Real life MMD: She dumped my son - should I make her pay for the holiday

johannalf88

If I was made to pay for it I would go on the holiday! :rotfl:

Thegirl

Transfer the ticket into one of his mate's names and take them instead? Get a refund on the tax and see if you can get the air miles back? That would be where i would be trying to head as a solution. Not asking her for the money.
It's better she dumped him before you all went than either on the holiday and ruin it for everyone or as soon as you got back!

Surfer

There is no issue as taxes can be claimed back! However if you had paid for the airfare it would be a different story.

nph0en1x

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nutty_girl_2001 wrote: »

Whether it was real money or air miles, you earned them, and she asked you pay for her via those air miles, rather than her contribute cash (that is assuming she wanted to go!)

I would therefore say you should ask for whatever the economy ticket would have cost AT THE TIME YOU BOOKED THE TICKETS, and try and see if your soon has a friend who'd like to go in her place. He sounds like he could do with a break :S

If you paid with airmiles and do not go you can claim the tax back for the flight thats not been taken but you would lose the airmiles unles you took out the airmiles insurance when you booked.

Phlogiston

Like joannie said, how would you make her pay?

jackschampion

No. You can't ask for the money back as you were prepared to pay for her at the time. You could try to transfer the ticket to another name so that your son could take a friend and perhaps ask her if she would be kind enough to pay towards this OR the airline may refund or part refund the ticket. Check with them.

tindella

You weren't expecting her to pay when she was his girlfriend. Just because she no longer is doesn't change the financial arrangements.

I'd be more concerned about my son than a holiday. Is he OK with it? He needs your support more than you need her money.

Perhaps someone else would like the holiday and would pay the expenses. You don't say when you are going - is there time to invite someone else to join you? If he takes a friend he might have more fun in the end!

Beetlemama

My overall feeling is the same - you can't make her pay, but have you already been or are you yet to go? if you're yet to go, surely you could take someone else along instead rather than waste the ticket? and if you have already been, how long was it between the holiday and the dumping? If you came back on Sunday and she dumped him on Tuesday, then it might have been the holiday that sealed the relationships fate, if you came back a few weeks ago and she's ditched him now, then maybe she was holding out for the holiday...either way, you invited her as a paid guest and you paid, that's the end of it for me, I'd feel bad too, but then again, we've all done things we've regretted.

Hopefully, if you've already been, you have taken lots of pictures without her in them so he still has a record of his holiday without having to see his ex every time.

rhobtaylor

It would probably cause more hassle/pain to charge the money back. It might be the difference between them working the issues out, being friends or a lifelong grudge.

For those saying let the friend go, that is one way, alternatively let 3 of his friends go and pay you... A "lads holiday" would help him get over the split better than sitting with mum and dad might.

Augustus_the_Strong

Ask her if you like, but chances are you won't get anything, unless she can claim it on her travel insurance. As someone suggested, if the cost is all taxes (vast amount -wouldn't it just have been cheaper to buy the tickets?) maybe they can be claimed back. Or bring someone else along - that would be nice.