Cheap wedding

Mojisola

lou0207 wrote: »

I totally agree with this but seem to keep putting it off we want our big day

Do you want the "big day" or to get married?

If you want to get married, it's easy to do it really cheaply.

If you want the big wedding, it will cost.

If you want both, why not get married very cheaply now and start saving for the "do" on an anniversary - 1st, 5th, whatever seems suitable.

Brighton_belle

lou0207 wrote: »

Thanks Brighton bell we dont want to put it off any longer just posted on the hope that we are not the only ones on a budget and that we may get some feed back

You'll get loads of great advice from the wedding board - plenty of people on tight budgets getting the wedidng they want. It's under the occasions and special events board (click on the arrow next to 'Forums'.
Good luck and have fun working it all out:D

Brighton_belle

Mojisola wrote: »

Do you want the "big day" or to get married?

If you want to get married, it's easy to do it really cheaply.

If you want the big wedding, it will cost.

If you want both, why not get married very cheaply now and start saving for the "do" on an anniversary - 1st, 5th, whatever seems suitable.

I think there can be a middle way - get married and have a bit of a do, just not a mega plush one. We would not have enjoyed just us and our parent (delightful as they are we did need more of those most close to us there). We just kept it very simple, and 3 hrs long, not all day.

ognum

Do you want to be married or do you want a wedding?

My niece and her now husband decided they wanted to be married and were not concerned about the big wedding.

In four weeks they arranged to get married at Westminster Registry Office, London bus for all including them back to the reception at the Dorchester, 5star London hotel, delicious sit down meal for 50. very gentle relaxed wedding, no cake as the hotel would only accept it made by caterer, no one noticed. No formal photographer but my daughter who is a talented amateur did fab pics.
Total cost £3.5k, best wedding I have been to.

Mojisola

Brighton_belle wrote: »

I think there can be a middle way - get married and have a bit of a do, just not a mega plush one. We would not have enjoyed just us and our parent (delightful as they are we did need more of those most close to us there). We just kept it very simple, and 3 hrs long, not all day.

There's a whole spectrum that you can find your place along. It depends which is the most important thing to you.

We did a morning wedding and an afternoon garden party - not expensive but a lovely gathering. I made my own dress, my BM bought something she chose (and knew she would wear again) and the men wore suits they already had. Our emphasis was the wedding ceremony and sharing time with our family and friends rather than having a glamourous day.

Brighton_belle

Mojisola wrote: »

There's a whole spectrum that you can find your place along. It depends which is the most important thing to you.

We did a morning wedding and an afternoon garden party - not expensive but a lovely gathering. I made my own dress, my BM bought something she chose (and knew she would wear again) and the men wore suits they already had. Our emphasis was the wedding ceremony and sharing time with our family and friends rather than having a glamourous day.

Yes, we are singing from the same hymn sheet Mojisola - that's exactly how our day was too. And so stress free.

LandyAndy

We got married in 1999.

Wedding and reception and honeymoon cost a total of £1000 and £500 of that went on clothes for MrsLA and our two sons.

A friend drove us from our house to the registry office in his open car and from there to the reception.

Reception for just under 30 people was at the local pub in a private room.

Honeymoon was a weekend in a hotel in Chester while my parents minded the kids.

Perfect.

lou0207

Mojisola wrote: »

Do you want the "big day" or to get married?

If you want to get married, it's easy to do it really cheaply.

If you want the big wedding, it will cost.

If you want both, why not get married very cheaply now and start saving for the "do" on an anniversary - 1st, 5th, whatever seems suitable.

dont mean big day as in big day it will be a big day to us no matter the size quantity etc we have a minimum of 30 people we would want and require to attent the full day which obv makes it more expernsive than if there was only say 10 attending and we know this and dont mind

Mojisola

lou0207 wrote: »

dont mean big day as in big day it will be a big day to us no matter the size quantity etc we have a minimum of 30 people we would want and require to attent the full day which obv makes it more expernsive than if there was only say 10 attending and we know this and dont mind

With that attitude, I'm sure you'll have a great time!

I see you've found the Weddings board. Do read through some of the other threads on there - there's lots of advice about how to do things well but cheaply.

masonsmum

Hi Lou, Im also from Ayrshire and Im getting married next year at Enterkine House Hotel, if you really want to do it cheap and soon I would seriously consider having a registery office then having the reception in a town hall/community center with a private caterer, where in Ayrshire are you? If you really want a hotel they dont come cheap unless you book midweek and even at that its still quite a cost. My bill for my venue is coming in at £37 per head for dinner and thats before wine/ceremony/evening buffet etc all added on in total I think we approx £4k for dinner for 60 and an evening reception for 200, we originally tried to stick to a £5K budget but its way over £8K now x