Bristol Mother Suckers

heretolearn_2

It sounds like that cafe owner behaved really awfully, but I can also see why she was annoyed by someone doing their best to put off other people from using the business. Doesn't excuse the abuse in any way of course.

Good luck with their sit-in!

BUT
I think there is breastfeeding, and there is breastfeeding. While I don't think women should have to hide away, it is only polite to be a bit discrete about it. there are some breastfeeders who literally whap their entire bare breasts out, and honestly, I don't want to see your breast at any other time and breastfeeding isn't an excuse for public nudity. It embarrasses me. Women don't feel the need to plonk their boob out on public display at other times unless they are a bit weird, so why then. I can't help feeling they are being rather exhibitionist.

I know 2 friends who do this and I hate it. I DONT want to see your breast, thank you.

It's not necessary at all. You can feed perfectly well in a normal way without even using a shawl, without flashing your all to everyone. don't take the child off the breast and sit there chatting away with your tit hanging out in full view. There are cultures where it's normal to walk around bare breasted all day. fine. It isn't normal here. Especially don't make me have a conversation with you while your 3 year old toddler isn't even feeding just sitting there playing with your huge nipple as a toy and it makes me start to wonder exactly what the hell is going on with this! don't wear a V-neck top and then whap your entire bare breast out through the neckhole and just leave it dangling there with the baby sometimes on and sometimes off. Like when you are burping him. and breast is still hanging out.

(Ps I breast fed for 11 months including on the bus, in shopping centres, in cafes. I didn't use a blanket/shawl often. But I chose my clothes so that I could feed without whapping the whole lot out on display. It's not hard. anyone 'flashing' is doing it on purpose, and that's a bit weird. there's something going on there beyond a simple need to feed a child).

Mara69

SqueekyMouse wrote: »

Troll??????

Because they disagree? Or because they are clearly not very literate? Or both?

Personally, I think that any woman should be able to breastfeed wherever she likes. I would appreciate it, however, if she would be somewhat dignified and discrete. Not everyone finds it endearing - some will stare and others will feel uncomfortable.

If however, you are feeling militant and want to flop out your boob in the window of Starbucks, then don't moan at anyone that does stare.

GracieP

AFiancee wrote: »

The cafe did not refuse to serve her or ask her to stop breastfeeding though did they?

They aren't allowed to ask her to move as that equates 'providing a service under different terms.' The law is really clear on this. If you don't want a woman breastfeeding in your caf!, or in certain parts of your caf!, then don't open a caf!.

kno

SqueekyMouse wrote: »

My 11 month old would love having a shawl draped over her, she'd have a lovely game of peek-a-boo. Wouldn't result in the most discreet breastfeed ever though!

Come off it people. Breastfeeding is normal, its the reason woman have breasts. We really should be able to see it happening without feeling uncomfortable. Draping a shall or blanket over herself and her baby is the woman's choice of course, she certainly shouldn't be *expected* to, but it still suggests that the act of feeding in public is immodest or embarrassing or taboo when it is actually PERFECTLY NORMAL!!!

Surely your nearly one year old child should be feeding themselves via bottle?

GracieP

kno wrote: »

Surely your nearly one year old child should be feeding themselves via bottle?

Not according to the World Health Organisation, no.

dizziblonde

I will support their cause...

WHEN

They ALSO support the cause of the formula feeding mothers for whom it seems to be perfectly acceptable to dish out harrassment and abuse toward them if THEY feed in public, or even MENTION that they formula feed, and when they stop rushing to formula feeding communities to berrate, guilt and mock the women on them... and when they stop and listen to some of OUR stories that led us to where we are - instead of just slapping us down as "not trying hard enough"

Until then - no I will not support them - because myself, and many other women, are bullied, harassed and abused in the name of "breast is best."

kno

GracieP wrote: »

Not according to the World Health Organisation, no.

And there is evidence that contradicts this.

Breast feeding your one year old and toddlers is just halting their development. Children should be feeding themselves independently of their Mother at that age.

Maybe it's because the Woman defines herself by breast feeding, you know the ones who harp on that breast is best, bottle feeding is inferior etc and doesn't want to let go.

Tiddlywinks

Breadfeed yes, no problem...

Breastfeed in a public place with it all hanging out - no thanks, it's unnecessary and imposing yourself on others.

Why do some seem to feel that producing a child gives them an absolute right to do as they wish, when they wish and s0d everyone else?

It's the same as the parents that let their children run around in cafes screaming and weaving in and out of the tables and then say 'he's only little' when anyone complains.

There's a time, a place and a sense of dignity - that's all I ask.

photome

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

Breadfeed yes, no problem...

Breastfeed in a public place with it all hanging out - no thanks, it's unnecessary and imposing yourself on others.

Why do some seem to feel that producing a child gives them an absolute right to do as they wish, when they wish and s0d everyone else?

It's the same as the parents that let their children run around in cafes screaming and weaving in and out of the tables and then say 'he's only little' when anyone complains.

There's a time, a place and a sense of dignity - that's all I ask.

breastfeeding in public and letting kids run riot!

Where did you get that analagy from? they are not even close

There are some strange people in todays society who think bfeeding in a public place is wrong

Bitsy_Beans

dizziblonde wrote: »

I will support their cause...

WHEN

They ALSO support the cause of the formula feeding mothers for whom it seems to be perfectly acceptable to dish out harrassment and abuse toward them if THEY feed in public, or even MENTION that they formula feed, and when they stop rushing to formula feeding communities to berrate, guilt and mock the women on them... and when they stop and listen to some of OUR stories that led us to where we are - instead of just slapping us down as "not trying hard enough"

Until then - no I will not support them - because myself, and many other women, are bullied, harassed and abused in the name of "breast is best."

After having my first child I geared myself up for all sorts of abuse, snide remarks and never had a dicky bird. And shock horror I didn't even want to try and BF. the only aggro I've ever seen is via Internet forums :rotfl:

Personally I find it amusing that people are offended by a baby feeding and yet come hot weather will happily accept women in vast array of skimpy clothing which leaves little to the imagination as acceptable and non offensive :rotfl: