Bristol Mother Suckers

cannyscot_2

I breast fed all mine in all sorts of places . I even once breastfed my child at a work meeting directly in front of my single middleaged Boss. No-one ever said anything and 95% of the time no-one had any idea I was doing it. I never asked permission I just found a table which wasnt exposed and wore a top I could pull up. My eldest is 17 now so I have probably breasted for about 8 years of the last 17.

My sister is now feeding her first and does make much more of a song and dance of it.

SqueekyMouse

kno wrote: »

Surely your nearly one year old child should be feeding themselves via bottle?

Ah, I see, you want me to pay for bottles, a steriliser, a breast pump and spend 45 minutes at a time expressing milk so that I am able to leave my house and feed my child when she is asking for milk rather than solid food which, I may add, she feeds herself with using a fork better than I have seem many adults do.

You want me to do all of this, so that I don't offend you. Hardly MSE, is it!?

sausageface

There are some crazy views on here!

Babies who are breastfed need breasts to feed from. Why should you be able to eat your lunch in a cafe but not a breastfed baby? I don't know anyone who who has got everything out whilst feeding - when mine were babies there was times where I thought I wish I had wore a more accessible top in hindsight but there are ways of doing things.

Even if they did - they are just breasts! I see many more men taking their tops off at the first sign of hot weather and walking around with EVERYTHING hanging out than I do breastfeeding mums. It's peoples' own personal hangups not the actual breastfeeding that is the problem.

I am sorry for the ladies who have bottle fed and have come across militant breastfeeders who they feel have put them down because of their choice of feeding but to think that a woman who is breastfeeding is "rubbing the bottle feeding mums' noses in it" (to quote a person above, sorry I can't remember who it is) is just crazy talk! Babies get fed because they are hungry via breast, bottle or whatever, no other reason I'm afraid.

SqueekyMouse

lazer wrote: »

I completely agree - it is also completely natural to pee - but illegal to do it in public (as well as other "natural activities")

If you cannot tell the difference between food and waste products, you should come over to my house for dinner and we'll have a mystery meal...
:eek:

SqueekyMouse

dizziblonde wrote: »

I will support their cause...

WHEN

They ALSO support the cause of the formula feeding mothers for whom it seems to be perfectly acceptable to dish out harrassment and abuse toward them if THEY feed in public, or even MENTION that they formula feed, and when they stop rushing to formula feeding communities to berrate, guilt and mock the women on them... and when they stop and listen to some of OUR stories that led us to where we are - instead of just slapping us down as "not trying hard enough"

Until then - no I will not support them - because myself, and many other women, are bullied, harassed and abused in the name of "breast is best."

I'm so sorry that you've been treated like this. No mother should be made to feel this way regardless of how we choose (or are put in a position where that choice is removed from us) to feed our babies.

All mothers want to do the best for their babies and they should be supported to do whatever is right for them and the situation they find themselves in.

onlyroz

Norma_Desmond wrote: »

I wouldn't dream of picking my nose, belching or farting in a restaurant and I don't expect mothers to breastfeed in one.

You're comparing breastfeeding to belching or farting? :eek:
You go into the cafe to eat, so why can't the baby eat there too? Or perhaps you think that mum should hide in the toilet along with other people performing "natural bodily functions"?

onlyroz

AFiancee wrote: »

The cafe did not refuse to serve her or ask her to stop breastfeeding though did they?

"Provide service on different terms". E.g. you're breastfeeding so sit in the corner. Not so different from making the black people sit in a different part of the bus.

onlyroz

kno wrote: »

And there is evidence that contradicts this.

Breast feeding your one year old and toddlers is just halting their development. Children should be feeding themselves independently of their Mother at that age.

Maybe it's because the Woman defines herself by breast feeding, you know the ones who harp on that breast is best, bottle feeding is inferior etc and doesn't want to let go.

Some references please? I seem to remember on another thread that worldwide people are breastfed, on average, until age 4.

BlueAngelCV

I know this is an unpopular opinion but I'm not a fan of breastfeeding in public. I think it's a private thing. However, I don't have children so perhaps my opinion will change.

I also recognise that whilst I might not like something or it may make me uncomfortable the law is what it is and should be followed.

And please let's not make this into another attack on bottle feeding.

Welshwoofs

Well I'm female and frankly I'd find it rather stomach turning to have a baby slurping away at someone's t-it whilst I'm trying to eat.