How much money will I lose when partner moves in?

vonbear

Thank you for the link! I gave them a call and realised I'd spoken to them before, but they were able to point me in the right direction this time. Phew! We just have to apply for the spouse visa in Australia, which is ok because I was going to visit with him anyway, but it just depends on how long it will take from over there and whether he will have a job to go back to.
I'm still convinced we will be fine, but it's just a bit of added stress. I think if we can get someone to sponsor him it won't be a problem

Dognobs

The good old "we are not a couple" line! And a panic now they have to pay for themselfs!

Thomas_The_Tank_Top

Fancy that. On DLA, but it doesn't stop you flying to Aus.

Can't work though eh?

Pollycat

Thomas_The_Tank_Top wrote: »

Fancy that. On DLA, but it doesn't stop you flying to Aus.

Can't work though eh?

Can you post a link to the post where the OP says she is flying to Australia?

I can only find this mention:

vonbear wrote: »

I've tried my local CAB and it was impossible to get an appointment due to lack of volunteers. I'm fairly sure he's not just in it for a green card! His family have been trying to convince me to go over there and if we live together for 2 years we could apply for an unmarried couples visa, but I've got a cat and been offered therapy after being on the waiting list for 2 years.

Our only other option is much more pricey and complicated, you see. If we did long distance, that's quite a lot to go to Oz and back for both of us. He would go back home and apply for a fiance visa and live here for 6 months and THEN marry within that time. But he would not be able to work until we got married.

Have you considered that her partner's family may be willing to pay for the flight?

Or maybe she could be considering using some of her inheritance from her Mum to pay for the flight.

vonbear wrote: »

NOW, I've just realised that since the sale of my late Mum's house went through, very soon I'm set to receive about 30,000 or more SO I would lose my income support anyway!! I totally did not think about it because the money hasn't been given to me yet.
Do you think if I had that as an income that would work out OK? We could live off that and his income for a while, surely!

Have you considered that the OP may have a genuine disability that doesn't preclude her from flying?
She mentions she gets IS for 'incapacity' but nothing more specific.

LunaLady

I have to agree with Polly on this one - you have no idea why she is receiving DLA.

My DS receives HRC and LRM and we have flown several times (in fact he loves it!)

vonbear

Edit. @Thomas the Tank Top and @dognobs Wow. That's incredibly judgemental, and it seems you must be the sort of people who think that everyone not working's automatically a scrounger.

I get DLA because I have bipolar disorder, post traumatic stress, anxiety and I have a condition in my legs which means I am in constant pain and can't sit in certain positions or in confined spaces. Sometimes I cannot physically get out of bed. I'm on medication that makes me drowsy and with a rubbish short term memory. It's no life and I often feel useless because I don't have a job and I don't get to socialise normally, not least because of people who judge me- 'you don't LOOK ill'.
I've also been incredibly unstable since my Mum died, so I rely on my CPN and boyfriend.
I've spent all these years in various therapies and on all the medications.
I wanted to go back to work years ago, but because I have a thing called depersonalisation/derealisation, regardless of the medication, the Jobcentre said it wouldn't be good to put me in a job where I could cause an accident or injury to someone or myself.
I want to work though, because I'm getting to a point where I'm not feeling worth much any more, but as I had to leave my degree because I was too ill and the university were far from understanding, I've got no skills. I started an Open Uni degree before my Mum died, but then took a break after that and now I won't be able to afford to do that either.
Since meeting my boyfriend, I've had a bit more of a life, and I felt that planning a future with him might be beneficial for my mental health.
I have constant contact with the CMHT and my CPN said a holiday could be therapeutic for me.
When I said it would be quite a lot to go to Oz for long distance, I meant that I'd NEVER be able to do that on my own, both financially and physically!
He actually was going to pay for my flight over there when I go with him, but since I'm set to receive money from the sale of the house I can afford to pay for it.
So, either way I would have been having to declare and come off Income Support, and I'm hoping that somehow I'll be able to convince someone to employ me part-time.

I'm not entirely sure about this 'we are not a couple' line. Was I not allowed to have a boyfriend and should have had him move in immediately after meeting him? He's Australian, so he does the whole couch surfing thing with his friends so he can see England and we didn't want to move in together just yet, not least because he didn't have a job for a few months and couldn't afford to support me. He's moved in with me now, I've declared it.
Now that he has to leave the country before applying for a visa, it means we have to somehow guarantee we can live off so little money until he finds a job again.

I can't believe some people are so judgemental without knowing the facts.
If someone gets DLA they usually get it for a reason. You would have to be a complete sociopath to be able to get doctors to confirm your illness. They don't make it easy to get, so I'm not sure how people can scrounge it.
My initial post was merely to ask how much we'd lose so we can budget and work out how much we will need to live off, for goodness sake.

Darlyd

Why are you declaring he is living with you now if he has to go back to OZ? What guarantees do you have he will send you money for the bills etc?

Bit concerned for you is all, I have bp and I know how vulnerable I can be sometimes.

vonbear

Well, we were under the impression once we got married he could switch visas, but I found out today we cannot on his visa. We planned to go to Oz when we were settled, and we knew that it would look like a sham marriage if we weren't at least living together for a while before getting married.
Thanks to these immigration lawyers we've been misinformed. They tell us so many different things but are never available for an appointment.

I don't want to be apart from him so will have to go to Oz with him, so the bills will have to just be paid. I'm hoping by then that I will get the money from the house so if that stays in the account we can pay bills from that. The estate is sat in a bank account now, but some debts need to be paid out of it first. Whether or not that will be enough to convince the UKBA we can live off it is not known!

Darlyd

Just be careful.

Hope you have your family and friends support too.

Love can be blind.

vonbear

Thank you. I know love can be blind, but I've thought about all that could go wrong and if we just broke up when his visa was up, we'd both be wondering what if, and I'd be an absolute wreck. If we were youngsters, then it would certainly be a bad idea, but we've both got a couple of long term relationships under our belts and know that nothing is ever certain. If it all goes horribly wrong, well, there's not much we can do to stop that. It's just a bit of a struggle getting my head around the paperwork, but I just spoke to the benefits people and my housing association and they said him staying on/off wasn't a problem. They've also put on my account the circumstances, so that's reassuring.
I'm still a bit worried that I let him put my address down when he was at the bank, but it was a slap-dash decision, and I suppose if they deem it fraud and want the money back we'll fight it or just have to pay it.