I'm a sucker :(

Kiboko

Lotus-eater wrote: »

Having no money is hard and can make you bitter and unhappy about other things that normally wouldn't worry you.

This is so true, it can make situations that normally you just get through seem like insurmountable never ending disasters Add in the depression ...............

Pee

It may be an idea to make the list of positives and negatives and then review it a few times to give you the best chance of looking at it in a balanced way.

I would usually say if you have any doubts about whether someone is the right person, they probably aren't BUT I am not sure that I mean this when both of you are suffering from depression and a severe shortage of money.

It does keep coming back to the fact that you need to talk to one another.

I was reading the other day about a couple who have a family meeting once a week, just the two of them. They go through all the budget stuff and only bring it up at that meeting. They also talk about stuff they need to do, the example given was a tax return that otherwise they might try to ignore. At other times if they didn't feel like discussing it they would save it for the meeting. (If the meeting was weekly, most things would wait that long.)

It is just finding what works for you.

Froom2

Well, yesterday evening we had a mild disagreement and I decided to retreat to the bedroom to chill out and read a book. I turned the laptop on and ended up having a really good conversation with my boyfriend (who was in the living room) over messenger. I think he finds it easier to express himself by text
So we chatted a bit, and got some things out in the open and it was really good.

So yes, I think that stress is really getting him down. And then last night it was 4am again before he managed to sleep. Doctors today, he said when we were chatting, when I asked if he thinks there might be an element of depression in there, that he wasn't sure, and that he'd find out today at the doctors.

So I think things will be okay. And I really do love him. Things are just tough at the moment, neither of us is able to do the things we want to due to lack of funds. It seems so sad that that is the case, but hey ho. 'Tis the world we live in I guess.

Thanks again all for your help and advice

~Froom~