Overhanging bushes, pavements and prams

moneyhoney1

dizziblonde wrote: »

Ooo-err missus!

If someone's scruffy bush is the worst that happens to you on any given day - I'd say you're doing pretty well and I wish that my problems were that trivial.

How do you define a "serious hedge" - is he looking all stern, possibly with spectacles pulled halfway down his nose so he can look over the top all earnestly?

Dur, read my post above...properly

It must be so idyllic where you live;)

dizziblonde

moneyhoney1 wrote: »

Dur, read my post above...properly

It must be so idyllic where you live;)

No, I just realise everyday life goes on and have bigger stuff to worry about than next door's clematis having a vendetta out to spoil my day.

Do you seriously not realise how ridiculous you sound?

moneyhoney1

dizziblonde wrote: »

No, I just realise everyday life goes on and have bigger stuff to worry about than next door's clematis having a vendetta out to spoil my day.

Do you seriously not realise how ridiculous you sound?

Like the OP I too am the parent of a small baby and living in a very populated area, I come across similar problems when out with baby. I'm sure I am not the only one.

Why don't you go and concentrate on your bigger stuff then???

fluffnutter

moneyhoney1 wrote: »

Like the OP I too am the parent of a small baby and living in a very populated area, I come across similar problems when out with baby.

Life's full of problems. For me the point is how you deal with them. People seem unable to use their initiative, or think of a solution, or perhaps just accept that the whole world's not arranged at their convenience. Why the need to whine about things on the interweb all the time? What's wrong with just getting on with it?

dizziblonde

moneyhoney1 wrote: »

Like the OP I too am the parent of a small baby and living in a very populated area, I come across similar problems when out with baby. I'm sure I am not the only one.

Why don't you go and concentrate on your bigger stuff then???

And I'm a parent with a very very small baby - I just don't see the point in persuing some hysterical mummy vendetta to demand everyone trims a hedge to my own personal requirements - if I'm going to approach one of those serious hedges with someone coming the other way - I hang back till they've past, or they wave me past... no one gets a face full of soggy bush - the world doesn't fall off its axis and stop spinning... simples. Perhaps if you stopped using the pushchair as a bulldozer and expecting the world to part a path in advance of your arrival and used those two clever little things in your head called "eyes" you might find your passage through life somewhat alleviated from the trauma of soggy bushdom.

I'd rather actually ENJOY my little girl, whom we went to hell and back to concieve, carry as a successful pregnancy and get through the crapness that is a NICU stay to have - than sit on the internet looking for stupidly percieved slights, which are actually just one of the many annoyances of life anyway, and blame them directly as mummy discrimination in the persuit of something to whine about.

I'd still love a life where the trauma of a wet bit of shrubbery was the worst thing that happened to me on the average day. And for it to be something SO traumatic that it warrants sitting hurling personal abuse at anyone who DARES question you or call you out on how daft it all sounds - god your life must be idyllic.

Angelicdevil

Don't worry, it'll be your turn to park ridiculously when your little darlings are school age

Mojisola

ognum wrote: »

Oh dear OP, is this really the most important thing in your life to thinks about, a few overhanging bushes. I cny believe how petty some people are. There are many people in the world who have serious problems!

This really is a non-argument. If you followed it through, human beings wouldn't be allowed to make any small changes that improve life until world poverty was solved and everywhere was at peace.

Changing small things and/or keeping a neighbourhood in good condition affects how people behave - the "one broken window" theory. Mayor Giuliani's "zero-tolerance" scheme grew out of the idea.

Apart from having direct effects on the amount of crime committed in an area, removing graffiti, mending broken infrastructure and, yes, ensuring people can walk unimpeded along the pavements, helps people to feel better about themselves and their environment. If people are feeling good about themselves, then tend to behave better towards other people which is better for everyone.

dizziblonde

Angelicdevil wrote: »

Don't worry, it'll be your turn to park ridiculously when your little darlings are school age

I love the solution one of our local schools has - they've got a fence between them and the Tescos that backs onto the school site - which they unlock during the pickup and drop off times of the day and lock the rest of the time (staff have keys to have the shortcut to go buy sarnies at lunch) and they use Tescos for parent parking - roads around the school are the clearest I've ever seen, Tescos get the "oh we'll just pop in for a..." trade and the school doesn't get to sit in the middle of the usual parking warzone.

Amanda65

I live next door to a school and have to say that all of the parking problems down our road are caused by the Mummies whose little darlings cannot possibly walk more than 2 meters from school gate to car and heaven forbid if it's raining at they might get damp

I particularly like the ones who look at me so confused you would think I had asked them to solve the world debt crisis when in fact all I have done is ask them to move the car that they have parked across my drive so I can get in or out (yes, it has a drop curb and a white line but doesn't seem to stop them thinking it is their own personal parking space).

And before anyone says I don't understand, I am a mother of 3 (now teenage /early twenties) children and can remember having to go shopping and parking in normal parking spaces as well as negotiating narrow paths etc :eek::eek::eek:. Unfortunately it's a fact of life that sometimes things aren't as convenient as they could be for you and you just have to suck it up and move on. It honestly makes for a much happier path through life in my opinion.

Oh and I'm obviously very immature as have to confess that the 'overhanging bush' title did have me snickering - must been reading far too much 50SoG

gingin_2

dizziblonde wrote: »

I'd rather actually ENJOY my little girl, whom we went to hell and back to concieve, carry as a successful pregnancy and get through the crapness that is a NICU stay to have - than sit on the internet looking for stupidly percieved slights

Aren't you doing just that - except you are ranting about a rant?