Overhanging bushes, pavements and prams

moneyhoney1

dizziblonde wrote: »

And I'm a parent with a very very small baby - I just don't see the point in persuing some hysterical mummy vendetta to demand everyone trims a hedge to my own personal requirements - if I'm going to approach one of those serious hedges with someone coming the other way - I hang back till they've past, or they wave me past... no one gets a face full of soggy bush - the world doesn't fall off its axis and stop spinning... simples. Perhaps if you stopped using the pushchair as a bulldozer and expecting the world to part a path in advance of your arrival and used those two clever little things in your head called "eyes" you might find your passage through life somewhat alleviated from the trauma of soggy bushdom.

I'd rather actually ENJOY my little girl, whom we went to hell and back to concieve, carry as a successful pregnancy and get through the crapness that is a NICU stay to have - than sit on the internet looking for stupidly percieved slights, which are actually just one of the many annoyances of life anyway, and blame them directly as mummy discrimination in the persuit of something to whine about.

I'd still love a life where the trauma of a wet bit of shrubbery was the worst thing that happened to me on the average day. And for it to be something SO traumatic that it warrants sitting hurling personal abuse at anyone who DARES question you or call you out on how daft it all sounds - god your life must be idyllic.

When do I use my pram as a bulldozer? I don't recall this. We are talking about obstacles we encounter during everyday life on our streets, not just bushes. I don't expect anyone to move out of my way and I quite happily wait as others go by. I have no right over them, why do you suggest this?
I was just trying to make a point of saying that as a pram pusher I encounter some of the problems other parents do including the OP's when I'm out with my pushchair.
I also don't remember starting to hurl personal abuse, you've got your head in a right tizzy over this. Just because other peoples problems are not as big as yours, why have a go at them?
I know its all a bit trivial but these are the things us parents face everyday however you decide to deal with it.

Gigglepig

I am expecting my first so I may not be "in the know", but with a baby/toddler at least there are other options like slings and baby carriers.

Sure it can be a nuisance living close to a school due to all the cars and random parking but it isn't that important in the grand scheme of things.

I do feel really sorry for disabled people however who encounter these obstacles and can't just walk around the cars, or use a baby sling instead of wheels.

moneyhoney1

I think a sling is a really good idea and sounds like an elegant solution to me. I'll look into getting one before my wee one gets too big.
Thanks for your suggestion:)

HeatherintheHills

Wow! War between school age parents and push chair parents! Where will it all end :eek:

Personally, I hate it when I'm pulling my heavily loaded shopping trolley along a perfectly adequate pavement and am obstructed by a couple of mums with parallel parked buggies, who look straight through me and carry on chatting. The reactions I get when I ask them, politely, to move because I need to get through without going onto the road are astounding! Are manners only for non parents?

Same thing happens on the bus. Parents with push chairs or young children assume they have the right to get on first and to hell with wheelchair users, elderly people or those carrying heavy shopping.

Another one that really gets up my nose is when parents organise their brood of little ones in all of the available seats at the front of the bus. Can children really not manage to walk a few steps further to the middle of the bus?

When I was little if the bus was full I sat on mum's lap or stood up next to her and held on tight. I was NEVER allowed to sit in a seat when adult passengers were standing. I was also firmly and publicly reprimanded if I didn't get up immediately to offer my seat if someone who needed it more than I did got on the bus. Similar lessons were learnt when walking along the footpath, I soon learnt to move behind mum while still holding her hand when people were coming towards us. Oddly enough, I grew up with an acute awareness of what was going on around me, I wonder how I learned that?

Respect and manners are a two way process. Don't teach your kids that the rest of the world is something they can ignore.

Errata

Wow! War between school age parents and push chair parents! Where will it all end :eek:

Mumsnet ?

suki1001

moneyhoney1 wrote: »

It was some thoughtless persons motorbike. I was able to go down the kerb but someone in a wheelchair would have had to turn round and find a drop kerb just to get by this sodding bike. I spat on the seat i was so outraged.
Come on people stop being so fcuking naive, other people's thoughtlessness is a problem.

Am I the only person who finds acts of vandalism and behaviour like spitting vile methods of retaliating?

I've had my fair share of negotiating obstacles in the street with my non bulky pushchairs and prams. My pet hate used to be wheely bins, because the bin men used to just leave them willy nilly all over the pavement, but to spit or damage other people's property - come on. I'm well aware other people do things that are annoying and inconsiderate, but how can you be absolutely certain that you or I haven't done the same thing? I mean that's the whole point, often other people don't realise they've done something to annoy you, or they wouldn't do it. Those bin men just didn't think to put the bins back properly, they weren't personally making me do the equivelant of the krypton factor.

Mad-Frog

There is a shrub at the front of my garden half on mine and my neighbours property. There is a birds nest in there and birds used it in the spring much to our joy

I wonder if there is a law to protect our shrub for birds in case I am forced to lop it down because someone might get wet while brushing past it? ( although surely you will be wet anyway with this lovely summer weather!) It's not too overgrown and it has had a trim

The only solution I can see is to knock everyones house down and rebuild the roads so 2 cars can fit either side without obstructing other cars and to make the pavements twice the size

Personally I find trying to drive my car down my road when I have finished work past the school annoying due to all the cars parked everywhere and children running in and out of the road.

Mojisola

Mad-Frog wrote: »

I wonder if there is a law to protect our shrub for birds in case I am forced to lop it down because someone might get wet while brushing past it? ( although surely you will be wet anyway with this lovely summer weather!) It's not too overgrown and it has had a trim

There is a law against cutting back hedges/shrubs while the birds are actually nesting but no restriction on doing so once the fledglings have flown.

janninew

suki1001 wrote: »

Am I the only person who finds acts of vandalism and behaviour like spitting vile methods of retaliating?

I've had my fair share of negotiating obstacles in the street with my non bulky pushchairs and prams. My pet hate used to be wheely bins, because the bin men used to just leave them willy nilly all over the pavement, but to spit or damage other people's property - come on. I'm well aware other people do things that are annoying and inconsiderate, but how can you be absolutely certain that you or I haven't done the same thing? I mean that's the whole point, often other people don't realise they've done something to annoy you, or they wouldn't do it. Those bin men just didn't think to put the bins back properly, they weren't personally making me do the equivelant of the krypton factor.

Nope your not alone at all!

I find it annoying as the next person having to dodge things on the pavement, especially when I have my pram and 3 dogs on their leads. Cars that park on the pavement are a nuisance, but I would never just barge past and knock wing mirrors off and scratch cars - when did 2 wrongs make a right?

thatgirlsam

Noggin_1 wrote: »

I've never really paid much attention before but since having a baby and taking him out in his pram I have noticed a lot of untidy garden hedges. Is it just me?
If someone is coming the other way on the pavement I have 2 choices, either I go on the grass verge or walk into peoples overhanging flora and in this weather I get wet:( What is the law on this?
Also, if I am walking near a school the cars are parked half on the path and half on the road and I've ended up pushing the pram into the road:eek: surely this isn't right.

Has anyone else experienced things like this, how do wheelchair users cope with pavement obstructions? What annoys you when you are walking along the pavement?

What's wrong with pushing your buggy onto the grass verge for a moment? It's not going to do any harm! Am I missing something??

It must be a bit annoying if you have to push your pram into the road.. but even then, you must go into the road occasionally to cross it? Just use your common sense

I can't think of anything that has annoyed me when walking on the pavement. Maybe people with prams giving me evils for daring to do so!