How much money will I lose when partner moves in?

vonbear

My friends and family are being very supportive! I was surprised, but they think we are compatible and have said that if being married means we're happy then do it.

sleepless_saver

vonbear wrote: »

Edit. @Thomas the Tank Top and @dognobs Wow. That's incredibly judgemental, and it seems you must be the sort of people who think that everyone not working's automatically a scrounger.

Spot on. Have a look at their other posts then check out the Ignore option. Don't take it personally.

vonbear

Yep, that's not great to be so narrow minded and I just would like it if people educated themselves on disability as I'm sure these 2 read why I get DLA and because I'm not in a wheelchair they probably got confused.

I do think that a lot of benefits are ridiculous and they make it easier for people to not work, especially if you haven't got a degree or any skill that gets you a job above minimum wage. But if you're working in ASDA, David Cameron probably thinks you're still scum and won't be helping you if it all goes tits up.

sunnyone

darlyd wrote: »

Why are you declaring he is living with you now if he has to go back to OZ? What guarantees do you have he will send you money for the bills etc?

Bit concerned for you is all, I have bp and I know how vulnerable I can be sometimes.

Have you read the thread?

She should have declared he was living their 11 months ago!

vonbear

We've been together that long but he wasn't living with me! He's been in another town most of the time! The authorities didn't meed to know I had a boyfriend, did they? He was never living with me, just visiting. Housing benefit people said today that was never a problem! Staying a weekend and paying rent elsewhere is not living with me.

sunnyone

vonbear wrote: »

We've been together that long but he wasn't living with me! He's been in another town most of the time! The authorities didn't meed to know I had a boyfriend, did they? He was never living with me, just visiting. Housing benefit people said today that was never a problem! Staying a weekend and paying rent elsewhere is not living with me.

He hasnt been maintaining his own household and has been having post delivered to your address so you have been very lucky not to have been dragged in for an interview under caution for commiting benefit fraud!

You even admit in post 5 that you thought it "wasnt a hugely farudulently thing to do" for him to stay with you so many days per week so its to late now to claim innocence.

sunnyone

vonbear wrote: »

@skintandscared When we met, he was living in a room over the other side of London, then I said he could stay with me when he had to move out and he stayed for a couple of weeks, then he moved to Cornwall for work.
So, he's not actually lived with me for the whole time, I'm just saying that he's been here on/off and now I want him to move in and make it official.
He doesn't pay towards bills, but pays for food when he's here. He does get some letters sent here though.

His visa means he has permission to work, but it's the one visa you can't extend (Tier 5 Mobility) so he would have to be married to me or living with me for 2 years to stay here as my partner.
If we get married very soon and apply for further leave to remain, he could keep his job as he's doing very well there. He's Australian, has worked here since he got here and so it seems pretty straightforward, unless they want to know why we've not lived together....
It's all a bit of a muddle. I was told he could stay here for so many nights a week and thought that wasn't a hugely fraudulent thing to do and wouldn't affect my housing benefits. He doesn't have a permanent residence either way.

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princessdon

End of the day - you can't get a bank account/credit card without a permanent residence (if the bank account has credit facilities). If he used your address you are tied to that date.

There is a serious chance they would intperet this as living together - and I don't see how OP can prove otherwise unless he has an alternative address with bills as proof that outweighs the bills to her home.

I am also going to sound very old fashioned and I am true romantic but I really hope OP isn't being taken for a ride. Boyfriend/but won't live with her, lives and travells around, surfing where ever, sleeping on other people couches and OP is due to come into money. I genuinely hope this isn't the case.

When is your money clear? Is it is YOUR bank account or a trustee's (will it come through in time?)

vonbear

Right, I get that to some it will look like we've lived together all this time, but we haven't AT ALL.
The housing benefit and income support people seem satisfied with the time-line of where he's lived and I told them I'd let him use my address recently, so if we get investigated, they have all the information and the evidence is there if need be. We will just have to deal with that if they decide it's not good enough, but my CPN seems very confident that he'll back us up as he knows the circumstances.
I know it's not ideal, but the reason he never lived with me from the start is because I didn't want him here until I felt certain there was a future for us. Having someone actually live in my home that I've made my safe haven is a huge deal for me.

He actually doesn't know how much money I'm getting or when, so right now all he knows is that he now has to pay rent here and support both of us on his wage. He's panicked a bit since he isn't earning enough when this new ruling comes in, but he may well be sponsored by his boss to guarantee the job.
I've met his family who flew over recently just to meet me. My aim was always to get well enough to work and be 'normal' some day, and it's just not happened as soon as I hoped. Assuming I do get well enough to work, I wouldn't feel comfortable still getting DLA, aside from the physical problems, but having DLA for that means there is a recognition for my ill health.

But I don't feel we have to rush into things right now because he will have to apply for any visa to stay here from Australia, be it a visitor, fianc!, or spouse visa.

Apparently the money from Mum's house is in the trustee's account right now and it's not clear exactly how much I will get or when. Could take months. It's around £30,000 once it's divided up, but in the meantime, I've got nothing other than DLA coming in.

I don't think he's taking me for a ride because of what I know, but I feel he is giving up a lot to be with me.

So, how much is the minimum amount of money you would expect to live a normal life on? How is it that I'm being judged when I read about others living separately from people they are actually married to so they are better off?
I do appreciate people's concerns though, but although I am mentally ill, I think/hope I've got savvy in all these years!

Bollotom

On the point of Housing Benefit/Council Tax benefit. The LA will want to see his financial circumstances so will ask for around the past 2 months statements. Don't forget you will lose single occupancy discount re council tax and his salary will be counted when means testing certain benefits. I have a friend who also has to return to Oz, boyfriend from Estonia. He got a visa for Oz and she is going to return with him. I hope you get the result you want but be careful and think things through. Someone said "Love is blind" so is justice. :-) :cool: