School Prom vent....

Nan63

My daughter had her prom night 17 years ago, it was all big gowns, nails and hair even then. I don't recall it costing a fortune either, I did her hair, painted her nails and put on her make up! I got her dress from a second hand dress agency (as did many of her friends).

Funnily enough, I had the scrapbook out the other day and we were laughing at how young she looked but how she thought she was all grown up at the time. She did look lovely

shellsuit

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

Did you read the article where she said they will be !!!!!ing about each other?amongst other things!!! And how her dress will be tight and the boys will love it!!
We are talking about 15/16 year olds!!

I thought you were just going on their looks.

And a lot of girls that age and younger chat all that crap, on social networking sites or on BBM.

Dunroamin wrote: »

You must be looking at a different photograph! They look about twice their age and totally inappropriate for 16 year olds.

They do look older, not anywhere near 30 or 32 though.

They look clean, not a tide mark in sight, or mahoosive eyebrows.

There dresses aren't tarty and they're not flashing a load of flesh in a sexual way.

I don't see what's wrong at all with the way they look in those pictures. All girls look older with make up on.

I've seen girls the same age flashing their boobs and legs, looking like wotsits with ratty tatty hair extensions, orange hands, ankles and knees, HUGE eyelashes and badly applied make up, with bottles or glasses of alcohol in their hands. That's not a good look at all.

louise3965

RuthnJasper wrote: »

A college close to where I work had theirs on Friday - you could hardly move on the road for luxury hire-cars and pink stretch-limos ferrying sl*ppers to the party.

Ferrying sl*ppers? That's a vile thing to say. :mad:

Pollycat

shellsuit wrote: »

What's wrong with them? I think all those girls look beautiful.

The only thing I don't agree with is the large amount of money spent, but if the parents can afford it, who are we to judge?

It's the parents who can't afford it (and of course their children) who I feel for.



Parents of the girls featured:

• own a photography business
• owns a landscaping business
• television producer mother and father, film director
• a customer services advisor, and a plumber
• a crafts teacher and her father who owns a building and construction business

Three very sad quotes:

A girl I know isn’t coming because her mum couldn’t pay for an outfit. I felt so sorry for her, and offered a spare dress and crown, but she was too embarrassed to accept as she didn’t want anyone to find out she had to borrow clothes

The money side of the prom has been stressful. My stepdad is struggling for work, so I’ve been trying to find the nicest but cheapest things possible to buy myself — I work part-time teaching dance to children.

I fell in love with a sparkly blue dress, but at £300 we couldn’t afford it. My mum looked like she was going to cry in the shop, she felt so bad, but she was being perfectly reasonable.

I know one girl who isn’t going to the prom because her parents are out of work. They offered to pay for a dress, but she wouldn’t let them. I think if I hadn’t been able to get a nice dress, I probably would have stayed at home.

and this is sad in a different way:

Most of the kids at school, (Harrytown Roman Catholic High School in Romiley), don’t have money worries — one boy is going to arrive by helicopter.

:eek:

janninew

louise3965 wrote: »

Ferrying sl*ppers? That's a vile thing to say. :mad:

That's exactly what I was thinking! A horrible way to describe 15/16 year old girls.

I work in a secondary school and we've just had our prom, by all accounts it was a fab evening, the kids were well behaved and a credit to the school. So what if they like to dress up in fancy dresses and get their nails done. What harm are they doing!

POPPYOSCAR

shellsuit wrote: »

I thought you were just going on their looks.

And a lot of girls that age and younger chat all that crap, on social networking sites or on BBM.



They do look older, not anywhere near 30 or 32 though.

They look clean, not a tide mark in sight, or mahoosive eyebrows.

There dresses aren't tarty and they're not flashing a load of flesh in a sexual way.

I don't see what's wrong at all with the way they look in those pictures. All girls look older with make up on.

I've seen girls the same age flashing their boobs and legs, looking like wotsits with ratty tatty hair extensions, orange hands, ankles and knees, HUGE eyelashes and badly applied make up, with bottles or glasses of alcohol in their hands. That's not a good look at all.

The photos in the article are professionally taken and not even on the night. I saw at first hand the real thing and believe me they did look about 30.

My daughter is 15 and I as a parent do not want her to look like 30, and find it sad that it is some kind of competition who can look the best, and to look down on those that do not match up to that.

It should be a fun evening, not one where they try to out do one another.

Sad, sad society.

notakid

Its my daughter's prom on Wednesday.

It is an expensive game.

I've a make up person to do her face £15
Limo shared with friends £30
Fake Tan/eyel/nails £10
Shoes/Bag/Bling (Skull Necklace!) £100
Dress and Shrug £80
Ticket £35
Velcro Rollers for Hair and Dye (Pink) £20.00

So just rolls in under £300.00........:eek:

And we haven't gone mad honest! And we are the type normally to indulge in all of this. But my daughter wants to feel special so who I'm I to refuse?

Saying that she did say to me that her friends parents would be buying them some drinks. I expressed surprise at this but reflecting on it I think she is having me on! :rotfl::rotfl:

Just to add, my Daughter is going with pink hair beehive and a skull necklace. She's alittle alternative, She isn't going to look "sexy" or try and ape TOWIE, she just wants to look nice!

janninew

Pollycat wrote: »

It's the parents who can't afford it (and of course their children) who I feel for.


Parents of the girls featured:

• own a photography business
• owns a landscaping business
• television producer mother and father, film director
• a customer services advisor, and a plumber
• a crafts teacher and her father who owns a building and construction business

Three very sad quotes:




and this is sad in a different way:

:eek:

I feel sorry for those kids and parents as well, but its a valuable life lesson to learn. Some people have more money than others, harsh but very true.

Bennifred

.....and no-one has mentioned the after parties!:eek:

Janepig

We didn't have anything when I was at school. Sat my last GCSE and that was it. Goodnight Irene. No disco, no nothing. And we all finished on different days because we were sitting different exams. Can't say I was bothered.

DD's primary school have a leavers "party" which involves all the year six kids getting a limo ride about half an hour down the road to go ten pin bowling - all the younger kids and the parents wave them off, it's quite fun. They've done that for about the last 20 years I would say, it's not a new thing. It's quite nice that they mark the transition to comp I think - again when I left primary school for comp we did nothing, which is quite sad when you think that I was there for four years - DD will have been at her school for 8 years by the time she goes up to comp in 2014.

DD's a veteran of the spray tan anyway, she's had afew of them for her cheerleading competitions. I think she'd have them every week if I let her, but there's no danger of that. She won't be wearing make up to comp either if I have my way. My old headmaster would be spinning in his grave if he saw the state of some of the girls going to school now. We weren't allowed make up, and anyone that dared to try wearing it was given cotton wool and make up remover and marched to the toilets to wipe it off. Not a bad thing imo.

Jx