings. I too had every intention of bringing Mum home, Mum wanted to be in here, she smiled at that thought.

I was told Mum would not get out of the hospital, then there was improvement, that got her over to a nursing home on the town and I think I was making a difference.

I will always wonder if I missed something or the home did all that they could have, alas too late, the coroner seemed to accept the situation at the PM. And the home has a good inspection record but I found it lacking in some aspects and was glad that I spent as long as I did there and with Mum.

But it won't bring Mum back. Perhaps her body just could not cope with the additional complications and she was weak and frail in the end but what a fighter.

On a selfish point having seen what Mum was treated like being single I do not exactly feel very positive about the care I will receive when it's my turn.

Thank you for your kind words.

Popperwell

Morning All,

The above may still be true but...

I am still feeling more brighter and like my old self. I have had a good sleep until now and hope to go back to bed shortly(May have coffee)

I know it's the wee small hours of the morning but I am having some chip sticks, a sandwich with cheese, tomato, egg and lettuce but...I have used for the firsttime my 85p egg slicer. It's fantastic!

Lovely thin slices of egg, all uniform and no egg yolk dropping out...

VJsmum

GreyQueen wrote: »

Boudicca/ Boadicea? You could add knife blades to the wheels and freewheel downhill on your chariot screaming at the Romans.

fuddle wrote: »

Boadicea it is! I like that!

Well, bu88er me!! As soon as Fuddle wrote her first post I thought "Boudicca!" and Boudicca she is - great minds, eh?;)

oh and Spiky - your DS won't have noticed the weather as he will have had the curtains drawn. 16 year olds are allergic to daylight if mine is anything to go by. Or is she just a vampire? Is that why vampires are all the rage at the mo, as teenagers can relate to them? :rotfl:ANd I'm not sure they know how to keep rooms tidy either no matter what they've done to them. My DD is a bit of a geek (or is it a nerd?) and has all sorts of Sci Fi pictures over her walls. I had to sleep in there the other day (she and her friends were having a sleepover and I could hear them from my room above the lounge) and woke up to see Matt Smith and his sonic screwdriver (oo err missus) grinning down at me. COuld have been worse - could have been Mr Spock. Regrettably, though she does like him, she doesn't have a Sherlock poster - now that I wouldn't have minded waking up to

Anyway, where was I? Am very, very miffed at being awake. Have been awake since 4.00, gave up at 5.00 and am thinking of havng a soak in the bath. Today, tonsilitis notwithstanding, I am off to the Big Apple :j Me, the Ibuprofen, the paracetomol and the antibiotics (oh and the kids - OH is coming out next week) are flinging ourselves part way round the world in a narrow tube. It's OK as my antibiotics don't say that I can't have a pre-flight gin (or two - usually the only way I can get on the things. My OH says it's all in my mind - OF COURSE IT'S ALL IN MY CHUFFING MIND!). We won't be going to bed till about 2.00 in the morning UK time, so being awake at 4 is not what I needed. We are lucky in that we have had many "once in a lifetime" holidays, but I think this may be the last we have as a family given the precarious nature of OH's job at the end of the year, and University etc looming. I have often regretted money spent on things, but never regretted money spent on travelling - and my kids are the better for it, too. My tonsils look a bit healthier today, so I think it may be bacterial after all and the anti-b's are doing some good. Hopefully that means I shall feel better tomorrow, and at least all I have to do today is sit on stuff and be taken somewhere.

We have very thick fog forming outside. Very autumnal - was that summer then?

I will be checking in from time to time - but largely will see you all in 3 weeks. Enjoy the sunshine - it always visits the UK when I am not here!:cool: